I think my boyfriend might be gay

[Jessica]

Hi, i'm scared that my boyfriend might be gay. we've been together for 6 months now but i have always had this thought in the back of my head. He'll be all over me in public but not so much when were alone. like sometimes he tries to take off my shirt and stuff in front of our friends but when we hang out together he hardly touches me. some other things that kind of make me suspicious are: he crosses his legs a lot!!, he has more clothes than me and takes like 2 hours to get ready to go out!!!, he has some gay friends and always asks me if I'm bi, and i am the one who always has to initiate anything sexual.

we're both 17 and all my friends say that he might be too. I'm only worried because I love him and I don't want to get hurt. He told me he loves me. And by hurt I mean hes just using me as a cover up. What do you think? I mean I'd accept if hes bi I just don't want to be used. also whenever we have sex, which is no that much and doesnt last very long and its kinda weak. like my last boyfriend and me would have really hot sex. so what should i do???

[Jimbob]

Ask him?

[Nintendus]

As far as I am concerned you are in a rather difficult sitaution. You might be completely wrong about this (I mean some of the reasons you give are pretty poor, I quite often cross my legs, and lots of men like to dress up), in which case you run the risk of insulting or upsetting him. Or he might not be sure about it himself, which means either way you should tread with definitive caution. Maybe you should be subtle about how you bring it into the conversation, instead of just blurting the question out. Good luck.

[Sponge'K'nob]

Yeah I agree with these two. You should ask him..but try not to hurt his feelings whilst you do that ;)

[Pearson]

If he is, dont go off on one, it'l be a lot harder for him than you. So dont make out like your the victim and that he's used you....probably wont make the situation any easier. Try and be a bit understanding.

[Leon]

As far as I am concerned you are in a rather difficult sitaution. You might be completely wrong about this (I mean some of the reasons you give are pretty poorI agree, the reasons you give aren't exactly convincing.


like sometimes he tries to take off my shirt and stuff in front of our friends but when we hang out together he hardly touches me.He might just feel insecure about some things, this could be easily explained

he crosses his legs a lot!!Some men do

he has more clothes than meAnd?!?!

takes like 2 hours to get ready to go out!!! I know straight guys that take 30 minutes doing their hair alone, never mind anything else


I also completely agree with Pearson on this one


If he is, dont go off on one, it'l be a lot harder for him than you. So dont make out like your the victim and that he's used you....probably wont make the situation any easier. Try and be a bit understanding.

[OMFGIDC]

he crosses his legs a lot!!, he has more clothes than me and takes like 2 hours to get ready to go out!!!, he has some gay friends

I really don't think these things make a person gay.

[Bob!]

True.

See if he shows anything from giving subtle hints, if not then just forget about it and not let it bother ya, that way if there is anything to tell, he'd probably be ok with teelling ya it by knowing you'd be more comfortable.

[Jessica]

Thanks for your opinions everyone, but maybe i didnt give you enough information. not only does he do the things that i arleady mentioned, but he likes to pretend he's gay sometimes. it's weird. like sometiems he'll grab his friends' butts or take their shirts off too. maybe i'm just overreacting but i just dont know what to think anymore. the main thing for me is the sex. it lasts only a few minutes and he's not very in to it. i always have to ask him if he wants to have sex and he'll say thats he's too tired?!!!? like, what 17 year old guy doesnt want to have sex? maybe im just paranoid? and what do u mean "dont act like ur the victim"? umm i have been with him for 6 months and i luv him! it would break my heart if hes having sex with guys while dating me.

[Nintendus]

Thanks for your opinions everyone, but maybe i didnt give you enough information. not only does he do the things that i arleady mentioned, but he likes to pretend he's gay sometimes. it's weird. like sometiems he'll grab his friends' butts or take their shirts off too. maybe i'm just overreacting but i just dont know what to think anymore.
Still doesn't neccessarily denote homosexuality in my opinion, just eccentricity :P.


what 17 year old guy doesnt want to have sex?
I'm not that into sex to be honest. I just don't see it as that important, and certainly not something I would want to get into untill I am far into a relationship I am comfortabe in. Just make sure you don't pressure him.


and what do u mean "dont act like ur the victim"? umm i have been with him for 6 months and i luv him! it would break my heart if hes having sex with guys while dating me.
So you're now accusing of him of being gay and infedelity, none of your posts even hint that he is having sex with another guy.

Think about it, and if you are entireley sure then discuss it with him. But gently for the reasons I stated earlier.

[OMFGIDC]

Thanks for your opinions everyone, but maybe i didnt give you enough information. not only does he do the things that i arleady mentioned, but he likes to pretend he's gay sometimes. it's weird. like sometiems he'll grab his friends' butts or take their shirts off too. maybe i'm just overreacting but i just dont know what to think anymore. the main thing for me is the sex. it lasts only a few minutes and he's not very in to it. i always have to ask him if he wants to have sex and he'll say thats he's too tired?!!!? like, what 17 year old guy doesnt want to have sex? maybe im just paranoid? and what do u mean "dont act like ur the victim"? umm i have been with him for 6 months and i luv him! it would break my heart if hes having sex with guys while dating me.
A lot of straight guys act gay.
One who's confident in their sexuality has no trouble pretending to be gay.

That said, it also could be because he's gay.
Ask him?

[Will]

Why are you all trying to get her to stay with some gay loser who can't even give her a good seeing to?

[Leon]

I agree with Nintendus, i still don't see a clear reason that would make him gay



the main thing for me is the sex. it lasts only a few minutes and he's not very in to it. i always have to ask him if he wants to have sex and he'll say thats he's too tired?!!!? like, what 17 year old guy doesnt want to have sex? maybe im just paranoid?

You might want to know that some lads don't like sex on a regular basis, we aren't all sex mad as you might think

[HaLeE]

Juss sit him down and ask him.
Tell him how you feel.
♥♥♥

[Bob!]

Why are you all trying to get her to stay with some gay loser who can't even give her a good seeing to?

Because he's her boyfriend and she loves him which is the man focus, also if ya dump someone at the slightest notion of a problem without even attempting to get through it, wheras she is doing, then ya won't find yaself with people for long.

Problems arise in relationships, its dealin with em that counts.

[Brunette]

True.

See if he shows anything from giving subtle hints, if not then just forget about it and not let it bother ya, that way if there is anything to tell, he'd probably be ok with teelling ya it by knowing you'd be more comfortable.

i agreeee

[OMFGIDC]

Why are you all trying to get her to stay with some gay loser who can't even give her a good seeing to?Wow.

[Shane]

Why are you all trying to get her to stay with some gay loser who can't even give her a good seeing to?
+ Repuation purely for the comical genious.

[Darts]

Erm.............................. nah I wouldnt touch this thread with a shitty stick. Cya!

[Menace]

Hmm, he's mental?

[09lawsons]

just grow some balls and ask him dame i would

[Menace]

If she was to grow some balls she would want him to be gay, no? :confused:

:D