I need some advice...

[snR]

Hello guys,

I'm in need of a bit of help. The thing is I like this girl named Gina and I've liked her for around 5 months now; I've told her how I felt about her and she say that she felt the same way. But as we got to know each other I think I've fallen in love with her. We've spoken about past relationships and other things along them lines but what is really hard is that her last relationship was about 2-3 years ago and she’s still 'upset' about it now, her friends have told her to let it slide and move on but she still thinks about it.

I mean she has said to me that I'm the nicest person to have ever been interested in her, I'm always doing things for her and making her feel happy with a massive smile on her face even when she is upset but I've really fallen for her. She has said that she doesn't like me in that way but I really like her; now I would of accepted that a few months ago but where we've moved on and have really got to know each other I feel that it's too late to be 'just friends'... I mean she is the most beautiful girl that I've ever met she's so kind and caring... And I really want her to be a part of my life.

Yesterday we spent the day together as 'just friends' but I got her a valentines card and a little teddy bear with a love heart and when I surprised her with that her face lit up and was like 'OMG :O' I felt quite happy then. She got me a card telling me how much of a good friend I am to her and I really liked it.

I was speaking to her sister and she even said to me, "you really like her don't you" I looked at her and was like "I don't like her, I think I love her" and her sister was like "Awww" and started saying about how Gina and her are alike in the relationship department, she told me that they are both really shy and look for the right qualities in someone and don't just throw themselves at any Tom Dick and Harry. She also said that she maybe trying to play hard to get but she said keep trying and don't give up!

I'm really not sure how it'll work but could anyone help me out here and give me a little advice?

Kind regards,
snR :hmmm:

[Sponge'K'nob]

First of all how old are you and this girl?

She has obviously been through a lot in the past regarding relationships.
You are there as a friend to her...and a pretty good one by the sounds of it!
You have told her how you feel, but she says she wants to stay friends with you, for now anyway.
Just drop hints, but don't push her, as her sister said, she looks for all good qualities in a guy, don't change yourself, be there for her =]
Good Luck!

[snR]

Aha your a diamond Kaye, that put a smile on my face, we're only 15/16 last year of school and that. I mean I've said to her look, I don't want to push you into anything you don't want to do; I'm not like that. I want you to make your decision as mines already on the table. But as I've been told I'm not going to stop but it's a little annoying because I've been in the 'lets just be mates' chair before watching a girl get hurt by these other boys and that and then she'd always come back to be for a shoulder to cry on... I don't like being in that chair it frustrated me. But anyway back on subject, Kay I'm going to just play it cool be myself and see what happens.
:)

[Sponge'K'nob]

Glad to be there to put a smile on your face!
Yeah just play it kool. You are only young.
Friends are for life =]
Give it time, keep in touch and don't give up, you never know what my happen!

[kristina_39]

agrees with everyone else.. give it time.. keep a level head on your shoulders... never give up... as maw would say.. keep your chin and head up and your hope high.. wish for the best... thats all you can do hun... if you love her like you say you do.. you will wait for her. im not sayin wait for her till you know like you 28-30"s but wait to see what happens.. who knows someone else might come along.. not saying that would be a good idea but you never know.. just stick it out and keep telling her how you feel and how much you love her, and it kills you to see her with other boys.. in time hopefully if she hears it enough it will sink in... hope everything goes well for ya kiddo!..

[snR]

Haha thanks for the support, I mean I think about her like nearly all the time it's unreal. But I will keep my head level with my chin up hope for the best and see what happens.
Thanks for the help guys :)

[kristina_39]

no problem hun... if you need anything else... pm me ill be more than glad to help ya out the best way i can! have fun!

[Sponge'K'nob]

No problem.
Hope to see you around the forum.
Anymore advice just ask..

[WynnItAll]

I can tell you easy that the one way to tell if she is interested, yet shy, is how she looks at you.

If she looks - stares- at you a lot, and then caught, perhaps looks away, she's interested.

I was hurt too, and that is basically the way girls tend to show they are interested.

Also, does she go out of her own way to talk to you? That's another sure sign.

Girls are really easy to break down and tell if they like you. It's all in how they look at you.

[Darts]

The most important thing to do if you love her enough is to not let go, don't wait a while then decide its no use and move on because in a 'lets-be-mates' situation there will come a time when she will realise. Maybe she loves you already but just doesnt think it's ideal yet, or maybe she's scared of hurting you.

So don't try and be perfect for her, let her know if you feel jealous lol, let her know when she would have competition, because that will give her funny feelings that will make her think whether or not she DOES love you after all!

It's the sad truth I'm afraid, we females are just sometimes programmed with these emotion triggers lol.

[snR]

Haha, going back to what wynn said yes I have caught her staring at me and also she isn't affraid to come and speak to me when I'm with my friends and vise versa. I know what you mean Darts when you say girls are programmed with them triggers LOL!

But yeah I won't stop, I really do love her and I just want her to come out of her shell leave the past behind her and at least 'try' it out.