Confused *help*

[darktragicendin]

I'm always worried about my boyfriend of almost 6 months cheating on me because not too long into the relationship he cheated on me(3 weeks or so) and i just worry that maybe he'll do it again even tho the first time he came out and told me and said hed never do it again and that he never ment it IDK can anyone tell me what they think about this? should i worry about that?:(

[Leon]

First of all, when you say he said it will never happen again and he didn't mean it, thats a very daft reason, you can't not mean for someone to cheat, it happens because the person is willing to cheat. And saying that it will never happen again...think about it he's not gonna say that it could happen again is he if he wants to keep you.

If he's done it before it is bound to play on your mind, and if he has done it before, then there's always the possibility he will do it again. However it all depends on your trust in him.
If you trust him then you will believe him, if not then maybe you shouldn't be dating him.


Fair enough the first time he cheated was after 3 weeks so this wouldn't really apply then, but if he truely loves you (which i think he should do after 6 months of dating) then he would never cheat on you or even consider it.

[Hilarylab]

You should dump him...(or did you already?) i agree with Leon...what he said didn't mean anything...

[tf_arl_90]

Three weeks isn't really that long into a relationship. Cheating isn't ever good, but I do believe people can change. If you were gonna dump him, it should have been then, not five or so months later after you've forgiven him.

It's a difficult situation because you want to trust him but you can't. Addressing this issue might make him resent the fact that you think he might cheat. But he brought that about himself. Just approach the situation carefully.

Trusting people is difficult for me personally, because I have a lot to put out there and I'm nervous about that being taken advantage of. So, I can understand where you're coming from, but I feel like only you will know whether or not you can trust him. I don't know him and I only know as much as you tell us.

But talk to him and be very clear about things. No beating around the bush, no holding back, just tell him exactly how you feel, and encourage him to do the same. Only then will you be able to tell where he really stands.

Good luck.

[Kerry]

I think he's a player if it was only 3 weeks in he'll do it again no matter what he says. He may not, but if he can't commit to you only 3 weeks in I think he'll do it again.

[skyeturtle]

if he cheated on u in the first place, u should have dumped him... and if he was a real boyfriend, you wouldn't have to worry about him doing anything like that!!!

[Innamorata]

This thread is depressing.

[God.]

But annoyingly close to heart.