Destiny
March 25th '07, 05:28 PM
Well, I know many people have questions.. and I'd thought I'd like to share some things.
How to get your crush to notice you
For guys to notice you:
Steps:
Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don't try to get a guy to look your way just because you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself. You don't want to lead someone on. You could end up in a very awkward or uncomfortable situation--see the Warnings below.
Get a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. It's a good idea to change things up once in a while, just because variety's the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye.
Smile (http://www.wikihow.com/Smile) and make eye contact. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. Unless it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring smile, letting them know that you're a happy and confident person who wants to enjoy life. The idea is to communicate that you're inviting their company.
Flirt (http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt). Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting (especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way.
Try to be around him often, such as sitting near him. Take interest in the activities he's interested in him, not just so that you can get near him but also so that you can get to know him better and so you can broaden your own horizons.
Talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. A good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question. Listen to him and don't interrupt him when he is talking. You could even compliment him or ask for help.
Make him feel special. There's got to be a reason that you want him to notice you, and that's because you noticed him first. Let him know--subtly--that you're interested in who he is, that you respect something about him, and that you sincerely want to get to know him better.
Be brave (http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Brave) and stand up for who you are, and what you believe in. Ultimately, this will catch the attention and respect of someone who is going to work well for you, even if it turns out not to be this guy.Tips for guys to notice you:
Be sure to have gum, breath mints, Listerine strips, etc. around in case you need to freshen up quickly, especially if you're hoping to start a conversation.
It's always a good idea to keep yourself well-groomed. While there are guys who get uncomfortable and intimidated if you're all dolled up, it never hurts to stick to a few hygiene basics: shower daily, brush your teeth regularly, use deodorant, keep your hair decent (not perfect, but decent), and take care of your skin. Better yet, stay healthy!
Speak your mind. You're not a drone, and any guy worth having will love it. Just don't scare them by going into a spiel. It's a turn-on to see a girl who loves her mind, not one who's bent on world domination. Likewise, don't get caught up in complaining (about yourself, others, your circumstances). Negativity pushes others away, and it lowers your self-esteem.
If you cannot relate to any of his interests, or even make a genuine effort to get into it, there will never be ground for a lasting relationship anyway. Dump your intentions now.
Being too straightforward might mean leaving him bored. One way to get someone's attention is to make him curious, and that means leaving him guessing to some degree.Warnings when guy notices you:
Be careful whose attention you're getting, and what kind of attention you're earning. Being noticed by a sleazy guy who'll pressure you to do things you don't want to do or a needy guy who'll cling to you and make you feel limited is something you can avoid by being wary.
You can't get everyone to notice you. Remember that guys come and go, so do not stress yourself if things do not work out in your favor. You are a normal, complete person all on your own, and you don't need a guy's attention to be happy.
Being too obsessive can do the opposite of what you want to achieve, pushing him farther away. If he just won't become attracted to you, leave it alone. Do not push it, or things might get ugly, and you'll earn a bad reputation.
How to get a girl to notice you
Steps:
Ask yourself if you really want to go after this girl. Don't think too much though. If you like her, give her a try.
Stop any bad habit that could cause her to not like you. Make sure you clean yourself regularly as well.
Talk to her. Whenever you see her, try to start a conversation. Don't get on her nerves, but don't worry about saying something stupid. She will probably laugh.
Try to establish a basic friendship. This can be done simply by talking to her. Once you are friends, then you can decide if you want to ask her out or not.
Shine at what you do best and use it to your advantage. For example, if you are smart, try to get all A's. If drawing is your talent, draw her a picture. If sports is your thing, be a star athlete. But, don't just do it for her. Do it for yourself too.
Tips
COMMUNICATION IS #1. If you can't talk to her or communicate with her, you will never have a chance with her.
Join clubs that she is in, especially if you share common interests.
Sit next to or near her at lunch and in class.
Be casual, cool and confident not needy and annoying.
Do NOT stalk a girl.
Compliment her about something original (not hair, outfit, eyes, or things she probably hears all the time.)
Learn to be a little charismatic! You want her to be attracted to your personality, not your achievements and your pay check.
Eye contact is good. Smiling is good. Just don't forget to talk to her.
Don't do bad stuff that stands out like getting a teacher upset at you. This is not the way to impress a girl.
Let her see the real you. Don't be ashamed of who you are
Warnings
Do not ever take her to a fast food joint for a date!
Don't shower her with gifts. Holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries are fine.
There is a chance she may not like you at all. This will hurt, but you will get over it.
How to know when a Guy likes you
Steps:
Examine his body language. If he likes you, you will see that his body position will lean forward toward you.
Keep close. Ever get the feeling that somebody is "in" your personal space - so much so that you want to step back? If he likes you, and you like him, neither of you will step back.
Notice his eye contact. If he likes you, he'll get it and hold it. Again, this can be uncomfortable if you don't like him or vice versa. You'll know if you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly.
Be aware of touching. He might put his hand on your arm when he laughs, or not move his leg if it happens to touch yours. This is a very good sign that he likes you.
Keep an eye out. His pupils will dilate (get bigger) if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might look a bit weird looking that closely into his eyes.
Watch for him showing interest in things you like and do.
Joke freely. Does he laugh, even if you aren't funny?
Check for signs of nervousness: nervous laughter, sweaty palms, fidgeting, etc. Unless he's scared of public speaking and is about to make a presentation, it just might be that he's nervous about making an impression on someone he fancies (hopefully you).
Smile. A big smile in return probably means the feeling is mutual.
See if he always ends up in the same part of the room as you. Perhaps he keeps going out of his way to bump into you.
Pay attention to his friends. If they know he's interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you're around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him. Also study their reactions to your presence. Do they smile? Do they turn to him? If so, then there's a good chance he really does like you.Tips:
Generally, think about how you act when you like someone, and look for those signs in others.
He might be shy and/or introverted. In these cases, you have to be especially gentle and patient.
Make sure the male in question is heterosexual. Some homosexual men are more comfortable showing affection toward female friends because they aren't worried about the friend thinking they are romantically interested. You could easily get the wrong idea.
Warnings:
Beware of friendly, outgoing guys. You might think he likes you but he might be like that with everyone and not realize how it is making you feel about him and his intentions.
If he seems comfortable talking to you about other girls, he probably does not like you in "that way." Either that, or he is trying to make you jealous, which might mean that he likes you but doesn't reflect too well on his character.
How to Know when a Girl likes you
Steps:
Make friends with her close friends (the ones with the big mouths).
See if she flirts with you uncontrollably or avoids you altogether. She'll usually all of a sudden get louder or quieter when you come around.
Notice how she looks at you--she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately.
If her friends are loud and immature, you'll hear "(your name), (her name) likes you!" If she says "no I don't" more than 3 times with a smile or while laughing nervously, then you can assume she likes you.
Watch for her being extremely mean or extremely nice to you for no reason.
Look for her eyes to light up when she sees you or hears you or your name.
Check if she seems mad or will say comments like "just kiss her already" when you flirt with girls.
Notice if she touches you more often (or finds any excuse to do so).
Be aware if she seems overeager to fix you up with someone.
If she stalks you, she likes you.
Or, get to know her, tell her you like her and just see what she says. =) But if she DOES NOT LIKE YOU, NO MEANS NO!!! Unless she tries to be your friend, dont put on the whole "just-friends" act. You might as well forget her.
If she asks you something like "Have you ever been asked out to the dance?", she's implying that she wants you to ask her out to the dance.
Tips:
If she really, really likes you, she'll tell you herself.
Don't try too hard. It's a huge turn-off.
It helps if you're the sweet kind of guy who lets girls hug him. You'll more likely hear about a girl liking you.
If you do hear a girl likes you, be nice to her. Don't avoid her and don't seem disgusted because no girls will like you after that.
Be yourself, but in a nice way.Warnings:
Don't rush things -- if she likes you, she'll come around.
NO MEANS NO!
P.S: If you have questions.. about anything. I'll give you Tips, Warnings, and Steps. :) Thanks, Hopefuly this helped some people!
How to get your crush to notice you
For guys to notice you:
Steps:
Be sure that his attention is what you want. Don't try to get a guy to look your way just because you want attention and you want to feel good about yourself. You don't want to lead someone on. You could end up in a very awkward or uncomfortable situation--see the Warnings below.
Get a new look. Don't change who you are, just try something different. Try a new hairstyle, new clothes, etc. It's a good idea to change things up once in a while, just because variety's the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye.
Smile (http://www.wikihow.com/Smile) and make eye contact. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. Unless it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring smile, letting them know that you're a happy and confident person who wants to enjoy life. The idea is to communicate that you're inviting their company.
Flirt (http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt). Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting (especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps not in a good way.
Try to be around him often, such as sitting near him. Take interest in the activities he's interested in him, not just so that you can get near him but also so that you can get to know him better and so you can broaden your own horizons.
Talk to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have in common. A good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question. Listen to him and don't interrupt him when he is talking. You could even compliment him or ask for help.
Make him feel special. There's got to be a reason that you want him to notice you, and that's because you noticed him first. Let him know--subtly--that you're interested in who he is, that you respect something about him, and that you sincerely want to get to know him better.
Be brave (http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Brave) and stand up for who you are, and what you believe in. Ultimately, this will catch the attention and respect of someone who is going to work well for you, even if it turns out not to be this guy.Tips for guys to notice you:
Be sure to have gum, breath mints, Listerine strips, etc. around in case you need to freshen up quickly, especially if you're hoping to start a conversation.
It's always a good idea to keep yourself well-groomed. While there are guys who get uncomfortable and intimidated if you're all dolled up, it never hurts to stick to a few hygiene basics: shower daily, brush your teeth regularly, use deodorant, keep your hair decent (not perfect, but decent), and take care of your skin. Better yet, stay healthy!
Speak your mind. You're not a drone, and any guy worth having will love it. Just don't scare them by going into a spiel. It's a turn-on to see a girl who loves her mind, not one who's bent on world domination. Likewise, don't get caught up in complaining (about yourself, others, your circumstances). Negativity pushes others away, and it lowers your self-esteem.
If you cannot relate to any of his interests, or even make a genuine effort to get into it, there will never be ground for a lasting relationship anyway. Dump your intentions now.
Being too straightforward might mean leaving him bored. One way to get someone's attention is to make him curious, and that means leaving him guessing to some degree.Warnings when guy notices you:
Be careful whose attention you're getting, and what kind of attention you're earning. Being noticed by a sleazy guy who'll pressure you to do things you don't want to do or a needy guy who'll cling to you and make you feel limited is something you can avoid by being wary.
You can't get everyone to notice you. Remember that guys come and go, so do not stress yourself if things do not work out in your favor. You are a normal, complete person all on your own, and you don't need a guy's attention to be happy.
Being too obsessive can do the opposite of what you want to achieve, pushing him farther away. If he just won't become attracted to you, leave it alone. Do not push it, or things might get ugly, and you'll earn a bad reputation.
How to get a girl to notice you
Steps:
Ask yourself if you really want to go after this girl. Don't think too much though. If you like her, give her a try.
Stop any bad habit that could cause her to not like you. Make sure you clean yourself regularly as well.
Talk to her. Whenever you see her, try to start a conversation. Don't get on her nerves, but don't worry about saying something stupid. She will probably laugh.
Try to establish a basic friendship. This can be done simply by talking to her. Once you are friends, then you can decide if you want to ask her out or not.
Shine at what you do best and use it to your advantage. For example, if you are smart, try to get all A's. If drawing is your talent, draw her a picture. If sports is your thing, be a star athlete. But, don't just do it for her. Do it for yourself too.
Tips
COMMUNICATION IS #1. If you can't talk to her or communicate with her, you will never have a chance with her.
Join clubs that she is in, especially if you share common interests.
Sit next to or near her at lunch and in class.
Be casual, cool and confident not needy and annoying.
Do NOT stalk a girl.
Compliment her about something original (not hair, outfit, eyes, or things she probably hears all the time.)
Learn to be a little charismatic! You want her to be attracted to your personality, not your achievements and your pay check.
Eye contact is good. Smiling is good. Just don't forget to talk to her.
Don't do bad stuff that stands out like getting a teacher upset at you. This is not the way to impress a girl.
Let her see the real you. Don't be ashamed of who you are
Warnings
Do not ever take her to a fast food joint for a date!
Don't shower her with gifts. Holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries are fine.
There is a chance she may not like you at all. This will hurt, but you will get over it.
How to know when a Guy likes you
Steps:
Examine his body language. If he likes you, you will see that his body position will lean forward toward you.
Keep close. Ever get the feeling that somebody is "in" your personal space - so much so that you want to step back? If he likes you, and you like him, neither of you will step back.
Notice his eye contact. If he likes you, he'll get it and hold it. Again, this can be uncomfortable if you don't like him or vice versa. You'll know if you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly.
Be aware of touching. He might put his hand on your arm when he laughs, or not move his leg if it happens to touch yours. This is a very good sign that he likes you.
Keep an eye out. His pupils will dilate (get bigger) if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might look a bit weird looking that closely into his eyes.
Watch for him showing interest in things you like and do.
Joke freely. Does he laugh, even if you aren't funny?
Check for signs of nervousness: nervous laughter, sweaty palms, fidgeting, etc. Unless he's scared of public speaking and is about to make a presentation, it just might be that he's nervous about making an impression on someone he fancies (hopefully you).
Smile. A big smile in return probably means the feeling is mutual.
See if he always ends up in the same part of the room as you. Perhaps he keeps going out of his way to bump into you.
Pay attention to his friends. If they know he's interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you're around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him. Also study their reactions to your presence. Do they smile? Do they turn to him? If so, then there's a good chance he really does like you.Tips:
Generally, think about how you act when you like someone, and look for those signs in others.
He might be shy and/or introverted. In these cases, you have to be especially gentle and patient.
Make sure the male in question is heterosexual. Some homosexual men are more comfortable showing affection toward female friends because they aren't worried about the friend thinking they are romantically interested. You could easily get the wrong idea.
Warnings:
Beware of friendly, outgoing guys. You might think he likes you but he might be like that with everyone and not realize how it is making you feel about him and his intentions.
If he seems comfortable talking to you about other girls, he probably does not like you in "that way." Either that, or he is trying to make you jealous, which might mean that he likes you but doesn't reflect too well on his character.
How to Know when a Girl likes you
Steps:
Make friends with her close friends (the ones with the big mouths).
See if she flirts with you uncontrollably or avoids you altogether. She'll usually all of a sudden get louder or quieter when you come around.
Notice how she looks at you--she will either hold it for a long time or pull away immediately.
If her friends are loud and immature, you'll hear "(your name), (her name) likes you!" If she says "no I don't" more than 3 times with a smile or while laughing nervously, then you can assume she likes you.
Watch for her being extremely mean or extremely nice to you for no reason.
Look for her eyes to light up when she sees you or hears you or your name.
Check if she seems mad or will say comments like "just kiss her already" when you flirt with girls.
Notice if she touches you more often (or finds any excuse to do so).
Be aware if she seems overeager to fix you up with someone.
If she stalks you, she likes you.
Or, get to know her, tell her you like her and just see what she says. =) But if she DOES NOT LIKE YOU, NO MEANS NO!!! Unless she tries to be your friend, dont put on the whole "just-friends" act. You might as well forget her.
If she asks you something like "Have you ever been asked out to the dance?", she's implying that she wants you to ask her out to the dance.
Tips:
If she really, really likes you, she'll tell you herself.
Don't try too hard. It's a huge turn-off.
It helps if you're the sweet kind of guy who lets girls hug him. You'll more likely hear about a girl liking you.
If you do hear a girl likes you, be nice to her. Don't avoid her and don't seem disgusted because no girls will like you after that.
Be yourself, but in a nice way.Warnings:
Don't rush things -- if she likes you, she'll come around.
NO MEANS NO!
P.S: If you have questions.. about anything. I'll give you Tips, Warnings, and Steps. :) Thanks, Hopefuly this helped some people!