Is he too weak what can i do?

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

i have this friends called ben. he and i are really close he know i fancy him and he nearly said yes but had to say no because his ex " nearly commited suicide " coz he won't take her back after she cheated on him which is pathetic because they only went out for like 3 days and i have been wanting to go out with him for months and because of her he won't go out with me....and now i have told him how i really feel and now he isn't talking to me and i feel really bad....what can i do?
help please thanks

xXxDaiziexXx

[Rashella]

What went wrong between him and this girl?

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

well she cheated on him within 3 days

[Leon]

Do you want someone as you boyfriend who is capable of cheating within 3 days of a relationship?

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

no she cheated on him he is completly faithful he would have no reason to cheat he saod so him self

[Rashella]

Well, talk to her, tell her she had her chance but she fucked it up. She can't of liked him that much to begin with if she cheated that quickly so i doubt she's suicidal, attention seeking by the looks of it.

Try to be mature about it as she obviously isnt. I can understand your frustration but see things from his point of view. He doesnt want to get anyone hurt. Apologise for bieng short with him but try to make him see this girl is trying to control him emotionally, she sounds like a bitch. She has no right to stop him being happy after the way she acted during their relationship.

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

i have said sorry to him but he still hasn't budged. i am gonn ask him for her email and talk to her that way i can't bear a fight with er it would hurt ben too much

[Leon]

no she cheated on him he is completly faithful he would have no reason to cheat he saod so him selfOh yeah sorry, read it wrong.
His ex sounds like a bitch, tell him that he shouldn't say no to you just because of her, whatever she does from now on has nothing to do with him because they split up.
She's clearly just using suicide as a threat to make him do what she says and as long as he does she will keep doing it. Nobody would take that extreme an action after only dating for 3 days, one of which she was behind his back with someone else anyway. It's her own fault they split up, she shouldn't cheat on him, so whatever she does from now on he has no responsibility for because she is just attention seeking and trying to control this Ben.

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

i will tell him that thanks every one for you r help if any one else wants to help feel freee

[Leon]

i will tell him that thanks every one for you r help if any one else wants to help feel freeeYou're welcome and make sure you tell him that.:)
And good luck if you try and get with him then.

[Rashella]

Yeah, tread carefully. Its obviously a delicate subject for him, sounds like he still likes both of you. Last thing he wants is a arguement between you.

If you get her email, dont start of accusing, try to be sympathetic even if you dont feel it.

I dont think there is much you can do in this situation to make it up with your lad but apologise and be nice untill it blows over, also it would be wise to let him know what you intend on saying to his ex and if he objects, respect that and dont say it. Otherwise youl make it worse and he'll get angrier.

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

Well good news every one he said YES!!!!!!!!!!!! after talking i said can't we at least ry and he said i suppose so....i am sooo happy

[God.]

:D:D Good for you, congrats :D

[Rashella]

Nice =D Good for you!

[Leon]

Well good news every one he said YES!!!!!!!!!!!! after talking i said can't we at least ry and he said i suppose so....i am sooo happyGlad it all worked out and that we could help:)

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

Thank Yoooooooooooo every one for the help and i will keep you posted =]

[Leon]

Good:) Always nice to hear feedback from people

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

yea well he is hopefully coming to see me in the summer if not in october

[Leon]

Ahh cool, hopefully in the Summer then:)

[lhs07]

how is everything going with that? hope well. if you dont mind me asking??

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

how is everything going with that? hope well. if you dont mind me asking??

every thing is going exellent.we talk to each other every day and we say we love each other every day and we do...i would die for him

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

Well every body...we have split up.....and i hate it
i think about him all the time.thinking that we could have lasted for ever..he says he still loves me and i say so too
i want him back i miss too much.....please help me people to get over him or if not to get back together with him

oh and btw he may may read this coz he is a member now

[Imotek]

Aw what happened? was it the ex? When i split up with my girlfriend some time ago we went out again coz we still loved each other, so hopefully for u ...

[Rashella]

Well every body...we have split up.....and i hate it
i think about him all the time.thinking that we could have lasted for ever..he says he still loves me and i say so too
i want him back i miss too much.....please help me people to get over him or if not to get back together with him

oh and btw he may may read this coz he is a member now

Well what happened?

If you still like him and he likes you why dont you try and get back together?

[Emmax22]

idk about you, but i would beat the crap out of that pathetic little peaice of nothingness.

[Bob!]

oh and btw he may may read this coz he is a member now
I can move it to the Standard Confidential Advice, Confidential Advice from Females, or Confidential Advice from Males forum if ya want.

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

Nah thats okay bob..its okay here

[xXxEmo_DaisyxXx]

Well what happened?

If you still like him and he likes you why dont you try and get back together?

Well i know he still loves me and i the same..but its the distance..and it just really hurts

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

He's just avoiding you for the dumbest reason, and it's kinda obvious he doesn't like you or want to date you. You told him you like him and now he's avoiding you, and if he'd rather get all uppity about a suicidal emo ex threatening to commit suicide, that's not his problem or your problem. It's hers. It's not his problem what she does to herself.
And when they threaten to kill themselves they usually almost never do. Sometimes they do, but if she does well that's not anyone's problem but hers.