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LakersGM1
April 15th '07, 06:16 AM
There is a girl I have been best friends with since 3rd grade. I love her so much and all I want is for her to be happy. When she is sad, I am sad. I want to be with her, but I rather her be happy if she wouldn't be with me. I love her so much that her happiness is what matters to me.

She has been going out with this guy that has never really been there for her for about 19 monthes now. Today I walked over to the bus stop, and I realised that something was wrong because she and him were not with each other. As I came over to her, I saw that she was depressed and that she had a tear running down her cheek. Then she said that the two of them broke up and that her bird past away.

For the whole entire bus ride I sat next to her comfronting her. She didn't say to much, but I told her that I am always there for her no matter what and that everything is going to be alright. She was still crying and said, "I hope so." to the fact that she was going to be alright.

When we got to school she said that she wanted to go to the library and I said that I would go with her. When we got to the library, of course, it was closed. So I walked with her until she said, "I am going to go to the girls locker room. That is my next class anyway." I said to her that I am always there to talk and that I would talk to her later.

In second period I sent her a text message (I dont have a plan that allows me to get texts cheap.) and it said exactly this:

"-Name- i know you will be alright. You are a great person and if he does not know that, then to hell with him. Rember i will always be there for you no matter what. You can count on me always. Stay strong."

It was after school and I got on the bus. She was not on the bus. This girl I know has heard that the guy said horrible things about her like "I am a pimp, was cheating on her the whole time." "I broke up with her." "She was nothing to me." and etc. I also heard that she called her cousin to pick her up because she couldn't take the bus. (Mentally not physically)

While on the bus, I called her up and asked how she was doing. She said that she thought that the text message was really thoughtful and that she would call me when she got home.

I went to her house and asked if she wanted to talk. She opened the garage-door. Her cousin that picked her up was still there. Her little brother was also there who is 4 (Still seems like he is in his terrible twos.) The two of us think talk too much because of her little brother and the fact that her cousin was there. She said that she had to go, so I gave her a hug and said that she can call me if she wants to. She said that she will.

So I am wondering what I can do to make her happy and how to possibly go out with her or something. We get along almost too well, and nothing that she could do would make me not love her. She means too much to me to see her hurt. Do you know what I can do?

Sponge'K'nob
April 15th '07, 03:21 PM
Aww That's cute that you feel that way about her.
Right so she has just come out of a long term relationship and it sounds as if you are there for her which is good =]

That text message is good and will make her know you are there for her whilst she is upset, she will need her friends round her right now.

To make her happy right now you need to carry on the way you are, being there for her etc, she has just come out of a long relationship so will very doubtfully not want to get straight into another one. Just take it from there, maybe go to the cinema as friends or something?

Leon
April 15th '07, 07:54 PM
From what you've said it sounds like she would really like you, been the perfect gentleman to her and offered your support in every situation, and told her you will go out of your way for her. She has no reason to object kindness like that.

However, she will probably want to take a long, possibly very long break from boys after what has happened. She needs a little time to herself, but when the time comes, if you are still there for her in the same way, hopefully you will grow on her.

But for now, don't over-do telling her that you will always be there, it might freak her out a little, you only need the odd reminder and she will take a note of it, doesn't need saying every time you talk to her.
Apart from that if you carry on doing what you are doing its just fine:)

xMissIzzyx
April 15th '07, 08:22 PM
I agree with Leon, don't overcrowd her with anything, drop it in and she'll remember it :) If you keep going you'll freak her out n she'll back off. Take her out for lunch or cinema or something and get good conversation and have a good time, show her what you're offering! You sound like a real decent guy and I hope it works out for you, I really do. Good luck!

xexilia
April 15th '07, 11:46 PM
This is adorable
Being her friend maybe you could take her out sometimes, on a picnic, or hang out at home and watch movies, try to keep her mind off him.
But i agree with the two above me, make her feel comfortable with you, but dont suffocate her, this might just push her further away from you.