Pregnant

[sweet8060]

Okay so I'm completely confused. Yesterday I took 3 pregnancy test because I barely had a period last month and now I didn't have one this month. All 3 came out positive, but I really don't want to go to the dr. for it cuz I don't want it to be true. I mean I've got a great bf now, but I wouldn't mind if it was his but it isn't. It would be my stupid xbf's that lives with me right now and I don't think I could handle that. I don't believe in abortions and I don't know if I could handle giving it up for adoption. AHHH I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to scream. I didn't tell my bf about it though because he hates my xbf. *Sighs* any advice? My parents wanted me to get pregnant by my xbf but I just didn't want it cuz he isn't a "good" guy.

[~Wayne~]

Well not going to the Dr's isnt going to make it go away.

[Kerry]

You can't pretend this is not true when it is, going to the doctor is for the best, not going to try and believe it's not true is not any good. You need to face the facts and stop hiding away from them. You will also have inform the babys dad, your current boyfriend and parents. There really is no solution to not having it if you don't believe in abortions and you don't want to give your baby up for adoption. Just make sure you have a stable home and enough money to pay the way for the baby.

Good Luck. :)

[God.]

I hope you're reading this Lucie.

[Rashella]

You can get an abortion if you dont want your ex's baby. How long have you been with your new guy?

And why the hell is your ex living with you and your parents? Kick his ass out.
Why do they like him so much if hes a "Bad Guy".

[God.]

I'm not surprised he hates your ex bf, seeing as he's the one who gets to live with you.

[xMissIzzyx]

1. Go to the doctor's. It won't go away if you ignore it. Find out for certain if you're pregnant or not, and take it from there.
2. It isn't up to your parents what you do with your life.
3. You're very young to have a child but this kinda stuff happens so you're gonna have to face it at one time or another. You can support yourself and the child if you put your mind to it.
4. Why is your ex living with you? That's really strange, and I'm not surprised your current bf doesn't liek him! lol.


Liek I said, just go to the doctors to be sure, and take it from there. It'll work out :) Good luck.

[sarahgirl_88]

ok.. so if ur pregnant. take responsibility for it. whether its ur ex's or not.. did u cheat on ur boyfriend.. or did u guys barely start goin out.. ?? dont get me wrong.. u got ur self in a mess girl.. but now u gotta learn 2 deal.. 3 pregnancy tests. pshh ur pregnant. =0 .. dont abort. n idk.. do u feel like u could handle havin a child in ur life.. u kno? n on top of that.. juz cuz its ur ex's kid.. dont mean u gotta be wit him.. like u said.. hes not a "good" guy.. so just.. i guess... if its true. tell ur parents. tell ur boyfriend. n tell ur ex. deal with the concequences girl!! single mothers are a trend these days lol. n they get lots of respect. jus dont abort.

[sweet8060]

My xbf lives with me cuz his mom kicked him out of their house, so my parents let him move in while we were still goin out. My current bf and I have been together almost 2 months. I didn't not cheat on him and never will.

[xMissIzzyx]

you didn't not cheat on him?
so you did?

[sweet8060]

I meant I didn't cheat on him. My bad. I was in a hurry last night when I typed that because I had to go to work.

[Rashella]

Yesterday I took 3 pregnancy test because I barely had a period last month and now I didn't have one this month.



My current bf and I have been together almost 2 months.



Well if you are pregnant, and you had a period last month and not this month, doesnt that mean youve got pregnant since your last period (this month)? Which you say is since youve been with your new boyfriend? Correct me if im wrong. But are you sure youve had no sexual contact? It wouldnt even have to be proper sex.

[jem]

My parents wanted me to get pregnant by my xbf

your 16? y did your parents want u to get pregnant?

and what every1 else said about ur x living with u aswell.....but uve answered that so yea

[westernbabe09]

First you need to make sure you are 100% sure you are even if that means going to the docter. Then tell your boyfriend and if he really loves you he will understand. Then tell you ex. If your boyfriend does love you he will be with you 100% and as far as your ex if he is any type of real man he will help you. But of course tell your parents. That is what I would do.

[Rashella]

Yeah and tell your parents to butt out of your business. They have no right to try and get you knocked up and married to some guy you dont even like.

Its not up to them who you date.

[sweet8060]

Well if you are pregnant, and you had a period last month and not this month, doesnt that mean youve got pregnant since your last period (this month)? Which you say is since youve been with your new boyfriend? Correct me if im wrong. But are you sure youve had no sexual contact? It wouldnt even have to be proper sex.

My period last month only lasted 2 days if even that. My bf doesn't really believe in pre-marital sex so there is no sexual contact with him.

[sweet8060]

your 16? y did your parents want u to get pregnant?

and what every1 else said about ur x living with u aswell.....but uve answered that so yea

Yes I'm 16. I don't know why the wanted me to get pregnant. I guess so I would stay with Ray which now is becoming one of my biggest fears. I love my bf and all but....if i have this kid and keep it it is ganna make it hard to be with my bf, and it would be easier to be with Ray.

[xMissIzzyx]

But who do you *want* to be with?

[sweet8060]

I want it to be with my bf that i currently have...but I know he doesn't aprove of me having a kid at this age. *Sighs* I've kinda been hinting around at the fact that I'm pregnant to him but iono. I love him and I'm scared I'm ganna loose him because of this.

[Rashella]

My period last month only lasted 2 days if even that. My bf doesn't really believe in pre-marital sex so there is no sexual contact with him.

Doesnt really matter how long it lasted, its still a period.

[sweet8060]

yea but i was tellin my bf about it and he asked his mom (yes i know it was completely awkward) and she said she wouldn't even consider that a period....

[Rashella]

Well unless you were just randomly bleeding, i think it is. They can become shorter and lighter if your under stress.

[Mikhael]

Firstly do not hate me for being harsh.

you are 16. My cousin had a child at 16 completly wrecked her life. She was very smart but now she lives with a complete knob and works in some shitty job.

IF you are uncertain if your pregnant take another test o.0

If you are pregnant see a docter and stop being an idiot.

This child will destry your future. thats a fact.

I suggest you get an abortion. Its not alive yet and you wont even realise anything is happening. If your against it then tough shit go and take one. That is the only way out. A guy who doesnt want sex before marrige will leave you as you obviously have had sex and you will wreck his future too.

Thats my advice/opinion take it or leave it.

[sweet8060]

My bf says he won't leave me and my xbf decided he would get a job.... It will not ruin my life. My friend Jess has made it through and she had a kid at 15. So it doesn't ruin anybody's life. I can't do abortions my family/religion is against it.

[Future_Wiccan]

Im just a 14 yr old male. i cant really give advice on this. what i can tell you is that my oldest sister sarah never saw her dad, she ran away and ended up in drug rehab, then dropped out of school(this was eight grade). My 2 brothers joel and david went back and forth from our mom to mark (their dad) each week, Marks view on life and guidelines were much different than our moms, they grew tired of their dads temper and joel was first to give up and stop going to hsi dads, david thinks if he also leaves than marks marriage will be destroyed. my dads 3 children and another of my moms daughters lived with one parent most of the year but constantly visited the other parent, both parents were completely supporting (Even though their kids never saw them together they were still excellent parents, the fathers were like a father should be and same goes for the mothers) these 4 are doing great in the world today. that leaves me and my twin sister rachel, sometimes we feel that my dad has had enough with raising children (not really the father to me that he is to his other son KJ) my mom obviously overprotective after the drug abusing daughter.

how do you think the father would act towards his son/daughter? if hes a good father than your child should be fine as long as he gets to know him(a no-brainer really). there are some nasty psychological side affects of abortion/adoption.

btu you know what? im not exactly the best at givign advice, im more than likely wrong.

[Sponge'K'nob]

How long was you going out with the father?
You are pregnant, pregnancy test are very affective...and you already took 3!
Get to the doctors.
Get your ex out of your house.
And tell your parents to butt out, they should NOT be telling you to get pregnant no matter how mature they think you are.

[sweet8060]

The baby's father and I were together about 2 yrs. on an off. He accuatally has a job now, and it is amazing. I went to the Doctor saturday and they said everything seems fine and they gave me sum vitamin supplements and it wasen't that bad. :D Now I just got to remember to eat healthier.

[Deimos]

Coathanger

[fraggled]

Okay so I'm completely confused. Yesterday I took 3 pregnancy test because I barely had a period last month and now I didn't have one this month. All 3 came out positive, but I really don't want to go to the dr. for it cuz I don't want it to be true. I mean I've got a great bf now, but I wouldn't mind if it was his but it isn't. It would be my stupid xbf's that lives with me right now and I don't think I could handle that. I don't believe in abortions and I don't know if I could handle giving it up for adoption. AHHH I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to scream. I didn't tell my bf about it though because he hates my xbf. *Sighs* any advice? My parents wanted me to get pregnant by my xbf but I just didn't want it cuz he isn't a "good" guy.

Don't hate the baby because his daddies an idiot and tell your bf the same thing, children can be raised right, HERE HERE! My real dad was a bum, beat my mum and was even a drug dealer, me, Im a computer geek who can't live without his job and I get beat by women :|, treat the kid right, let your current bf know (its your right not to tell the xbf because legally the mother has 100% custody from the get go unless you are married or he requests a hearing for his rights oh and im no lawyer I just went through that with my son, I had to step up and fight for my rights, but his mum wasn't trying to keep him from me so all I all I really had to do was sign a form stating that I am not drunk and I am his father) if your boyfriend is all the man you think he is, he will take the child and help you raise him right. Children shouldn't be affected by hate around the circle of human-life.

[Darts]

Thanks Jordan. Good post.

[sweet8060]

I couldn't hate a child. But I can always hate the father. And I probably always will. right now my main goal is to keep my current bf away from him. Mainly cuz my bf is threatening my x's life.

[Leon]

I'm glad you've sorted it now hun :)

[sweet8060]

Thanks I am too. Now just to pass my finals for the year. :D. I think it is my bed time. lol. It is 8:10 am and I've only slept an hour since last night.