Advice on love and relationships

[Sponge'K'nob]

Why not ask anything you need to know?
Im sure a lot of people are here to help and give advice.
Everyone has their own point of view and way around things.
You might find the answer you want!!

[So Smithy]

ok i got a problem i fancy someone but havent had a girl freind ever and i thnk she fances me what should i do

[Silver_Bullet]

Man, I have had my share of turn downs, they arent as bad a some think, so ask her out. How old are you and she? I mean its obvious that maybe you should ask, but its my opinion. I used to be very shy around girls but as time progressed and I asked more and more out I became comfortable with the idea of "Girls." Best of luck!

[Mikhael]

ok dude simple ( my guidelines... )

1) talk to her and dont try it on
2) i No the feeling of being alone and wanting some one so try and get closer to her example, eat lunch with her, give her help in scool etc.
**
4) go in for the kill , not really but ask her out when you are confident you no her enough

3) If you still arnt confident enough she'll say yes ...
- try and get her phone number and text her every now and again
- if you get her number phone her with the excuse of asking what homework you have
- Try and get her Yahoo, msn etc. Id, and talk to her on that
ill add more if i can think of any

Tips

1) you really have to be confident , by doining this she will respect you and want to be with her more.
2) tease her slightly not so much but if she does any thing stupid tease her slightly.
3) if she hits you and laughs your in :naughty:
4) by yourself , try not to lie as it might turn bad

ps Dude

its best not to mention u are on Runescape to her it is slightly nerdy . :hump:
Ching

[michelle]

theres a las that i like but i dont know if he likes me ive know him for a while weve tlked n stuff
what should i do
hes older than me- im 16 hes 17

[michelle]

i ment theres a lad lol

[Fairy]

I dont have a boy friend.It totally sucks!All the hot dudes go out with skanks and plastics(mean girls[the movie])I'm sorta preety and s***.I am evil.I hit guys if they piss me off.How can i get one???

[Odd_Girl_Out]

well to start off im 16 and still boyfriendless... but the problem with me is that i dont fall for just anyone... it takes a lot for me to truly like a guy... and when i do like a guy i like them for a long time... i like this kid that goes to my church and hes also 16... and ive always had a little thing for him... but in december i really started to like him... and hes just got a totally awesome personality and hes mature... so i got his screen name finally... and we started talking online about a few months ago... and about a few days ago i told him i liked him... and he was just like wow... and was like im really sorry but i dont feel the same way about you... but you truly are an awesome person... i havent talked to him since i told him i liked him... because i feel as if its going to be awkward... and ill be seeing him in a few weeks when i go to my cousins house... and i want to try to act normal... but i dont think ill be able to

basically... i really wish he would just like me... but theres really no way for that to happen... now is there?

[Wen1992]

I suck at that stuff, and i mean really suck. I have never gotten a date before even though i'm like the second coolest guy in school. My pal thinks that i really really need a girl friends because i've bugging her and her buddies a little bit too much lately. The thing she doesn't know is that the gal i have crush on is her buddie( that's why i hanging around them) But the gal hates me, i mean she talk to me and all but for some reason i think she hates me and my friends excpet the one who is friend with her already. She thinks i'm going out with my pal but i'm really not we are just best friends since 6th grade and we do almost everything together. How can i get her to like, i mean all her buddies like me so i tried to get close to her buddies and then get close to her but that didn't work! Now, i heard rumors that she has a crush on one of my friends!!! I think i'm going to die, what's wrong with me?????? Why doesn't she like me!!!!!!

[Hevz]

it's like tht sumtimes, sumtimes u like sum1 bt they dn't like u bk and it sucks and it hurts aswell bt u will eventually move on! and find sum1 tht u like and who likes u jst as much bk!

[iaxa]

I dont have a boy friend.It totally sucks!All the hot dudes go out with skanks and plastics(mean girls[the movie])I'm sorta preety and s***.I am evil.I hit guys if they piss me off.How can i get one???

simple dont hit them they wont be afraid to talk to you.

also lol at the runescape comment!

[Guest]

ok i have a boyfriend and i am totally in love with him, but i have girl urges sometimes. wats up :S

[Tams]

Yeah, definetly don't go on about computer games, especially RuneScape, if you play Runescape it just shows you're seriously addicted to your computer. Not good!

[Dani_x]

my parents dnt lyk me avin a bf...spesh wen es olda den me! av bin wi ma current bf 6months nw n es 20, buh my parents dun no cos i no they will flip even tho theres a big age gap between dem they tel me not 2use them as a example wen i try tlkin 2them. its reali gettin me dwn cos i av 2b al secretive bwt sum1 a luv. ny advice n wat a cn do 2get ma parents let me go out wi who i wnt? x

[Brianna.]

ahh...please lay off the txt talk a little. It makes your posts harder to read.

[Dani_x]

sorry i cant help it, its just habbit x

[4ngel]

i just hate faceing the pants of a girl and (means basicly she is 1 fit momma) not knowing if she fells the same, and u cant realy say anything because u dont wont to look like a prat altho if u dont u might never know if she loves u, and i am just stuck, the last time i saw he was when i glansed round and saw her and some of her friends looking in my direction and whispering, which is sending me mixed messages, does she like me does she not.

can any1 help me plzzzzzzzzz:(

[CraigYohn!]

my parents dnt lyk me avin a bf...spesh wen es olda den me! av bin wi ma current bf 6months nw n es 20, buh my parents dun no cos i no they will flip even tho theres a big age gap between dem they tel me not 2use them as a example wen i try tlkin 2them. its reali gettin me dwn cos i av 2b al secretive bwt sum1 a luv. ny advice n wat a cn do 2get ma parents let me go out wi who i wnt? x

Try getting him to come round to yours, let him gain your parents trust, hang out with him etc, then break it to them slowly, if it doesnt work, just go back to being secretive lol, but DONT tell them you're going out with him, just say you really like him an see what your parents say.

[Dani_x]

yeh we've spoke about doing that but my parents wouldnt believe it if i said we just m8s...even if im out with my m8s and 1of their bf's r there and im seen i still get quized about them being my bf! and when ever i have took lads(mates) home, my parents totly embarresd me by warning them of me and saying stuff. they are WAY 2over protective on me!

[CraigYohn!]

hmmm, I guess keeping him a secret would have to do, they'll grow out of it, no one can stay protective like that no matter who they are, unless, you're in jail, then I guess stuff doesnt change lol

[Dani_x]

wana bet on that? lol

[Guest]

well to start off im 16 and still boyfriendless... but the problem with me is that i dont fall for just anyone... it takes a lot for me to truly like a guy... and when i do like a guy i like them for a long time... i like this kid that goes to my church and hes also 16... and ive always had a little thing for him... but in december i really started to like him... and hes just got a totally awesome personality and hes mature... so i got his screen name finally... and we started talking online about a few months ago... and about a few days ago i told him i liked him... and he was just like wow... and was like im really sorry but i dont feel the same way about you... but you truly are an awesome person... i havent talked to him since i told him i liked him... because i feel as if its going to be awkward... and ill be seeing him in a few weeks when i go to my cousins house... and i want to try to act normal... but i dont think ill be able to

basically... i really wish he would just like me... but theres really no way for that to happen... now is there?

No, there is no way for you to get him to like you. It's nice to see that there exists someone who can accept that! Actually, I'm a really slow person like that, too. What happens is that I like to spend time with people and the girl likes me and after some time she tells me the things that she thinks of me and is nervous to see what I think. It makes me laugh because I thought we both knew from almost the beginning (that we both like each other). Then she is delighted and gets all these strong feelings that never go away.

But just that "Why would it be awkward for you?". Tell him what you think (assuming you still want to be his friend) or just figure out what you think and why it is bad or whatever. Only so you don't feel like it's awkward, because why would you let something like that make you feel badly?

[2qt2boot]

Just make a move and see what happens. If nothing happens then that is what is ment to be. DOnt fret about it.

[juniorgirl13]

yes ur right hevz.......... i was wondering i have a boyfriend but how do i really know if he really likes me .

[juniorgirl13]

well acually theres a way ta get him ta like ya you could just wit until time blows over and then when or if he does change his mind maybe he will like you after he thought of it for a long time ......... or like the sane says theres plenty of other fish in the sea. u could find another guy too like someone who likes u give it a chance and try ta get ta know other people.

[DiamondKing]

Would it be considered weird to ask someone that dosent know you and has maybe seen you once around school out? Id try and talk to her but i really dont have a chance, we dont have the same lunch period, no classes together, and by the time i get to school in the morning the bell rings a minute later.

Any oppinions on what i should do?

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

I usually find the answers I'm looking for from other peeps online, random people off the internet.
Surprisingly.

[Lenny]

move on and find someone else...if you want or just keep trying to get her... but i'd suggest moving on

[cassiopeai]

Would it be considered weird to ask someone that dosent know you and has maybe seen you once around school out? Id try and talk to her but i really dont have a chance, we dont have the same lunch period, no classes together, and by the time i get to school in the morning the bell rings a minute later.

Any oppinions on what i should do?

U should try to bump into her outside of school. You may find her usual hang out and check the place out with a couple of friends. Or maybe you have a common friend and he/she can introduce you two.(sorry if i have any language mistakes english is not my first language)

[-DarK DreAmeR-]

I need some advice from you people , i and my boy-friend have a wonderful relationship and we feel very comfortable with each other but the problem is we're both from different religions and cause of that my parents would NEVER accept our relationship and they are asking me to break up with him , HELP please :please!:

[Hannah-Louise]

well there is this boy that likes me and i dont like him ......... at least i dont think i do and he has told me that he likes me but i didnt react very well . and now he has asked me to prom as friends as he has a girlfriend, but she is younger so she cant come. but im not sure if i should go with him. he isnt really my type and he is really camp ......... and kinda weird but he is an nice person when he wants to be. any advice?

[Guest]

what do i do i'm going out with my bestest gur friend ever but...like he won't make a move we went out last year and all and i love him so i asked for another chance but i REALLY REALLY wanna like make a move should i wait or make the move myself?

[Conflicted17]

This is the first time i have ever asked people online about relationships but here goes. I am 17 I met a 25 year old woman online she is attracted to me for inexplicable reasons claims my maturity and virginity attract her. She is married and in love with her best friend. We became relatively close friends and she would flirt and occasionally i would flirt back. We stopped flirting and started seeing if we could turn each other on with what we said. This eventually spun out of control and we both became so aroused we had cyber sex. I was lovesick about her for a short period of time but all the rational arguments killed that. but after this experience i think i have only now come to the realization that i really have been in love with her. I have denied it so far but i just cant anymore. The rational arguments are blatant and obvious but still i want to go to her and bring her all the happiness i can.

So I am wondering am i a horrible person?
If I am how can i fix this?
Does anyone know if its even a remote possibility to maintain my friendship with her?

If anyone knows of a forum that would be better suited to helping me with this problem please say so.

[Sxc_guy]

Hay Kaye i wanna know, 2 things, do girls fake it? and does size matter, ive heard a lot if rumours and it wuld b good to find out the truth?

[Guest1]

av bin wif this lad for 3 months now n he is really in lv wif me n a fort a lvd him but a met one of his really gud frends last nyt n we got on wkd becoz hes knew me since a was little coz our mams wer best mates n it was like magic n we er dancin n everything n a fink av gt feelings for him but a dnt want to hav becoz it cant ever happen HELP!!!!!

[NATAL!E]

Sounds seriously stupid this. But where am I supposed to meet guys!? Haha.

One of my friends suggested wandering round shops incase i see a lad i like, and i just went 'are you joking?!'.

I want to meet someone kind of like me i guess, but i'm not actually THAT picky when it comes to guys. I just never seem to attract the guys i like. I don't think i aim too high. Well i hope i dont. :|. haha.

any advice?

[johhny.ace]

the good way to attract guys is just to be yourself, be kind but not too much..be lovable, but don't be carried away..just show your inner and external beauty without getting dirty

[NATAL!E]

I am always myself, I couldn't be anyone else to be honest! I'm a generally nice person, always up for a laugh, always smiling. Haha. But the thing is, I really understand where I'm going wrong!

One of my friends said I was absolutely lovely and desirable (in a non-lesbian way, lol), so there doesn't really appear to be an obvious problem, lol. So I don't understand what I can do different!

[pandaspice2122]

ummm i like this guy and we r pretty good friends and we have been out twice but whenever i call him he allways sez hi and them gd bye and i am wondering y we only spend like 5 mins on the phone and i have tried 2 make him talk longer but het wont do it but wenever i txt him we txt eachother 4 ages untill one of us allmost runs outa credit. PLZ HELP!

[Conflicted17]

Possibly he likes you but is shy. He may not like his voice much so he prefers the texting.

[dhenyck]

that's right Hevz!!!!

I can relate to that situation

[manman]

Love starts from the higher being and we have to appreciate it first before we can really get it.

[dhenyck]

that's right!!!!!!!!!

[Valerieg]

I have a boyfriend.....i love him....but he seems too controlling at times...hes 16 and I'm 19...he lied about his age when i met him....what should i do when he wants me to do everything for him...also he hit me once... sometimes i ned the strength to leave him...I have lost all that i have left...I get so confused and have no one to talk too!!!!! My friends are to busy caught up in their lives to care about me...so much for true friends...Could i get some advice Plze???

[Conflicted17]

It is NEVER okay to hit someone you actually love. If he hit you he doesnt deserve you. As far as him wanting you to do everything for him he is messed up by my calculations.

[Drpepperangel]

I need advice!!! So I left my bf for someone else recently. But I just found out that he doesn't know if he wants to date me anymore? And to make things even more complicated I can't go back to my bf b/c his parents kinda hate me. So what should I do?

[pacer*kar]

i have this boyfriend actually we just broke up tonight..lol uh well anyways i cant stop thinking about him! and but hes such a jerk but when hes at school with me or sumthing hes so stupid..because hes super shy and he acts all ganster on the computer but he basically talks the talk but does NOT walk the walk! anyways how should i get him outta my head?

[WynnItAll]

I really haven't gotten much advice about this but here's the lowdown:

:i heart u I like this guy, he's 17, and I'm 16. He's a great commedian, always cheering me and others up, and tells great jokes and stories! But we are also good friends, and I don't want to accidentally offend him or loose the friend! Sometimes it seems like he goes out of his way to talk to me, but I don't want to be wrong!!! I mean, he jokes around a lot with everyone and he's hard to read. And I'm terrified of reading him wrong!!

How can you tell if he is interested? I have no clue, and I'm afraid to ask any of my guy friends, because he knows them all and he'd find out.

I don't want to read him wrong, but still, I'd like to know how...

I'm just afraid of anything bad happens, like rejection, but then, no one likes rejection, right?

I'm just a little afraid of repeating a recent bad experience...and I wonder a little if that effects his choice. I mean, my ex told every1 we slept together but it isn't true! Could that effect what he thinks of me?! :hmmm:

[Conflicted17]

Ok Im gonna start from the end of your last post. If he is a good friend of yours he is going to trust you over some stupid rumor. Next you shouldnt be afraid of reading him wrong it really is much simpler even if he says he doesnt like you as more then a friend it wont change that much. Although if you want to be complicated about it you could try and hint at that you like him as more and see how he reacts. Not fullproof but its the best i can come up with that isnt simply asking him directly.

[tapper2]

Yeah how do i get one too i have no idea so how do i get aBF?

[Deimos]

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”

[tapper2]

can anybody help me out of what i have said i feel left out when i see othe people with someone then i don't loved and not pretty and unwanted i feel like everything is against me!?

[patunox]

I think the best advice (some may think otherwise) I can give to guys: tell her your feelings straight away. I didn't do this until recently, and believe me, it got me a date with a very pretty girl. If I had done it earlier, I would've been with another girl that liked me (but never really did anything because I didn't say anything).

So that way, if you go out with the girl, she'll know your intentions, so it's a sure way to know if she's interested (if she still goes out with you after you tell her your intentions).

[Gemski]

I have this really big relationship issue.
I can look & all my friends, & My cousin, who have all been with there bfs for 4 or more months.
and I'm jelous, they are so happy & comfortable yano.
and I want that, but..When I start to like a guy, something suddenlyhappens and I don't like them anymore
thus making mylongest relationship a month
I started seeing a guy a week ago, then about a day later I thought, nah, I don't like him like that it's too much.
and so I basicallyt brokeup with him.
I am really picky, and I just don't seem to be able to fall for a guy the way I want to.
I mean, I am one of the girls who will like to go to a party, have alaugh, have a dirnk
and maybe have some innocent fun with some guys
but nothing more
so I guess in a way I get around abit sometimes, which isn't exactly the kind of person I want to be
but I am having fun at the time and don't think about it.
I sometimes wonder if subcontiously I am doing it to feel better about myself.
I know I am only 16, and I shouldn't be getting intosomethign serious yet
but I just want to expirience a guy actually caring about me
because I feel like I am being used all the time, but I think I let it happen.

Last night went to a friends house with my cousin. She likes the guy, and I kinda liek his mate, and his mate likes me
and he is now 18, but 17 when I met him & I was 15, we kissed when we got really drunk one time & it went abit titsup coz he felt funny wiht the age, but last night
It was amazing, he kissed me, and then, whenevber he wasnt, he was like just holding my hand, with his arm around me, or his hand on my leg, like caring and not one night standish, you know when you can just feel it?
He would talk to me, make sure I was okay, and was being really caring, and didn't push anything, we just kept at kissing, although we had a few jokes about stuff.

But I don't know how well it would work.
Sorry eveyrone, I just actually have so much to say :| I never realised before.

[Kate]

Okay, well if all you lot are moaning, then why not ey..
Yerr, i like someone, alot.
No chance anythings ever going to happen.
He's way too good for me, but at the same time, perfect, y'know?
So i'm sat here wallowing in my own self pity.

*Yawn*

[Gemski]

Okay, well if all you lot are moaning, then why not ey..
Yerr, i like someone, alot.
No chance anythings ever going to happen.
He's way too good for me, but at the same time, perfect, y'know?
So i'm sat here wallowing in my own self pity.

*Yawn*

I'm sorry I make you feel like that kate
but hoenstly
I liek you too
im not too good for you
lets get it on :)

hahaha, did i cheer you up =] :p
xxx

[xMissIzzyx]

Hahah gemski, I like the way you solve your problems :D

[tapper2]

i need help i have heard my sister more than once doing it with her BF and when i hear it makes me want to have a BF too? What do i do?how do i deal with that?

[xMissIzzyx]

Be yourself n go out n find someone you like. Make a connection wit them, hang out with them, be fun n stuff. You'll get a bf :)

[tapper2]

when i hear my sister do it get jealous and it makes me want to have BF too so how do i deal with her doing it without getting jealous and how do i show myself and my family that i am mature when i hear my sister doing it cause that makes me want to have a BF too?How do i deal with my jealousy when i hear my sister do it?

[tapper2]

can anybody help me about what i have said above!?

[Gemski]

No really tapper, Your so good at this repetition stuff.
Please, stop repeating yourself
we don't need a story more than once
each a little longer than the last.

[Kate]

I'm sorry I make you feel like that kate
but hoenstly
I liek you too
im not too good for you
lets get it on :)

hahaha, did i cheer you up =] :p
xxx

Haha, i love you! xxxxxx

[sarahgirl_88]

ok i got a problem i fancy someone but havent had a girl freind ever and i thnk she fances me what should i do

GO FOR IT. DONT BE SHY. IF U GOT THE HOTS FOR HER.. THEN DONT BE SHY!!

[d1ps3tb1rdgang]

dont stress it everything eventually works out personally when a guy trys to rush the relationship and doesnt just let things work out it kind of agrivates me dont stress it everything will work out when its supposed too

[^mayu^]

Well I have a question ..i have boyfriend and we love each other so much we always go out and talk on the phone much and we see each other alot ..but the last few days i try to not see and talk with him that much because one of my friends told me that it's not good that we are with each other all the time because that way he will feel bored from me ...so i try to not talk too much with him and he start to asking me why we can't talk much and i keep telling him that i am busy...tell me please is what i am doing is right???

[Infamy]

No. You should tell your boyfriend the reason why you keep on avoiding him. And about your friend's idea. You misunderstood it. She's telling you that sometimes you and your boyfriend need to use the "I MISS YOU" phrase. I mean. If you and your boyfriend will be together for like 24/7 how can you feel the phrase "hey babe. imissyousomuch!". Now can you picture it out? and you dont need to avoid him. Just tell him the main reason. ;] mwuah! You dont need to lie.

[Mikhael]

I have decided im going to help anyone who posts in here from now on Starting now . So lay down your problems and ill get back to you.

[volleyballgurl]

ok here's the thing i like my bro's best friend and i think he likes me he comes to all my volleyball games singin as i quit football and i go to all his football games and we are like friends to wat do i do????

[Mikhael]

May i ask your age and his age?

that really is important. If it is the same age difference as there is bettween my sister and my friends then it is a defo no.

[abc]

Well ive always been confused by this what do you actually say to ask a girl out? ( i know im clueless about this) Also im really shy and self-concious how do i beat that to get to know her?

[splatcat]

just a suggestion.. you could just tell them and see how it goes..
after all they can't stop you're feelings for him.

[splatcat]

Would it be considered weird to ask someone that dosent know you and has maybe seen you once around school out? Id try and talk to her but i really dont have a chance, we dont have the same lunch period, no classes together, and by the time i get to school in the morning the bell rings a minute later.

Any oppinions on what i should do?

Just be open with her and tell her you'd like to spend some time with her to get to know her because you don't usually get the time. I wouldn't think it was weird, it's worth a shot! :)

[KagomeGurl]

The guy I like just came out of a relationship. Should I ask him out? I've liked and waited for him for two years. I want to ask him out so badly but... And what about or friendship

[Rashella]

The guy I like just came out of a relationship. Should I ask him out? I've liked and waited for him for two years. I want to ask him out so badly but... And what about or friendship

Well, was it a bad breakup? Or did he really like her? It depends how he feels about the breakup really. You might want to wait for a while to make sure your not just the rebound girl.

Also, have you seen any signs he might return the feelings? Because asking him out when he doesn't, although I'm sure he wouldn't stop being your friend, could turn things a bit awkward.