Paying for girls

[Noddy]

So i was in town with a girl the otherday and we decided to go to starbucks to get a drink and somthing to eat. So she ordered what she wanted and so did i, got my wallet out and paid. We sat down and she was completly shocked that id paid for her. Its the second time somones been totaly shocked cause iv paid, am i the only guy out there who does this. Also have you got any funny stories along the lines of paying for someone
Tom

[Gemski]

Hmmm
Never been out with a guy like that
and had them pay for me.
Then again, I have never been on a date.
I feel really guilty if people pay for me :o

[Kate]

Paid for my bus fare.
LOL, how romantic.

[Gemski]

OMG Kate.
That's so..Beautiful
*Wipes tear from eye.

;)

[Noddy]

Hmmm
Never been out with a guy like that
and had them pay for me.
Then again, I have never been on a date.
I feel really guilty if people pay for me :o

I'll take ya out then :p


Paid for my bus fare.
LOL, how romantic.

:D

Tom

[Gemski]

Hehe

[Leon]

Can I just say, the fact that she was shocked, is a good thing.

If she just let you pay for everything without even questioning it, then you would be best avoiding her really, as she's just selfish. I like to offer to pay for things with girls, and they usually really have a problem with it and sometimes completely refuse for me to do so, which is always good because they say they prefer to pay for themself, but at the same time, they are really grateful you offered to :)

So as long as this happens you should be fine really, it's not unusual at all for the girl to be shocked about it.

[Gemski]

I fancy a little sex.

Whoops I mean.
Yeah Leon. I'm like that. I feel guilty

[Noddy]

Leon = the man who knows the situation in all circumstances

Yeah i agree with what you said, id hate a girl that expected you to pay for Everything ahhh

[Leon]

A girl that expects you to pay for everything is even worse than one who just lets you pay for everything.

I like to offer to pay and be rejected sometimes, it shows they care :)

[Kate]

Yeah, i couldnt let a guy pay for me, i'd feel guilty.
I wouldnt mind them offering, because either way, i'd refuse.
Sharing is caring :)

[Noddy]

Sharing is caring:)

Amen

[Kate]

Amen

Yep! :P
Women whinge about wanting equality of the sexes, then expect the men to pay for them.
Silly girls.

[Leon]

Yep! :P
Women whinge about wanting equality of the sexes, then expect the men to pay for them.
Silly girls.Haha, Kate I love your posts :)

[Jimbob]

I usually offer if I can afford it at the time, is the gentlemanly thing to do, if they turn it down, then fine.

[Gemski]

James is far too kind with money and in general.
But it's a good thing :D (Y)

He's a looooveeelllyyy Lad :D

[COLTON]

So i was in town with a girl the otherday and we decided to go to starbucks to get a drink and somthing to eat. So she ordered what she wanted and so did i, got my wallet out and paid. We sat down and she was completly shocked that id paid for her. Its the second time somones been totaly shocked cause iv paid, am i the only guy out there who does this. Also have you got any funny stories along the lines of paying for someone
Tom

your not the only one. i will pay for a girl(girlfriend or a friend who is a girl) just because its nice. dont worry if they act suprised

[Bob!]

I'd pay for lil things an so on generally, spesh if the lass was short on money.

If we were going out somewhere say cinema or something, I'd pay again, if we were going out spesh cause I wanted to give her a nice day out I'd want to pay for absolutely everythin so money be the last thing on her mind.

As long as she really appreciated that and dint start takin any o it for granted then thatd be fine as long as I had the money, if I started gettin a bit short though I'd need her to pay her half a lil.

If say after a bit o that on a day out she wanted to pay for everythin once or twice then I'd feel a bit meh at first but then bow down and accept, and appreciate it.

I think thatd reach a balance with me doin me manly duty and itd make things nice as wed basically be treatin each other and so on. As long as neither party starts takin it for granted an really appreciates an loves the other for what they do then, alls good.

[Kristen40]

So i was in town with a girl the otherday and we decided to go to starbucks to get a drink and somthing to eat. So she ordered what she wanted and so did i, got my wallet out and paid. We sat down and she was completly shocked that id paid for her. Its the second time somones been totaly shocked cause iv paid, am i the only guy out there who does this. Also have you got any funny stories along the lines of paying for someone
Tom


I think it is a nice thing to do. I felt weird at first when my bf paid for me, but than I got over it.

[Jimbob]

What Bob Said :)

[lucille]

My boyfriend pays for everything, but its only fair he's a successful graphic designer and I make all the morning tea in our relationship.

[Kate]

Haha, Kate I love your posts :)

Haha! Thank you :D.
But its true!
Bloody women sometimes i swear you just want to hit them over the head with a bloody large piece of... *rants off*
:p

[Leon]

Haha! Thank you :D.
But its true!
Bloody women sometimes i swear you just want to hit them over the head with a bloody large piece of... *rants off*
:pHaha, I know what you're saying :)

[Shakedown]

Yes, what Bob said...listen to Bob, Bob is good....lol

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

I imagine she would be shocked because chilvarly seems to be dead with alot of guys out there. Although I have dated guys who have paid for me but that still didn't make them the best dates, at all. Alot of them were still dinks.
But no, I'm sure you're not the only guy out there who pays, but alot of them need to be convinced that guys should pay even though they should pay, it's just the gentleman thing to do. But of course, there's none of those left.

[QweenTaz]

You can take me to lunch any day!!!!!!!

[Nintendus]

But no, I'm sure you're not the only guy out there who pays, but alot of them need to be convinced that guys should pay even though they should pay, it's just the gentleman thing to do. But of course, there's none of those left.
Wait, so the new age of woman believes they should be able to have equal stead in the job market as men, but still allow them to pay for things?

[mandude]

I imagine she would be shocked because chilvarly seems to be dead with alot of guys out there. Although I have dated guys who have paid for me but that still didn't make them the best dates, at all. Alot of them were still dinks.
But no, I'm sure you're not the only guy out there who pays, but alot of them need to be convinced that guys should pay even though they should pay, it's just the gentleman thing to do. But of course, there's none of those left.Okay, so we should pay for everything, because it's the gentleman thing to do? Please explain how this is fair. O_o

Also, for someone who judges guys alot, you sure do end up going out with alot of bad ones, so maybe the problem isn't entirely them?

[Kerry]

I imagine she would be shocked because chilvarly seems to be dead with alot of guys out there. Although I have dated guys who have paid for me but that still didn't make them the best dates, at all. Alot of them were still dinks.
But no, I'm sure you're not the only guy out there who pays, but alot of them need to be convinced that guys should pay even though they should pay, it's just the gentleman thing to do. But of course, there's none of those left.
That's not fair :|

[Nirvana_rox]

:agree:

[Bob!]

Exactly, I believe chivalry is now dead because of two things:

1. The women taking it for granted and expecting it all the time, just concentrating on what they could get outa it instead o why the bloke was actually doing it for em, therefore resultin in a lotta the blokes (rightfully so) saying "fuck this" and stopping doing it.

2. Due to a lotta the blokes stopping it, then women then just didn't care about it anymore and classed it completely dead instead of trying to adjust their ways, then instead of seeking out the few blokes who were still willing to be gentlemen, also just thought "bollocks to it" and went for whatever they could get, normally the arseholes who were the complete opposite of the gentleman of old. That then lead other blokes to think, "why the fuck should we even bother anymore if they don't care? They come to us anyways so we can get everythin we want without even botherin, less effort 4tw."

And that then just set off the decline to how things are now. Women rarely bother with the Men who still remember the values of old, and just go out and get whatever they can, and cause o that, a lotta the blokes don't bother anymore cause they know they can get whatever they want without making as much effort.

No Man one HAD to be a gentleman like they did, they did it it outa the good o their own hearts, with honor and respect for their lady, that was through CHOICE, yet that fact was forgotted and stopped being valued, therefore setting off a downward spirial to how things are now, where any bloke can get what he wants with the least of effort, only caring about onesself, while the women go for that anyways.

Yes I realise thats heavilly generalising and does state that its bothe the fault of men and women, but I believe thats how it went. All because people forgot the WHY the Men used to keep to our standards and do what we did, as a TREAT, not a necessity. And even thats still rarely valued now, simple looks and attitude have replaced such things, even such things as the old quote "Manners make a Man" are forgotten.

[Helena]

Yep! :P
Women whinge about wanting equality of the sexes, then expect the men to pay for them.
Silly girls.

lol. that's true. ;)

[Innamorata]

Me and Callum both pay for things. No other guy has really paid for anything, except my ex best friend and he fancied me. Seems like guys only pay for things if they fancy you.

[Jimbob]

Me and Callum both pay for things. No other guy has really paid for anything, except my ex best friend and he fancied me. Seems like guys only pay for things if they fancy you.

Yeah, you have a point. A lot of guys will buy things hoping to get something in return, like i've heard a few guys in bars before say to women 'I'll buy you a drink if you give me a kiss'. Not too fond on them people.

[Innamorata]

Yeah it's annoying. I've bought things for my female friends, and they've bought things for me, so I don't see why guys can't do that without there being some agenda.

[Bob!]

True that most will only do it if they like the lass or whatever, and mainly I'd only go full on with it if I was actually going out with em, or datin or whatever.

As for just doing it with friends then a couple off here will know that I've no qualms with buying a lady a drink if she appreciates it and spesh if short on money, but once the person starts trying to push their luck and get more outa it (ALICE) then they can jus :gtfo: immediately. :P

As said before, as soon as courtesy starts being took for granted then bollocks to that, there is no more.

[Leon]

Seems like guys only pay for things if they fancy you.Not always the case. I have bought drinks for girls I hardly know, sometimes even just met, doesn't mean I fancy them.

Yeah, you have a point. A lot of guys will buy things hoping to get something in return, like i've heard a few guys in bars before say to women 'I'll buy you a drink if you give me a kiss'. Not too fond on them people.They are indeed twats.

True that most will only do it if they like the lass or whatever, and mainly I'd only go full on with it if I was actually going out with em, or datin or whatever.

As for just doing it with friends then a couple off here will know that I've no qualms with buying a lady a drink if she appreciates it and spesh if short on money, but once the person starts trying to push their luck and get more outa it (ALICE) then they can jus :gtfo: immediately. :P

As said before, as soon as courtesy starts being took for granted then bollocks to that, there is no more.Glad Bob said 'most' there.

Alice been pushing it a bit has she? lol

[Bob!]

lol she used to, and even thought that attempting to shove her tits in ones face would grant an instant purchase of another drink.

Not all of us are so simple though. :P

And lol yes I made sure not to fully generalise with that cause as said I'm one o those who will just buy one outa courtesy an friendship or whatever, very rarely (if at all) do somethin like that just cause I like the person in that way.

[Nintendus]

Exactly, I believe chivalry is now dead because of two things:

Perhaps it is dead because it is meant to be dead. We drop the attitude that woman should look pretty and be in the kitchen, why should we maintain the ones that we should pay for them, hold doors open, let ladies go first etc. It's selective equality.

You all talk about how you do it for girls you do not fancy "Not always the case. I have bought drinks for girls I hardly know, sometimes even just met, doesn't mean I fancy them.", yet you still do say girls, like you would not do the same for a man who was your friend.

It's a daft attitude for us to maintain in modern days.

[Rashella]

I would think it was a sweet thing to do if a guy paid for me but i wouldnt expect him to.

[Bob!]

Perhaps it is dead because it is meant to be dead. We drop the attitude that woman should look pretty and be in the kitchen, why should we maintain the ones that we should pay for them, hold doors open, let ladies go first etc. It's selective equality.

You all talk about how you do it for girls you do not fancy "Not always the case. I have bought drinks for girls I hardly know, sometimes even just met, doesn't mean I fancy them.", yet you still do say girls, like you would not do the same for a man who was your friend.

It's a daft attitude for us to maintain in modern days.

True but I prefer to remember the traits and ways of old that are nowdays forgotten, I think it was a good balance at the time when it worked and I agree thats crumbled now but, one can still try and honor it at least ya? But as stated no bloke "has" to, and most don't nowdays so tis just me own choice.

Also as to the bit with buying blokes a drink yeah I thought about that and I I did compare it to mesen with buying normal lady friends a drink as well so aye, nowt wrong with buying a bloke mate a beer, hell its how we blokes communicate with most things lol. A favour returned, or a birthday celebration for us is done with a pint lol, I think I and Leon just meantioned girls specifically because the debate was upon them and buying a bloke a beer just comes as standard.

[Leon]

Yeah I buy lads and lasses drinks. No favouritism.

[Jimbob]

Yeah I buy lads and lasses drinks. No favouritism.

Be seeing you at pub tonight ;) lol.

[Gemrlou]

If a guy offered to pay for something for me I would actually refuse, I'd feel like I was taking advantage or something. I'd be really shocked, but really happy at the same time. I'd be loving it.
It'd be really sweet, but I don't think I could expect ANYONE to buy me anything really.

[God.]

I'm just naturally generous. If I have money, then I tend to buy things for people. It's because I'm nice.

[Leon]

I'm just naturally generous. If I have money, then I tend to buy things for people. It's because I'm nice.Same here.

[xMissIzzyx]

I'm just naturally generous. If I have money, then I tend to buy things for people. It's because I'm nice.
Same, I buy one of my girls things all the time but I know she appreciates it. Like recently I bought her a vinyl of her faveourite band cos I know she can't afford stuff liek that.
I like when guys buy things for me, and I appreciate it. I was gonna say before, Jimbob's very generous towards me and I feel a bit guilty about it sometimes but he offers so.. and he knows I appreciate it :)

[Menace]

Its never wrong to pay for pretty ones.

[Celi]

It's sweet when a guy offers but, I like to pay for my own stuff. If it's a lunch or something I like to split the bill. Then you have those guys who insist on paying every fricken time we go out when that happens I A) Let them or B) Race them to the counter to pay for it or sneak the money back in their wallet or jacket.

I feel guilty if they pay for everything. I have money too you know and when they do pay of course I'm appreciative.

Much Love, Celi

[Innamorata]

Pfft. No one on here has bought me a drink, not even the ones that said they would buy a girl one, even if they didn't fancy her. I can pay for myself though, so I don't really care.

[fraggled]

Its sweet when a girl trys to say she can pay for her self, its so cute, are you really trying to get my ass kicked by my mom? No seriously, I was raised to treat a girl right and I'm gonna do exactly that like it or not :|, its not about money anymore, its about fuckin with the natural order of things as we know it.

[Bob!]

Pfft. No one on here has bought me a drink, not even the ones that said they would buy a girl one, even if they didn't fancy her. I can pay for myself though, so I don't really care.
Ahem, I bought you all food at least remember? :P

Which is actually a perfect example o what we're on about in this topic with how things can be done fer friends as well, the courtesy thing and main topic is about paying for lasses ya in a relationship with though I think.

And lol yeah Jord, tis just natural and how its been for years. If the lass really doesn't want it then fair enough ,but say if its a treat day out for her or whatever I'd like to pay for everythin, otherwise its best to go half an half an so on, ya doin a lil for each other then.

Even then though for lasses who I'm not with or even after I'd still buy em a drink or hold open a door or whatever cause that just comes naturally as well. As long as they appreciated it and didn't start gettin on me case the one time I didn't do it or whatever (when most don't at all) or takin it for granted then I'm happy bein like that, jus feels like how its meant to be.

[Leon]

Pfft. No one on here has bought me a drink, not even the ones that said they would buy a girl one, even if they didn't fancy her. I can pay for myself though, so I don't really care.I've only been out with you once, and we bought booze from a shop so nerr.:P

[Foych]

Its sweet when a girl trys to say she can pay for her self, its so cute, are you really trying to get my ass kicked by my mom? No seriously, I was raised to treat a girl right and I'm gonna do exactly that like it or not :|, its not about money anymore, its about fuckin with the natural order of things as we know it.

you got that right.i have to pay for drinks even if i don't date that girl. that's how i was raised

[Jimbob]

Pfft. No one on here has bought me a drink, not even the ones that said they would buy a girl one, even if they didn't fancy her. I can pay for myself though, so I don't really care.

I gave you some doritios :P

[Rashella]

I gave you some doritios :P

And who said chivalry was dead? xD

[Nintendus]

Why chivarly is what I am saying? Why not just generosity and manners?

I mean sure you would treat a date/prospective date, however you shouldn't give normal girls preferance over other men.

[Darts]

I agree with you partly Nintendus. But I still think it's sweet! lol.

I don't always have a lot of money but when I do I get drinks for other people too :D Money is for enjoying yourself with friends, not for spending on you, although I love buying clothes as much as the next person :D

[Bob!]

Why chivarly is what I am saying? Why not just generosity and manners?

I mean sure you would treat a date/prospective date, however you shouldn't give normal girls preferance over other men.
I do still look out for fellow blokes as well, and as said with the drink buying and so on I'd treat em the same, but I dunno I guess I do treat lasses slightly more special with courtesy and so on, like making extra sure to hold doors open and all that, moreso because I probably just naturally think that the blokes can look after themselves (not saying the women can't) so its kinda like a mutual agreement/normal friendship thing with blokes while with the ladies I slightly put meself out a more.

Kinda like with blokes we sorta watch out for each other still and repay gratitude and so on, but don't go too far out of our way to do it under normal circumstances.

Kinda hard to explain :S

[Innamorata]

I gave you some doritios :P

I hate doritos, so no you didn't.


Ahem, I bought you all food at least remember? :P



When?


I've only been out with you once, and we bought booze from a shop so nerr.:P

Pftt. You were at Tim's party too!

[Leon]

Pftt. You were at Tim's party too!If they weren't gay about ID and not let me buy my drinks purely cos I forgot to take my ID cos I went straight from college, then maybe I would have done.
Next time I might do :)

[Bob!]

When?
Nice to see thats remembered. :O

Ya don't remember the pizza I bought for you and Callum that ya totally and absolutely ruined with a whole gallon o mayo (Swamp juice) or whatever the feck it was ya poured allover it?

[Jimbob]

I hate doritos, so no you didn't.
At Shanes birthday thing at his house after, I gave Callum some. Thought I'd given you some too.

And who said chivalry was dead? xD :D

[Innamorata]

At Shanes birthday thing at his house after, I gave Callum some. Thought I'd given you some too.
:D

No, I can remember me and Callum being absolutely starving and him telling me that you'd gone to buy food, then you came back with only two bags of doritos so I went to sleep starving.


If they weren't gay about ID and not let me buy my drinks purely cos I forgot to take my ID cos I went straight from college, then maybe I would have done.
Next time I might do :)

Hmph fine. You better, cos it will be mine and Callum's anniversary!


Nice to see thats remembered. :O

Ya don't remember the pizza I bought for you and Callum that ya totally and absolutely ruined with a whole gallon o mayo (Swamp juice) or whatever the feck it was ya poured allover it?

I was very drunk, I thought Callum paid for it. Thanks then.

[Leon]

Hmph fine. You better, cos it will be mine and Callum's anniversary!True, therefore I shall.

[PinkPanther22]

well...most bfs pay for w/e their gf eats/drinks when they are with them...

Funnyish story. I have a bf...but i went to a movie with my ex (we're friends..no sexual tension lol) i paid for our tickets cuz i got there first...new movie didnt want them to get sold out. So he gets there seeing i bought the tickets and apparently that was code for "hey buddy, make a move on me in the movie." and yes, he thought by me buying the tickets it was ok for him to make a move. idiot. lol