I met him off the net, fell inlove...then found out he kissed another girl :(

[jadejj]

hey, i'm new on this so sorry if i'm doin everythin wrong lol...

well last january 2006 i met this guy on a chatroom. he then gave me his mates addy (his names ben)and we got on really well and so weve been talkin on MSN for a year n a half now, since january we were propa close, we talked everyday on the phone n everythin, it was well genuine n it was obvious we rele liked eachother. we'd always say tht we loved eachother but it wasnt propa serious. we were guna meet this summer, i thought it was time tht we shud cuz we got to know eachother rele well.

ON MONDAY his mate sed tht last thursday the guy i rele liked kissed another girl last thursday.

i was well gutted, i memba speakin 2 him the day afta he "got with another girl" and he didnt even say anythin, acted as if he didn't do anythin.

anywayz, i confronted him about 2 days ago n he admitted it, his excuse was tht he was rele drunk n he didnt mean it. he also sed he loves me n everything, n tht he feels bad n has fucked everythin up. i asked him y he didnt tell me n he sed "i didnt wanna hurt u n i didn't want u 2 be mad at me" LMAO omg mad at him? lol. he shudnt of done it in the 1st place.

i honestly thought he was the one. lukily i haven't cried, but i rele want to, i just can't.

i got drunk last night n i txted him sayin tht i didnt think he was like tht, i also ended it :(... but i rele love him


plz help me, just tell me if it was the right thing or not. i do rele love him tho, i can't believe he did it..drunk or not. its no excuse. xxx

[Rashella]

I have a question, before he kissed this girl were you actually bf&gf or just fancy eachother?

Also someone should move this to dating&relationships

[Jimbob]

Online relationships suck.

[Kate]

Aye, what James said.
Online relationships suck, and mean nothing face to face.

[tf_arl_90]

ON MONDAY his mate sed tht last thursday the guy i rele liked kissed another girl last thursday.

i was well gutted, i memba speakin 2 him the day afta he "got with another girl" and he didnt even say anythin, acted as if he didn't do anythin.

Had you two made an agreement that you weren't going to date other people? I'm guessing so. If that's the case, I think that's kind of foolish on both of your parts. You don't truly know a person until you meet them and spend some quality time with them. Neither of you should be expecting the other to sit back and not experience teenage life because of an internet "relationship" holding you back. There's more to a relationship than just liking the other person a whole lot.

And before you jump on my back and think I'm against you, I 100% believe that feelings -- strong feelings -- can be developed between two people online. Whether it's a strong bond of friendship or a "more than friends" relationship, it happens, I know, and I believe you when you say you felt strongly for him.


anywayz, i confronted him about 2 days ago n he admitted it, his excuse was tht he was rele drunk n he didnt mean it. he also sed he loves me n everything, n tht he feels bad n has fucked everythin up. i asked him y he didnt tell me n he sed "i didnt wanna hurt u n i didn't want u 2 be mad at me"
Hmmm well if you both agreed to be serious about this, and he can't control his actions when drunk, then why is he drinking around girls? I don't really think the "I didn't want you to be mad at me" argument works in his favor either, because he should have been honest with you from the beginning.


i got drunk last night n i txted him sayin tht i didnt think he was like tht, i also ended it :(... but i rele love him
I'm sorry you're hurting.


plz help me, just tell me if it was the right thing or not. i do rele love him tho, i can't believe he did it..drunk or not. its no excuse. xxx
I think that if you truly believe you have something special together, the both of you should remain friends, but ditch the "no kissing other people" rule. You're both hormonal teenagers and it's gonna happen, so you might as well salvage the friendship. Without his friend as your messenger, how are you to know that he isn't doing more than just kissing girls while drunk? And more still, you're both missing out on a lot of fun by confining yourselves to one person with whom you have minimal contact with.


i honestly thought he was the one.

Hang'on a sec. You are 15. What does "the one" mean?! Take a step back and think about how much of your life you have in front of you. Don't worry about that stuff now. You'll be a completely different person in just five years' time.

Get yourself out there and have some fun. It's time to move on.

[Leon]

These daft things can happen when drunk, sometimes it doesn't have to end what you had, the phrase 'forgive and forget' springs to mind, I've kissed a girl while seeing another before, I admitted it my gf straight away though, she got upset, but overall saw it was a mistake and forgave which I was so grateful for and we stayed together.

[jadejj]

thanks for all ur advice guys, i am still speakin 2 this guy but nothin will happen now. i have realised tht i have been stupid and i am going out and having fun more. there is no point bein stuck on the computer talkin 2 someone. i still like this guy but i know it will never work so i'm just goin with the flow and i feel great :D xxx

[jadejj]

Had you two made an agreement that you weren't going to date other people? I'm guessing so. If that's the case, I think that's kind of foolish on both of your parts. You don't truly know a person until you meet them and spend some quality time with them. Neither of you should be expecting the other to sit back and not experience teenage life because of an internet "relationship" holding you back. There's more to a relationship than just liking the other person a whole lot.
Edit: (Use the quote button to do this^)

to the guy who sed tht ^^^
Edit: that member is a girl

oh yh i had always sed to him he can do what he likes but dont lead me on if he isn't serious... but ah well lol x

[Sponge'K'nob]

Right firstly how ar away do you live from eachother?
You have never met so I do not see why you cannot meet other people.
Some people text other people or go out and have a meaningless kiss until they actually go out with one person...keeping their options open if you like.
Personally I don't believe in online relationships, but if you feel you need to have one at least give him the consideration.

[HawtCK]

lol?

[jadejj]

well we live like 200 miles away....but it's never guna work lol. i still speak to him and tht. but i'm kinda still thinkin he still wants 2 meet me, but i don't wanna meet him

[xdoobiex]

i think...online relationships arent really that serious...and, do u actually think ur in love with somebody u have never seen and hung out with in person?

[jadejj]

i think...online relationships arent really that serious...and, do u actually think ur in love with somebody u have never seen and hung out with in person?

nope i ent inlove with him...i never was and i have realised tht now.

[gemsy]

he could of been a pedo for all you know...

[Sponge'K'nob]

200 miles?
jeez...

[jadejj]

he could of been a pedo for all you know...

a peado? no way, i had evidence he wasn't. but anyway its over so yh lol

[gemsy]

just stating a point... i didnt know that u had the evidence so ye.