Should I date him....

[lovin_it]

ok i like this guy and he made it clear that he doesn't like me back, which is fine, i can move on cos it's not like i'm desperate for him or anything, it's just that he has a great personality. anyway, my friend was the one who asked him out for me. he said no because he said that i'm really quiet and shy. i can be when it comes to boys but when i'm with my friends i am the loud one. so i'm quiet in different situations. anyway, my friend said to him that i'm a nice person, bubbly and a good singer when i'm with my friends and i can be loud. my friend pushed him to go out with me cos she said that "you don't know what ur missing". (not true) and he said that he wants a girl who's confident and he said that just because i can sing it doesn't mean that he likes me. anyway my friend gave up on him and i'm in the process of moving on.

then later that month he saw me with my girls at karaoke place at this club we went to. he thought that i was bubbly and fun to be with and liked my voice. anyway he had lots of chances when my friend told him to be with me. so now he changed his mind? he should've gave me a chance in the first place. do you think this is just so to get back at me? i dunno, confused...

thanks

[g36calex]

Why not give it a try guys can be wierd like that and maybe you should have tryd to become closer firends with him just so he would've got to know you at first.

[Rashella]

Well, can you be more bubbly/confident in the future? If he saw you confident that night he'd going to believe what your friend said, can you be that person more often? If not he's going to be suprised when you go back to being the quiet person he didnt want to date.

If you can make the effort to be more confident then yes, you should date him. But if you dont feel you can/want to change then its better to just admit that to yourself and him and save yourself the heartache.

[1truelove]

ok i think that if the guy told u that he didnt like you at first and when he felt like it hes gonna give u a chance???? hmmm... i think he wants to be in control personally and if thats so grl u can get sooo much better i would act like you dont like him for a lil bit and then if he still acts like he likes u then u will be in control and the grl should always be in control of the relationship i mean if u really really like him like a whole lot then ya go ahead and give him a chacne its just from experience he really dosnt like you and he just wants to show u that he can get u when he wants not when u want u kno??

[Leon]

I'll tell you why he only decided on it when he saw you at the club, because it was you! Rather than your friend all the time just saying how good you are. No wonder he said you were shy if all he ever got was your friend talking to him instead of you.

Any friend will tell someone how nice their friend is if they like them, however you friend constantly talking to them while you take a back seat simply only lessens the chances of him thinking of dating you.
When he saw you having a fun time and you talked to him, that's when he saw what you're like rather than getting an opinion off your friends.

I'd say if you like him and he likes you from seeing you then why not give it a shot. Just stop with the constant sending over a friend to talk to him and do it yourself. If you don't feel confident to go alone, go with your friend and talk to him, but don't just let your friend do all the talking for you.

He'll only like you more if you actually talk to him.

[lovin_it]

do you think i should date him then? you see i don't know if he's joking or not just cos i told my friends i like him...maybe i should just like go on a date wit him see what happens

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

He sounds like he's confusing you and toying with your emotions, but why let him do that?
He's already made it clear he doesn't like you so move on and forget about him, because he sounds like a flake.

[Leon]

do you think i should date him then? you see i don't know if he's joking or not just cos i told my friends i like him...maybe i should just like go on a date wit him see what happensYeah, why not give it a try, you have nothing to lose really.