Friendship advice!

[myth1002]

Well, I have a situation where I am close friends with a girl but we are not going out. I like her, she likes me but she thinks it would be weird to go out but anyway I am not asking for help how to get her to change her mind etc.

I was talking to a few guys at work and told them how we are and they said to me that the way me and my friend are, is not a friendship it is a relationship becuase of how much time we spend together and the things we do. They also said they have had friends who are girls and were never the way we are and that the only time they were as close they were going out.

So I am asking advice on how close can you be with a girl where you are not crossing the line so to speak becasue this friend is trying to get a new BF and has told me not to get jealous ( which obviously I will )

I will put below what we do together


We hang out almost everyday, I finish work at 5pm go round hers and leave at around 10 - 11pm
We go to the cinema very often and go to bowling, out for meals and go to bars occasionally
When we are seeing each other we just watch TV or just talk about our days
We go for walks and that general stuff
She was talking about going away over the summerI just want advice on whether you think it is only and friendship or does it seem like more? Or have you been in situations like this? And if so what did you do?

I mean I don't even see my guy friends as much as her and same with her. I was thinking on telling her that we just can't see each other that much becuase if she does not want a relationship then when I get a GF I am very sure she will not want me hanging around with another girl as much..

Thanks

Myth

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

Sounds like you two have something going.

[myth1002]

Well, after the good posts from all who posted I have decided to talk to her about cutting down how much we see each other.

Simply because she knows I like her, she like me but thinks it will be awkward which of course it may be for a little bit. But I feel we are hanging out way to much. She has seen me everyday for about the last 2 - 3 weeks and we seem to get very close but then hit a wall.

There is a girl who likes me and I am thinking on asking her out, but if it does work out I doubt she will like me seeing another girl. My "friend" already changes the subject when I talk about her but blatently rubs guys what have asked her out in my face and says I am grumpy when I don't respond!

So basicly I am going to tell her we cannot hang out as much becasue one of us, and this will most likely be me, will get hurt and if it is her I could not bear it!

Good idea or not, I am almost convinced but I don't know if that is too much to say to her.

Myth

[SurfinJoe]

If your "really close friends" I personally wouldn't risk it. Just think of it this way If you broke up that's one more awkward friendship/lost friend (worst case scenario). Watch the movie "Just Friends" (although it really doesnt fit this situation) haha