Emo Is A Way Of Life!!

[SolomonTB]

I dunno...I just decided to share somthing real quick because I've just had an epiphany at least I think that's how you spell it. I dunno I'm too lazy to check. But anyways:

I'm friends with an ex gf right? And we've been friends for 4 years and we were together for like 6 months. And you know when we were together we thought we were head over heels for each other. It felt like nothing could go wrong and we felt that we would always love each other and blah blah blah. But I just recently found out that my "best friend" is hitting on my ex gf. And you know I'm not jealous or anything because I'm aware that she's not mine anymore and she can do whatever her heart desires. But wouldn't you find it a little fucked up that your "best friend" is hitting on the girl you poured your heart out too and swore you loved her more then anything in this world?

But anyways...my epiphany was that people really do have a lack of respect for each other. They fuck with people's ex gf's when you tell them not to. They stick their nose in your shit and spread it like no one elses business. They just fuck everything up. There's not alot of people out there that you can trust now-a-days.

Would anyone else like to discuss?

[donolad]

for me it goes without saying that i would never see any of my mates gf's behind their backs, no matter how much i liked them. If they had broken up i would get my friends permisson first because someone who tells lies and messes their mates around doesn't deserve to have friends and they ultimately will end up alone. Karma will always come back and get you my friend. Rant over lol. good topic btw
edit. How to... deal with mates other halfs
you must never cheat with your mates gf/bf, however that does not mean you should run away screaming every time you see any of your mates gf's/bf's, no this would be no good. Instead you should try to act casual, try some harmless flirting, look but don't touch. Well you can touch in a friendly, relaxed way i.e. a reassuring pat to the head or. oh and when looking only look when he/she is aware of your presence. No cheeky stalking now people. Good luck

[Menace]

Oh well, you shouldn't associate with people you can't trust in the first place.

[xMissIzzyx]

"emo is a way of life"
So is homosexuality but people still get fucked up for that too.

[*Jess*]

I don't get the relevance of the title.
And I thought it was quite obvious people don't have respect and not exactly an epiphany as if it was you'd be in some sort of holy euphoric trance by now.
It is true though. But you always have to deal with the fact some people are back stabbers and that, and i guess sometimes people aren't meant to be. People live their own life and many people do lack respect to others, but I think a lot of the time people dont respect others but if you took care to do so amazingly to everyone you'd probably never get anywhere you wanted. Though I've never agreed with ex/friend relationships, unless the person involved thought it was alright.

[Bob!]

Key word: "EX"

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

I know where you're going with this, and I've been screwed over ditched off lied to stomped on so many fucking times it's too much to count, but whatever fuck them they aren't worth your time they don't deserve to be in your life he's not your best friend if he's doing that and you don't need traitors like that in your life this one chick was horrible I thought she was my best friend but I eventually had enough of her shit and I got rid of her haven't spoken to her since I can garuntee it's the best thing you can do to get rid of those phony friends otherwise they will succeed in bringing you down in the gutter with them and degrading you to nothing which is what they aim for because they don't want to feel alone they don't want to see you succeeding in good things. And I got alot further in life then I would have if I had those phony friends.
Yeah so forget about them don't let them bring you down or upset you because they aren't worth it just say fuck it laugh it off and you will find another girl a great one but that's why I don't love or trust or open my heart out to anyone because you always end up getting screwed over and they wonder why I don't care when I break up with them it's much less painful that way.

[*Jess*]

Still don't see what emo has to do with it all.
But there you are.

[VampyrMaggot]

Still don't see what emo has to do with it all.
But there you are.

seconded :S

[*Jess*]

But anyways...my epiphany was that people really do have a lack of respect for each other. They fuck with people's ex gf's when you tell them not to. They stick their nose in your shit and spread it like no one elses business. They just fuck everything up. There's not alot of people out there that you can trust now-a-days.


I think thats a bit of a stereotype. There are many people you can trust when you build up a good bond between them.
Some people are nasty and can mess up peoples lives but I dunno about this situation, it may seem your friend isn't being nice at all but nothing about what you've said about him just 'hitting on' your ex girlfriend seems like he isnt officially being disloyal to you. He may just like her, and be hitting on her but his intentions may be completely different, he may not want to do anything about it because he's your friend.

I'd talk to him about it anyway, because if you've just heard about him hitting on her from someone else:
1) it may be them you shouldn't trust
2) you don't know the full story, the person who told you may have misinterpreted it all.
3) you need to talk to him about it, he's your friend after all you cant just let something stupid like this get in the way, yeah maybe you 'loved' her but seeing as he was there for you through it all you should talk it through and come to a solution that will save your friendship with him whatever that may be.
4) he may not think that he's doing anything to hurt you by hitting on your ex and it seems that seeing as he has obviously been so loyal to you in the past then it seems this is the truth. For the sake of both of your feelings you need to tell him it does bother you, then if he was a true friend he'd act to save your feelings.
5) You need to come to a compromise, remember she is your ex, and he is your best friend so if it essentially needs to be one that you may not be too pleased about, then that may be the way it has to be. Compromises work both ways.


Your friendship should come first no matter what. The ex is just a thing that seems to get in the way.

[SolomonTB]

wow...I got more replies then I suspected =]
but thank you all for the advice but now this confliction has rolled over.
I just decided to let my "friend" do whatever the fuck he pleases because I don't care about him or my ex anymore so it's all good. =]

[T-Anne]

C'mon... You and your EX have been friends for 4 years, and you haven't let on that you still have feelings for her. Why should it be a problem if you friend was to start hitting on her? You're just friends remember?
And if you do still have feelings for her, maybe you should let your friend know... And explain to him that you dont like him doing it... Then see what happens from there