Relationship: Mom

[Hilarylab]

Hello. I was wondering how your relationship with your mom and you is...'cause I don't think me and my mom have one. She doesn't talk to me about things that she does with my older sister. She doesn't let me borrow her clothes like she lets my sister. do I sound greedy? HELP!!! :confused:

[Kate]

I avoid all contact with my Mother.
I don't speak to her unless I have to or I want something.
She blames me for things that aren't my fault, that and i've never been close with her or have that "mother daughter bond" most women and daughters have.

[*Jess*]

Perhaps she has a different bond with your sister. Being the older one, your mum will probably see her as the one who is the adult and the one who she can relate to in adult ways. With you being the younger one/youngest, she will see you as the child most probably. It doesn't mean you have a bad relationship with your mother. :)

[nin]

i try not to talk to my mom because we argue loads. and if i try and tell her things then she ens up crying. like if someone upsets me at school and i feel really bad because of it i have to get my brothers girlfriend to tell my mom.

[VraiCanon]

I have a great relationship with my mother, but I didn't used to. I used to think I 'hated' my mum etc blah blah like a typical teenager but we're over that now after I realized how much I actually take my mum for granted.
Now we talk about anything & everything and I love & respect her more than anyone else in this world.

[Wacko1574]

ha my mum tries to have that relationship now..well u used to talk abt anything....but 2 years ago she started using wut i tell her against me...and she blabs everything to her sister.."my aunt"....s...besides we began that whole arguing on anythin and everythin...so i keep my distance... o i dnt trust her...but i still do respect her i suppose...:)

[nofearinc]

I read each post and then I guessed each of your ages... Because I find it quite a normal social reaction. When I was 13-14-15 I had 'Emo' life - I thought everyone hates me, my friends would forget about me, all teachers do hate me and of course I thought my mother hates me, too. The key was in the truth and the ages, too - I was a young teenager with first steps in love, developing puberty, increasing number of hormones etc., as my mum was in the so called 'critical' age - 40/50 years old when some other physical processes stop in the body of an adult.
The other key was truth, confidence and proofs - I had troubles with being let to go on a party or with a girl, because I was still my Mom's young kid. Now, few years later, I have a working experience, being a kind of important person in my circle and my opinion matters more than the one of a confused kid. Having a confidence somewhere - in a sport, hobby, art, work or something makes you look like a reliable person which would first lead you out of the situation 'he is still too young' and then give you enough energy to face this contact with your mom like a growing adult.

[Leon]

When I was 13-14-15 I had 'Emo' life - I thought everyone hates me, my friends would forget about me, all teachers do hate me and of course I thought my mother hates me, too. The key was in the truth and the ages, too - I was a young teenager with first steps in love, developing puberty, increasing number of hormones etc., as my mum was in the so called 'critical' age - 40/50 years old when some other physical processes stop in the body of an adult.I think you'll find that's called being a teenager.

[Innamorata]

My mum is over protective, controlling, and bad tempered. Yay!

[lucille]

Intense. She knows everything about me, for the most part we're like best friends, but when we argue I can go weeks without talking to her at all. She has chucked me out the house about five times and once held up a knife and told me she wanted to kill me. Good times.

[Dani_x]

me and my mum used to argue basicly all the time and id never go and see her or stop at hers, this was mainly because mainly my bf and i wanted to start leading my own life but after a few months we sorted it all out and started going out shopping and to the pub together and stuff just to spend time with each other. i still dont stop at hers tho but i do go and see her occasionly.

[Hilarylab]

:sadangel: I don't think we are ever going to get along...

[Leon]

As long as you think that, you won't.

[Hilarylab]

okay...anyway...:agree:

[Leon]

You need to think positive and think through talking and being nice with each other a strong bond will form again.

[oOoBubblesoOo]

I've lived with my Dad and brother for 4years and lived with my Dad,brother and step-mum for 5years(now 16yrs old.) so i didnt live with my mum any of the time that i was ''growing up'' and really havnt got a bond with her atall. I visit her weekends but I can't talk too her about anything ..its just how it is. I keep stuff too myself.

[Hilarylab]

:cyaz: :D :cheers: :) I kept everthing to myself. But yester day I opened up to her...now she actually talks to me the way she does my sister!!! YAY!!! (you know, the girl stuff!):) thanx guys for the help!:P

[Leon]

Well yeah, if you open up and talk to her she'll do the same to you.

[Hilarylab]

and she did thanx to you guys! O_Oyou just made one almost 13 year old VERY happy!

[Leon]

Aww, that's nice to hear :D

[Fez]

if step mom counts. dont really talk to her. but i dont treat her bad either. she makes great food.

[Kate]

I wish i had a step mum :(
Then i could be mean and prod her when she wouldnt cook me nice food, and bully money out of her.

[lucille]

I wish i had a step mum :(
Then i could be mean and prod her when she wouldnt cook me nice food, and bully money out of her.

I have the best step dad ever. After six years of living with us he obviously still feels like he has to win us over. He bought me Versace sunglasses last week. I would feel bad, he's actually a nice guy, but its Versace.

[Hilarylab]

oh...yeah. I don't have a step mom anyway.

[Menace]

My mum is over protective, controlling, and bad tempered. Yay!

Mines like that.

She's naive, lazy and careless as well.

But she's willing to pay for anything I want so I can't complain. :D