Messed Up A Potential Date

[Smithswood]

OK well there is this girl I like and well I organized for us to go out to the cinema and then go get pizza but then i said to her: 'you still wanna go have pizza yano like a date thing' to which she replied


'a date nah just friends' (this is over a non instant messenger messages)

well I guess this could be as plain as it sounds but

will this make the whole night out feel awkward?
will there be any chance of us two being together?
have I completely messed up all chances of friendship too?
could she still change her mind in 3 days and give i ta shot at being an "us"?

thnx for any help given

[Bob!]

Hmm I'd say lay offa it for now or its just gunna drive a wedge between ya.

If ya pretend what ya said never happened and just go out for a pizza and whatever with her anyways then it won't be too awkward, just chat and do what ya normally would have with any of ya other friends, without trying to make it a date.

Itl only mess ya friendship up if ya either let it make ya feel awkward, or ya keep trying to get her to go with ya, cause she just might not want to.

As to the rest well, theres still a possibility she could change her mind one day, especially if she sees ya prepared to just be happy with how ya both are, but don't dote on that as you'll end up wishing for it.

So yeh, ignore any hope for anything "more" with her for now, and just treat it like a normal friendship, if it changes later then alls good, if not then yall still be friends.

[*Jess*]

Go to the cinema and everythng, act normally around her, like you would with any friend but also treat her like a lady. Make her laugh if you can and flatter her. It doesn't have to be a date but you can show your interest in her discretely, but by not acting upon it you'll show you also are satisfied with being friends.

Either that or you could just settle for being friends for a while, and then after a few trips out you could see how she feels.

You won't have ruined your friendship. Girls actually like it when guys like them, its a big boost of confidence as its very flattering, it can also sometimes bring you closer together as friends. Well it has in my experience anyway. We don't expect you all to be miracle workers, and both ask us out yet not ask out the ones who don't like you back for the sake of friendship as frankly thats impossible. You never know if you dont try. So we are sensitive about it, and we dont just decide you shouldnt be our friends if you like us. Unless you're really sleazy about it we mostly don't like it, we think its very sweet.

I'd also say 3 days is a bit of a short period of time. Do your best to try and get closer to her as friends for a while and then after that see how it goes.

[VraiCanon]

Shes being honest & extremely blunt with you. She just wants to be friends! So don't even waste your time racking your brain over a relationship with her.

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

Just give it some time and if not, remember everything happesn for a reason.