How long did you wait?

[Guest27]

**I just feel the need to verify; in no way am I going to base my own action's off other's, I'm just curious and wondered how long people waited 'generally', but I know that when it comes down to it, it's an individual situation and choice that decides it.**

So, to the point.. how long, for those of you who first engaged in sexual activity in a relationship, had you been in that relationship?

For myself, well.. I'm in a relationship now, never been in one before, and neither of us had done anything before. We first kissed when we'd been going out for a couple of weeks, we've now been together for three months and have gradually worked up to the point of touching each other, masturbation I suppose you could call it, through clothing. I'm fine with this. And my boyfriend has been totally honest with me; he's at the stage where he is just waiting for me to be ready for anything else. He's willing to take whatever step next, doesn't have a limitation of his own, but is also willing to wait for me to be ready, no intentions of rushing me. Oh, and we're 17 and 18.

So.. for you guys? Touching/oral sex/penetrative sex, whatever you'd consider a 'step', for those of you willing to share.

[Bob!]

The "steps" are pretty obvious in what order theyre done just as how ya listed em, along with the main thing which is ya do em whenever ya BOTH feel ready for em.

I'd advise progressing through the "steps" first as ya are doing rather then jumping straight into sex or whatever, best not to rush things and plus its more fun that way. ;)

As to how long I waited in life, over 19 years.

In the relationship though it can be whenever ya both feel ready and ok about it, long as ya know you've not rushed each other and 100% wanted to, its all good.

[Innamorata]

I waited a couple of months which isn't as long as I'd been planning to wait, but I'd known him for a few years, we'd been best friends for about a year and I knew he loved me. I waited till I felt the same about him and then dragged him off to my bedroom :P

[adrian89]

Me and my bf waited 11 months

but it all depends.

i dated someone 2 and a half years and never fucked him

[Leon]

About 2 months with the girl I lost my virginity to.

[Menace]

Sixth grade during math class; hand-job fun under the desk.

Math was really boring. :D

[Leon]

2 horny people = 1 handjob?

[Menace]

Mommy had to pick me up after school. :D

[Leon]

Due to lack of being able to walk properly?

[Menace]

Lol no, she always picks me up after school is over. :D

[Innamorata]

Aww bless.

[Menace]

Hehehe :D

[VraiCanon]

I waited 3 months before I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend. Wish I'd waited longer but I did want to lose my virginity to him. I was so infatuated with him.

There is no right / wrong length of time you should 'wait.' Just whenever you both feel ready.

[Little Star]

i waited a month and half, i had known him for a long time and we had sort of seeing each other for a few months before starting t date seriously if you understand>

[xxshellzxx]

i waited 4 months... he broke up with me a wk after we did it which shows he got wat he wanted... i was 13. bad idea... you learn from mistakes tho...

[nyx]

I waited just short of two months when I lost my virginty, it just seemed the right stage to o it. But yeh like has been said theres no definite time, do it when it feels right.

[Stephanie]

For my first boyfriend, we kissed before we went out. And then we went out and I gave him head (first time I gave head) after 8 days. I regretted it MAJORLY because I wasn't ready but I felt it was what you were "supposed to do". I was 15 at the time.

For my second boyfriend, we kissed, I gave him head and he fingered me before we were going out. We had been seeing each other for like two months and then he finally asked me out. When we started going out I decided to wait a while until I next gave him head because I didn't want it to be about sex. So I think 2 months into the relationship, I gave him head again and then 3 months we had sex. He didn't give me head until the the 4th month because I didn't like the idea of him having his tongue down there. Now I love it! xD