153 Things to Do Instead of Self Harming

[Shane]

153 Things to Do Instead of Self HarmingIn no particular order, here is a list of things you can do instead of self-injuring. :)


1) Exercise
2) Putting on fake tattoos
3) Drawing on yourself in red marker (make sure it's washable!)
4) Scribbling on sheets an sheets of paper
5) Writing (poetry, stories, journal, etc.)
6) Cuddling with a stuffed toy
7) Being with other people
8) Watching a favorite TV show (preferably a comedy)
9) Posting on web boards, and answering others' posts
10) Thinking about how I DON'T want scars for the summer
11) Painting your nails
12) Going to see a movie
13) Eating something ridiculously sweet (or any favorite food)
14) Doing school work
15) Surf the net
16) Go into chat rooms to talk
17) Call a friend and ask for company
18) Playing a musical instrument
19) Singing
20) Looking up at the sky (night is especially beautiful) .
21) Making your own list of things to do instead of SI
22) Punching a punching bad (with gloves on)
23) Shoot rubberbands across the room.
24) Cover yourself with band-aids where you want to cut
25) Mix warm water and red food colouring, and put in on your skin (feels and looks like blood)
26) Letting yourself cry (can be very difficult for some)
27) Sleep (only if you are tired)
28) A hot shower, or relaxing bath (no razors in the tub, though)
29) Play with a pet
30) Detangling yarn or necklaces
31) Re-organizing your room
32) Cleaning (hmmm...I very rarely use this one!)
33) Having a pillowfight with the wall (yes, neighbours may think you are crazy, but that's ok)
34) Knitting or sewing
35) Reading a good book
36) Dressing up very glamorous (make sure no one can walk in on you, though)
37) Colouring my hair
38) Listening to music (try yo use calm music)
39) Watching a candle burn (no playing with the flames!)
40) Finding someone else you can help out
41) Meditate
42) Watching a scary (but not bloody, but if bloody movies help, than watch a bloody one) movie.
43) Work on a website
44) Have a vivid fantasy love affair with a celebrity
45) Go somewhere very public
46) Bake
47) Alphabetize your CD's
48) Chewing leather (especially if you SI by biting)
49) Buy a home Henna tatoo kit (peels off the next day-similar to skin picking)
50) Painting or drawing
51) Ripping paper into itty-bitty pieces
52) Hugs-(this one is very nice...)
53) Writting letters or email
54) Talk to yourself (or if that feels weird, buy a small tape recorder-I then feel like someone is listening)
55) Stroke nice fabrics
56) Hug a pillow
57) Hyperfocus on something like a rock, hand, etc.
58) fingerpaint
59) Scream real loud (I LOOOVE this one-just make sure no one is home)
60) Dance
61) Make hot chocolate (mmmmm....)
62) pop bubble wrap
63) play with modelling clay or Play-Dough
64) count to one hundred
65) Build a pillow fort
66) pop balloons
67) Hug yourself
68) Sex
69) Reading things in a different language
70) Going for a nice, long drive
71) Complete something you've been putting off
72) Drinking absurd amounts of tea
73) Breaking plastic plates
74) Tearing up socks
75) Throwing socks against the wall
76) Archery
77) Rock climbing
78) Take up a new hobby
79) Organise bills and such
80) Cook a meal
81) Go out for ice cream
82) Buy a stuffed animal (I collect Beanie Babies)
83) Look at pretty things-like flowers or artwork
84) Create Something
85) Pray
86) Randomly wave at people
87) Make a list of blessings in your life
88) Read the Bible
89) Go to a friend's house
90) Take up fencing
91) Watch an old, happy movie
92) Call a Help hotline or your Therapist
93) Talk to someone close to you that knows
94) Throw a temper-tantrum
95) Hit things-other than yourself
96) Ride a bicycle
97) Polish silver or jewellery
98) Gardening or watering house plants
99) Memorizing German poetry (silly, but works!)
100) CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!
101) Feed the ducks or birds or squirrels, etc.
102) Draw on the walls
103) Play with facepaint
104) Do very Glamerous make-up
105) Colour with crayons
106) Memorise a novel or play or song
107) Put on boots and STAMP
108) Stretch
109) Find butterflies
110) Watch fish
111) Come up with baby names (even if you're not pregnant)
112) Make mashed potatoes
113) Make a tape of your favorite songs
114) Name all of your stuffed animals
115) Go SHOPPING!!!!
116) Get into my PJ's and just veg.
117) Buy cheap teddy bears and take out anger onthem instead of self.
118) Throw everything (except glass) into the centrer
119) Go to a loud concert
120) Play the 15 minute game (say you can't cut for 15 minutes, and when the time is up, start again)
121) Plan your wedding / prom
122) Hunt for stuff on Ebay (you can find ANYTHING there)
123) Alphabetize your books
124) Hunt for your perfect home in the paper
125) Take up Tai Chi
126) Try to make as many words out of your full name as possible, then do your friends names)
127) count ceiling tiles/lights
128) go clubbing
129) search ridiculous things on the web
130) colour-co-ordinate your wardrobe
131) do a home tan on yourself
132) sort all your photographs
133) colour (or scribble) over the pretty women in magazines
134) plan a dinner party
135) play with a slinky
136) but yourself some toys and play
137) start collecting comething
138) get a tattoo / peircing
139) play video/computer games
140) do a trash clean at your local park
141) Play on a swingset
142) go out and perforn a random act of kindness for someone
143) call up an old friend
144) write yourself an "I love you because" letter
145) put on fake nails
145) try to build something
146) re-arrange your house
147) go to a public place and people watch
148) go through all your old stuff
149) go bargain - hunting
150) smile at at least five people (you usually end up smiling genuinely yourself.)
151) go to the zoo and rename all the animals.
152) Go for a peaceful walk
153) Love yourself


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[Riccardo]

Or simpley read that list, by the time you have read it, you will have forgotten your plans of self harm!

I'm not reading all that :P

[Shane]

Well it will really help and they won't have to read all of it, just randomly pick something to do.

Although i suppose you are right, if you read that it will take your mind off self harm and you will have thought of loads of things to do! :)

[angisson]

grrrr too long... if i read it all i might wanna kill my self.... and that is not the purpose of this tpoic... *thinking to self: will not read all if them will not read all of them*

[Shane]

Come on this is a serious topic, I know lots of people self harm. People on here have even admitted to it, openly, in threads!

Self harm is a very serious thing these days and more people do it than you might think.

[Bob!]

Or simpley read that list, by the time you have read it, you will have forgotten your plans of self harm!

I'm not reading all that :P

Lmao true.

But still yeah it might come in useful for some.

Sticky'd :)

[Entice]

Mmmm...interesting.

[Sponge'K'nob]

sex is pretty far down the list

[Bob!]

Thats cause its not everyones absoloute number one priority kaye :rolleyes:

[NATAL!E]

I quite like number 55 to be honest.

But it could work for people, yes.

[Brianna.]

Squeezing ice cubes works quite nicely, too.

[xxrachxx]

i like 68 .........

[NeEdLeZ]

Thats cause its not everyones absoloute number one priority kaye :rolleyes:
Oh BURRRRRRRRNNNNNNNNNNN! lol

[blazeteendanny]

i hurt myself, and i do it a lot, i've tried most of the things on lists like that, but nothing helps, everytime i do something and it doesnt work i get more depressed and angrier, thus i hurt myself more and more...and i dont know what to do anymore and it sucks! i dont hurt myself enough to make myself bleed but i leave bruses, and small marks all over my arms.....and i dont know what to do.....:(

[Mamfy]

Well, why do you hurt yourself? What is wrong with your life or what is making you depressed?

[blazeteendanny]

i dont kno whats wrong, because i'm doing well at schools, i've got more friends than ever, and my mom seems happy, so i dont know whats wrong........:(

[Lindsay]

i dont kno whats wrong, because i'm doing well at schools, i've got more friends than ever, and my mom seems happy, so i dont know whats wrong........:(

sometimes people just get sad without anything paticularly bad happening.
have you tried talking to a counsellor or maybe your parents about this?
cutting, or any form of self injury, is a form of coping, so you are obviously very hurt inside.
everyone here seems really nice and would probably be more than willing to talk with you.

thats a really good list though.

[blazeteendanny]

i havent told any1 bout it and my mom wud go beserk if she knew.....

[Lindsay]

i guess its up to you because you know the situation best. All i know is that supressing it all and keeping it all to yourself will just make it worse.

[blazeteendanny]

yea but...i dont wanna tell my friends incase i upset them.....and my friends mean the world to me...which is y i pray danster73 doesnt read this....

[clueless]

isn't there a confidential student advice centre in your school? if not, you could always go to the head of your form or even your headteacher or any other teacher you trust, and tell them in confidentiality(they are obliged not to break it), and they could give you a referral to see a professional. :)

[PrincessAlice]

I've find talking about it worse because it just makes me feel like people will look down on me and judge me

I hardly ever do it anymore because i have somebody who means alot to me in my life now :i heart u

but sometimes when i'm really upset there is nothing else which will stop me from crying or take my mind off whatever is upsetting me.... kinda makes me feel in control.

its worse when i get really angry i just end up hitting things and braking things so i have quite a few scars on my fists

[blazeteendanny]

i dont feel like i can trust any1 at my school because even though i go to them for help with work or whatever they just ignore me.....

[Boy_Wonder06]

th ebest way to get advice etc is of friends, and if you feel like self harming tell a friend and they will always help you out, if they dont then come and speak to me, im HERE FOR ALL OF YOU !!! :D

[blazeteendanny]

yea but like i said...i dont want to depress my friends with them worring about me...i mean i've already had to tell one of my friends to stop worring and that i'd stopped...because he seemed so upset and down for a week after i told him......

[clueless]

childline? just a suggestion.

[blazeteendanny]

yea but what if she catches me on the phone...

[Mamfy]

Do it at a friends house or somewhere out of your house.

To be honest, if you want help, you need to take risks. This is for your benefit

[Tommeh!!!]

well Danny, i know im new but if you can trust me enough i think we should have a chat sometime, ive been through 6 years of self harm now and ive got plenty of scars that are never gonna go, which sucks to live with. and my parents didnt know and still dont. just offering some friendly advice, PM me if you are up for it. all in confidence so its 100% confidential.

[blazeteendanny]

yea but i hurt myself to leave a mark but not enough for it to be permanent or 4 it to bleed

[blazeteendanny]

yea but i hurt myself to leave a mark but not enough for it to be permanent or 4 it to bleed

[blazeteendanny]

sorry about the second message my pc's messing around...

[PrincessAlice]

and my parents didnt know and still dont

i've never told my mam but i think it would break her heart if she found out
she has seen the word carved into my arm but i told er i was only drawing it with biro and i must have dug in to hard :confused: i think shes kind of in denial

[Tommeh!!!]

yeah thats why i could never tell my parents. since my problems are clinical noones to blame, but i know they would blame themselves...and my mum is a 'worry-er' so yeah it would break their hearts. sucks rly i could do with some support like that sometimes.

[blazeteendanny]

whats clinical? and its just me and my mom...my dad left my mom when she was 6 mnths pregnant...and never turned up since...

[PrincessAlice]

its the only way i can cope with things like tonight i was at a party at my mates and this guy started having ago i had to leave because i would have hit him in the face so i ended up leaving and digging my nails into my arm till it bled

[Tommeh!!!]

Clinical means its a defect with me. its basically something wrong in my head or something, cant be helped, therefore no ones fault. just makes me a little rubbish :D hehe

[Asi9ine]

Clinical means its a defect with me. its basically something wrong in my head or something, cant be helped, therefore no ones fault. just makes me a little rubbish :D hehe
Im here if you want any support. Seems kinda shitty offer given that Im just some guy you know from forums and MSN, but I think it's better than nothing.

[Tommeh!!!]

ah thanks very much, but as i am now all is well. :D i need support when i fall though cos sometimes its bad. but i get a kick from helping others so im here to help basically.

[Ben]

lol nice one shane.

and yeh nat #55 sounds good

[song4theunloved]

i'd much rather pull out my razor than read all of that

[clueless]

i'd much rather pull out my razor than read all of that
why?

[Tommeh!!!]

good question.

[song4theunloved]

actually haha ironically enough...i tried to stop and it had been like 3 months until yesterday.i did it like right before i read this too.

[PrincessAlice]

awww keep trying i know its hard but try and find other things to take your mind off it :)

[Mamfy]

I don't understand why anyone would want to inflict pain on theirself

[Tommeh!!!]

its a hard one to understand but if youve done it, youd understand. its one of those things that doesnt make sense...i used to think the same...only to find myself doing it...but ive stopped now, well i manage not to anyway.

[Lindsay]

I don't understand why anyone would want to inflict pain on theirself

its diffucult to understand unless its you who is doing it.

[totz]

well there r alot of reasons why ppl do it.....i used to but i stopped now for bout a month or so and im feeling great....my life isnt very good but self harming was me not facing up to my probs and running all of the time but then ii realised that it doesnt have to be that way...things are wot i make it!!!!! so i stopped (well im trying to stop) for now and yeh so i can see why ppl do it......my friend does it coz she wants to be in pain coz she feels like she dont deserve anything or anyone.....i think that was why i started...well th\t and my life was a total messs........maybe illl talk to sumone but who?????

[Tommeh!!!]

depends really...theres us here...well us who can talk about that kinda stuff, OR you could seek professional help....which is adviseable....i found it helpful anyway. :D

[Mamfy]

I love helping people so I wouldn't say no if you needed some help...

[Newbledee]

go to the toilet, that realives so much stress

[PrincessAlice]

its a hard one to understand
:agree: its hard to explain aswel

[Tommeh!!!]

damn straight it is, i had to exaplin myself to my brother, who walked in on me while i was covered in blood....brotherly moment if ever you can call something one.

[Kips]

Oh ym god did you really? Is he a big or little brother?

Anyway, I guess it's nice of you to post it and some of em make sense but nothing will ever really come close to the feelings brought on by self-harm.

[Lindsay]

Anyway, I guess it's nice of you to post it and some of em make sense but nothing will ever really come close to the feelings brought on by self-harm.

yup thats very true.
most of it is just sucking it up and not doing it, those things are just to help.

[PrincessAlice]

its hard not to sometimes i know when i get stressed, angry or upset its the only thing to calm me down

[Pearson]

When Im angry I dont do owt, just look down at the floor and be quite, but if anyone says owt to me I snap at them lol.

[Tommeh!!!]

Oh ym god did you really? Is he a big or little brother?

yeah hes older, 21 to be precise.

[Shane]

What did he say to you?

[Tommeh!!!]

well...not alot..he just started crying and gave me a big hug.

which actually really hurt to know that i had hurt him so badly.

[Lindsay]

aww tom. Shows how much he cares though

[Tommeh!!!]

indeedily, :) we are good brothers.

[Boy_Wonder06]

this may sound silli but another thing u can do instead of self harming is to write poems and songs, although it seems stupid and geeky, it helps you loads, it allows you to express your feelings etc. Its the best way i know off apart from smacking a wall in lol.

[PrincessAlice]

^ i agree but i don't have the talent to write poem or song i ain't that kind of person maybe drawing would work

[Laurie]

I only ever feel the need to do it when I'm upset or angry or depressed.... I'm usally one of them, especially the latter.

The blood tastes nice sometimes....

[Guest]

thank you so much for this list

[Feign]

153 Things to Do Instead of Self HarmingIn no particular order, here is a list of things you can do instead of self-injuring. :)


1) Exercise
2) Putting on fake tattoos
3) Drawing on yourself in red marker (make sure it's washable!)
4) Scribbling on sheets an sheets of paper
5) Writing (poetry, stories, journal, etc.)
6) Cuddling with a stuffed toy
7) Being with other people
8) Watching a favorite TV show (preferably a comedy)
9) Posting on web boards, and answering others' posts
10) Thinking about how I DON'T want scars for the summer
11) Painting your nails
12) Going to see a movie
13) Eating something ridiculously sweet (or any favorite food)
14) Doing school work
15) Surf the net
16) Go into chat rooms to talk
17) Call a friend and ask for company
18) Playing a musical instrument
19) Singing
20) Looking up at the sky (night is especially beautiful) .
21) Making your own list of things to do instead of SI
22) Punching a punching bad (with gloves on)
23) Shoot rubberbands across the room.
24) Cover yourself with band-aids where you want to cut
25) Mix warm water and red food colouring, and put in on your skin (feels and looks like blood)
26) Letting yourself cry (can be very difficult for some)
27) Sleep (only if you are tired)
28) A hot shower, or relaxing bath (no razors in the tub, though)
29) Play with a pet
30) Detangling yarn or necklaces
31) Re-organizing your room
32) Cleaning (hmmm...I very rarely use this one!)
33) Having a pillowfight with the wall (yes, neighbours may think you are crazy, but that's ok)
34) Knitting or sewing
35) Reading a good book
36) Dressing up very glamorous (make sure no one can walk in on you, though)
37) Colouring my hair
38) Listening to music (try yo use calm music)
39) Watching a candle burn (no playing with the flames!)
40) Finding someone else you can help out
41) Meditate
42) Watching a scary (but not bloody, but if bloody movies help, than watch a bloody one) movie.
43) Work on a website
44) Have a vivid fantasy love affair with a celebrity
45) Go somewhere very public
46) Bake
47) Alphabetize your CD's
48) Chewing leather (especially if you SI by biting)
49) Buy a home Henna tatoo kit (peels off the next day-similar to skin picking)
50) Painting or drawing
51) Ripping paper into itty-bitty pieces
52) Hugs-(this one is very nice...)
53) Writting letters or email
54) Talk to yourself (or if that feels weird, buy a small tape recorder-I then feel like someone is listening)
55) Stroke nice fabrics
56) Hug a pillow
57) Hyperfocus on something like a rock, hand, etc.
58) fingerpaint
59) Scream real loud (I LOOOVE this one-just make sure no one is home)
60) Dance
61) Make hot chocolate (mmmmm....)
62) pop bubble wrap
63) play with modelling clay or Play-Dough
64) count to one hundred
65) Build a pillow fort
66) pop balloons
67) Hug yourself
68) Sex
69) Reading things in a different language
70) Going for a nice, long drive
71) Complete something you've been putting off
72) Drinking absurd amounts of tea
73) Breaking plastic plates
74) Tearing up socks
75) Throwing socks against the wall
76) Archery
77) Rock climbing
78) Take up a new hobby
79) Organise bills and such
80) Cook a meal
81) Go out for ice cream
82) Buy a stuffed animal (I collect Beanie Babies)
83) Look at pretty things-like flowers or artwork
84) Create Something
85) Pray
86) Randomly wave at people
87) Make a list of blessings in your life
88) Read the Bible
89) Go to a friend's house
90) Take up fencing
91) Watch an old, happy movie
92) Call a Help hotline or your Therapist
93) Talk to someone close to you that knows
94) Throw a temper-tantrum
95) Hit things-other than yourself
96) Ride a bicycle
97) Polish silver or jewellery
98) Gardening or watering house plants
99) Memorizing German poetry (silly, but works!)
100) CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!
101) Feed the ducks or birds or squirrels, etc.
102) Draw on the walls
103) Play with facepaint
104) Do very Glamerous make-up
105) Colour with crayons
106) Memorise a novel or play or song
107) Put on boots and STAMP
108) Stretch
109) Find butterflies
110) Watch fish
111) Come up with baby names (even if you're not pregnant)
112) Make mashed potatoes
113) Make a tape of your favorite songs
114) Name all of your stuffed animals
115) Go SHOPPING!!!!
116) Get into my PJ's and just veg.
117) Buy cheap teddy bears and take out anger onthem instead of self.
118) Throw everything (except glass) into the centrer
119) Go to a loud concert
120) Play the 15 minute game (say you can't cut for 15 minutes, and when the time is up, start again)
121) Plan your wedding / prom
122) Hunt for stuff on Ebay (you can find ANYTHING there)
123) Alphabetize your books
124) Hunt for your perfect home in the paper
125) Take up Tai Chi
126) Try to make as many words out of your full name as possible, then do your friends names)
127) count ceiling tiles/lights
128) go clubbing
129) search ridiculous things on the web
130) colour-co-ordinate your wardrobe
131) do a home tan on yourself
132) sort all your photographs
133) colour (or scribble) over the pretty women in magazines
134) plan a dinner party
135) play with a slinky
136) but yourself some toys and play
137) start collecting comething
138) get a tattoo / peircing
139) play video/computer games
140) do a trash clean at your local park
141) Play on a swingset
142) go out and perforn a random act of kindness for someone
143) call up an old friend
144) write yourself an "I love you because" letter
145) put on fake nails
145) try to build something
146) re-arrange your house
147) go to a public place and people watch
148) go through all your old stuff
149) go bargain - hunting
150) smile at at least five people (you usually end up smiling genuinely yourself.)
151) go to the zoo and rename all the animals.
152) Go for a peaceful walk
153) Love yourself


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But how many will get you the same amount of attention or up your uber scene status?

[PrincessAlice]

feign i think i can safely say you don't have a clue on the subject your just trying to upset people.... for me its about controlling my anger i don't get attention over it personally i don't want attention for it

[me1]

but what you havnt put in there is the reason why people self harm and "just a fad" or "just for attention" is just the simplest of answers to the problem and often the worst. e.g i have plasters on my fingers because i crushed them in a door before, i did'nt really notice and had consumed alot of alcohol but it numbed the pain of my uncles death. attention doent come into it, but it is a resolution to some people. I havn;t properly slef harmed in about a year but i know what it feels like and why people do it.

[unloved__x3]

I used to self harm, but i feel better now :) I don't know why I just woke up one day and thought to myself 'every minute I'm wasting crying and cutting myself is a moment of happieness I will never get back' and ever since then I feel miles happier. the only time I do feel a bit depressed is after I drink loads of alcahol, so if your depressed, DONT drink! it makes it worse!

[chocolatepocky]

:) Cool, I should show this list to my friend.

[TheMan]

lmao @ ppl cutting.

I'm sorry, but I really really really don't understand why people do this.

[Kate]

Well then "TheMan" you should shut the fuck up and learn where to not stick your nose in. Its members like you that fuck up forums

[TheMan]

Well then "TheMan" you should shut the f*ck up and learn where to not stick your nose in. Its members like you that f*ck up forums

Lady, you are the one who should stfu.

All I was saying is that cutting is retarded, and the ones who are doing that should realize that and stop doing this shit.

peace.

[Kate]

You obviously know nothing about self harming.
In fact I feel angry talking to you.
How dare you call those who do it retarded, if anything is retarded then its you.

[TheMan]

You obviously know nothing about self harming.
In fact I feel angry talking to you.
How dare you call those who do it retarded, if anything is retarded then its you.

Yeah, I admit it, you are right, I dont know shit about self harming.
But looks like you do and I offended you with my 'ignorant' comments. Would you like to give me some informations?

Like why do teens do this kind of stuff instead of just trying to fix their problems?

[Kate]

Google It you tard

[lucyy]

Those are all such good ideas!! I dont self harm myself but i'm still gonna try some of the things you mentioned :)

[TheMan]

Google It you tard

calm down lady.

and why edit your post? Yesterday, it was saying 'im glad you are a man and you can admit that you dont know anything about, etc.'

lmao at you.

[Kate]

Because, that post could have only directed at someone decent.
And so far all you are doing is polluting your spam all over here.
And soon your gonna post a thread for guys "how to get laid"
Seriously dont bother...

[PrincessAlice]

Lady, you are the one who should stfu.

All I was saying is that cutting is retarded, and the ones who are doing that should realize that and stop doing this shit.

peace.

oi oi don't tell kate to shut the fuck up....... i'll break your nose :| if you talk to anybody else like this again on here you WILL suffer the bitch slap of power

[TheMan]

Because, that post could have only directed at someone decent.
And so far all you are doing is polluting your spam all over here.
And soon your gonna post a thread for guys "how to get laid"
Seriously dont bother...

spam? Not a single post I've made was spam. Get your facts straight lady.

And why shouldn't I help the guys over here with some good advices that will help them to get better with women?

[Kate]

Haha, Nice one Alice, thanks :):P

[TheMan]

oi oi don't tell kate to shut the f*ck up....... i'll break your nose :| if you talk to anybody else like this again on here you WILL suffer the bitch slap of power

meh, I was just using the same words she used when she made a comment directed to me.

[mandude]

From the way everyones been acting around you, I don't think you're any good with women at all, let alone people.

[TheMan]

From the way everyones been acting around you, I don't think you're any good with women at all, let alone people.

you'd be amazed..

[Kate]

From the way everyones been acting around you, I don't think you're any good with women at all, let alone people.

Hes right (as per usual).
Noone actually likes you and your shoddy non existant advice.

[TheMan]

Hes right (as per usual).
Noone actually likes you and your shoddy non existant advice.

y'all love me, especially you.

Stop being silly. You don't like me because I somehow bashed ppl who were self harming for not understanding them, then I admitted that I was wrong and you still hate me.

You're weird.

[Kate]

Weird?
How am I weird??!
Your the one that calls himself "TheMan" when in fact your a stupid kid who probably can't get a girlfriend.
You said some really harsh stuff about people self harming, which i find incredibly offensive.
Your posting in posts with stupid advice.
Youve been warned, not only by one of the Admins but by 2 other members of staff and mandude.
Your advice is so shoddy i wouldnt let a serial child rapist follow it as i would be conserned for their mental health.

You better watch it "bro" cause your not liked.

[TheMan]

Weird?

How am I weird??!

Because you can’t stop yourself from making stupid comments directed to me, for no reason.



Your the one that calls himself "TheMan" when in fact your a stupid kid who probably can't get a girlfriend.

Oh, c’mon, don’t start with the retarded attempts at hurting me, you don’t even know me.


You said some really harsh stuff about people self harming, which i find incredibly offensive.

Yes, I did. Then, I realized I was wrong and excused myself and you accepted my apologies by the post you made after. But, for unknown reasons, you decided to edit your post and bash me once again



Your posting in posts with stupid advice.

Look, if you don’t appreciate my advices then tell me why, or just ignore them since they are not even written to help you.


Youve been warned, not only by one of the Admins but by 2 other members of staff and mandude.

I’ve been warned by one of the admins indeed, and I’ve done nothing wrong since then. I’m just answering back to your ignorant posts about me.


Your advice is so shoddy i wouldnt let a serial child rapist follow it as i would be conserned for their mental health.
….ok..

[Kate]

:)...........
As an agony aunt of this forum i am here to help people with proper advice, so are Alice and Kaye.
Its people like you who give bad advice "Dont tell the girl you like her if your 15 or under" <-- what?! that make our job harder.

I am not replying ignorantly, just in a concerned manner.
You need to tone down.

[TheMan]

Its people like you who give bad advice "Dont tell the girl you like her if your 15 or under" <-- what?! that make our job harder.

Okay, then if you are saying I was wrong giving this advice, it means that I should go see this girl X and tell her that I really like her and that we should go to the movies someday.

...I'm pretty sure I would get a rejection. Why? Because she always saw me as a friend and is scared to see that I like her and will answer back with the some bs line like : 'well..I'm very busy with school and stuff..I don't think it will be possible.'

What I said to the kid is to first use techniques to show her that you are attracted to her. (I have no time right now to elaborate on those, but they should be evident to anyone who has the least of experience with girls.)..This way she will expect the invitation.

peace.

[PrincessAlice]

i bet "theman" is a fat spotty kid 11year old

she had a right to tell you to shut the fuck up and plus i think you should listen to her

[TheMan]

why bringing it back, just stfu.

get over it and yes i am a fat spotty loser kid who has no friends

[PrincessAlice]

right you've had your threat

[TheMan]

lmao at the kid who modified my post. nice one.

[mandude]

It was edited? I just noticed that. I thought you were just being sarcastic! :P

[Kate]

And shut up telling alice to stfu.
Shes your elder, obey her goddammit! ;)

[Nintendus]

That is an absolutely pathetic response from the staff on this forum, all of you grow up.

Modifying someone's post is a blatant abuse of power, whoever did that holds no rights to their title.

As forum mods you should know that everyone ie entitled to their opinion. Also I agree, self harmers in my eyes are iditos.

[Kate]

George, whats got up your tree? Youve been in a rampant bad mood for ages.

[Darts]

I think that the main thing for people to remember here is that the people who say rotten things about self harmers are making the problem worse. Its easy for onlookers to say things like that without knowing how it feels to be stuck in that kind of state of mind. It's extremely difficult to get out of. I usually write in my diary or write stories on my computer but other times a person just cant make themselves get out of it, when you're angry you make a point of not doing what you should do.

[Shield]

#154. Harming others.

[TheMan]

That is an absolutely pathetic response from the staff on this forum, all of you grow up.

Modifying someone's post is a blatant abuse of power, whoever did that holds no rights to their title.

As forum mods you should know that everyone ie entitled to their opinion. Also I agree, self harmers in my eyes are iditos.

damn right, listen to this man.

[Kate]

"TheMan"

LOL

[NewAbortion]

That is an absolutely pathetic response from the staff on this forum, all of you grow up.

Modifying someone's post is a blatant abuse of power, whoever did that holds no rights to their title.

As forum mods you should know that everyone ie entitled to their opinion. Also I agree, self harmers in my eyes are iditos.I agree...minus the self-harmers being idiots part. If a person wants to self-harm and doesn't care about their body, that doesn't necessarily make them an idiot. Apathetic, yes, but not idiotic. Or perhaps neither. Perhaps they're a masochist. Is that idiotic?

This forum is about expressing one's opinion, regardless of whether the staff agree with it or not. The philosophy, "This is a forum to express your opinions freely and openly without fear of persecution...as long as we agree with you," doesn't sit very well with the purpose of an *open* forum.

(Sorry, had to get my two cents in.)

~Maggot

[TheMan]

I agree...minus the self-harmers being idiots part. If a person wants to self-harm and doesn't care about their body, that doesn't necessarily make them an idiot. Apathetic, yes, but not idiotic. Or perhaps neither. Perhaps they're a masochist. Is that idiotic?

This forum is about expressing one's opinion, regardless of whether the staff agree with it or not. The philosophy, "This is a forum to express your opinions freely and openly without fear of persecution...as long as we agree with you," doesn't sit very well with the purpose of an *open* forum.

(Sorry, had to get my two cents in.)

~Maggot

Real talk.

[NewAbortion]

Real talk.Uh...sorry?

~Maggot

[Darts]

I agree...minus the self-harmers being idiots part. If a person wants to self-harm and doesn't care about their body, that doesn't necessarily make them an idiot. Apathetic, yes, but not idiotic. Or perhaps neither. Perhaps they're a masochist. Is that idiotic?

This forum is about expressing one's opinion, regardless of whether the staff agree with it or not. The philosophy, "This is a forum to express your opinions freely and openly without fear of persecution...as long as we agree with you," doesn't sit very well with the purpose of an *open* forum.

(Sorry, had to get my two cents in.)

~Maggot

You're right but still it isn't really encouraging people to tell us when they have a problem if they think they will get negative speculation from other people, I know a few people who have stopped/not started cutting because of help on this forum and it would be great if we could keep it up.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion but if we could be a bit more sensitive to the people who need it?

Sorry if I've said this before but I think its important.

[Tommeh!!!]

Okay, then if you are saying I was wrong giving this advice, it means that I should go see this girl X and tell her that I really like her and that we should go to the movies someday.

...I'm pretty sure I would get a rejection. Why? Because she always saw me as a friend and is scared to see that I like her and will answer back with the some bs line like : 'well..I'm very busy with school and stuff..I don't think it will be possible.'

What I said to the kid is to first use techniques to show her that you are attracted to her. (I have no time right now to elaborate on those, but they should be evident to anyone who has the least of experience with girls.)..This way she will expect the invitation.

peace.

haha you are 15 and you are giving advice out on how to get girls...yet this is how you picture things...a bit jumped up arent we?

anyway, to all those that have bad things to say on the issue of cutting:

this thread is supposed to help people, thats why its called 153 things to do instead of self harm. that means people post in here with maybe more ideas, thanking for the list or whatever. NOT a debate thread where people can throw in the odd fucktard remark like 'lmao @ cutting people'. This thread is about positive reinforcement, not matters of opinion. if you have a negative opinion that you would like to express, take it to the fucking debate forum and have it out there...and please oh please come up with something more intelligent than 'lol, it is well stupid, why dont they sort it out?'

Nintendus, stop whining like a bitch, the guys clearly an asshole...just another Peblu really. He wont last if he keeps up the dickhead behavior.

'peace'

[Darts]

Peace being the key word here people

[Tommeh!!!]

yeah man, thats real talk!

[Darts]

Now you see I'd love to agree with that but people would puke at me kissing my own ass..... lol

[NewAbortion]

You're right but still it isn't really encouraging people to tell us when they have a problem if they think they will get negative speculation from other people, I know a few people who have stopped/not started cutting because of help on this forum and it would be great if we could keep it up.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion but if we could be a bit more sensitive to the people who need it?

Sorry if I've said this before but I think its important.Anyone who doesn't post on a forum about such a thing because they're worried about comments such as, "lol ur a idiot" really needs to grow the fuck up.

Why? And I'm not saying I agree or disagree with his opinion, but there is no rule that says one must only speak out on self-harm if they're being nice about it, therefore, he's allowed to say what he wishes as long as everyone else is and it breaks no existing rule.
Nintendus, stop whining like a bitch, the guys clearly an asshole...just another Peblu really. He wont last if he keeps up the dickhead behavior.And this is what the forums are all about: only sticking up for people you like, regardless of whether they've actually done anything wrong or not. Fucking brilliant. Perhaps I'm wrong, but that sounds more immatureand idiotic than anything Nintendus or TheMan have said.

~Maggot

[Kate]

You have to love Tommy and Cherie..

[PrincessAlice]

Stating a opinion is a good thing don't get me wrong but insulting Kate was not a opinion its being a utter prick

[Nintendus]

Stating a opinion is a good thing don't get me wrong but insulting Kate was not a opinion its being a utter prick
Re-read the first bit of that conversation again, it at least started the opposite way around.


Nintendus, stop whining like a bitch, the guys clearly an asshole...just another Peblu really. He wont last if he keeps up the dickhead behavior.
People seem to dislike him for no valid reason, I have no loyalties here but there are people who give worse advice in much worse English, and they do not get critized nearly as much.


I agree...minus the self-harmers being idiots part. If a person wants to self-harm and doesn't care about their body, that doesn't necessarily make them an idiot. Apathetic, yes, but not idiotic. Or perhaps neither. Perhaps they're a masochist. Is that idiotic?
Thanks for providing some logical sense in this thread. I understand that I will never be able to see into other people's minds, I cannot understand people who cut and I never will be able to do. I see their problems as small and often pointless, I have much more reason to "cut" than the majority of those people do, and for that reason I think it is idiodic. Based on my own experience. Maybe calling them idiotic was wrong, but I think it is an idiodic act.

[NewAbortion]

Thanks for providing some logical sense in this thread. I understand that I will never be able to see into other people's minds, I cannot understand people who cut and I never will be able to do.It's mostly a control issue (or masochism). By cutting, people feel like they're taking control of something in their life, even if it is only a small part of their lives. It's the same reason some people are anorexic.
I see their problems as small and often pointless, I have much more reason to "cut" than the majority of those people do, and for that reason I think it is idiodic. Based on my own experience. Maybe calling them idiotic was wrong, but I think it is an idiodic act.This is a common misconception among many. The aforementioned logic is only applicable for people who claim they must cut due to their problems, not that they just want to cut. That is the key. Because by having to cut, they are basically saying, "I have no choice because my life is so sucky." By choosing to cut, they're saying, "I realize my life may not be that bad, but I want to do this, so I will." See the difference?

~Maggot

[Nintendus]

It's mostly a control issue (or masochism). By cutting, people feel like they're taking control of something in their life, even if it is only a small part of their lives. It's the same reason some people are anorexic.This is a common misconception among many. The aforementioned logic is only applicable for people who claim they must cut due to their problems, not that they just want to cut. That is the key. Because by having to cut, they are basically saying, "I have no choice because my life is so sucky." By choosing to cut, they're saying, "I realize my life may not be that bad, but I want to do this, so I will." See the difference?

~Maggot
Vaguely, but as I stated I will never understand it fully. Thanks for the explanation though, part of the reason for the ignorance about cutting is that no one seems willing to explain why they do it.

[NewAbortion]

Vaguely, but as I stated I will never understand it fully. Thanks for the explanation though, part of the reason for the ignorance about cutting is that no one seems willing to explain why they do it.If you wish, I could provide a more thorough explanation, being an ex-cutter myself. I'm not ashamed of it.

~Maggot

[Darts]

Another reason is that they dont have the guts to have a real strop and challenge people or smash things etc, so they take it out on themselves.

And NewAbortion, fair enough, I can't really disagree with what you said about my comment at all. Probs just my conscience again cos I'm a strong believer that sometimes one small negative comment can push people over the edge, sort of into irrational thinking. Its true that people should have their own opinions though.

[Tommeh!!!]

And this is what the forums are all about: only sticking up for people you like, regardless of whether they've actually done anything wrong or not. Fucking brilliant. Perhaps I'm wrong, but that sounds more immatureand idiotic than anything Nintendus or TheMan have said.

haha get a grip, i have nothing against Nintendus but he was whining at something pretty much irrelevant. and please, your teenage angst fails to insult me.

[NewAbortion]

haha get a grip, i have nothing against Nintendus but he was whining at something pretty much irrelevant. and please, your teenage angst fails to insult me.I never said you have anything against him. I haven't a clue as to where you got that idea that I did from. And, regardless of whether or not it was irrelevant from the topic of this thread (though it wasn't entirely), I fail to why anyone shouldn't have spoken up about it. I really do find it sad how many of you will only stick up for people you like, not necessarily those who deserve it.

Teenage angst? Insult you? Boy, you must be high. I never expressed any teenage angst, nor did I attempt to insult you. I merely said what I wanted to say on the issue. Don't flatter yourself by thinking I was targeting you.

~Maggot

[Tommeh!!!]

so...do you stick up for people you dont like? as im sure that when some assmunch comes around that you dont like and starts pouring the shit out to people you know and respect you wouldnt stick up for them, youd shoot your mouth off too. this topic ALWAYS brings in the arseholes who dont get it, and they make some stupid remark. like with pearson, he did, but then he actually took the thought to try and understand it when i explained it to him. but if some fuckwad doesnt even have the brains to understand something and jst wants to get a reaction, then fuck em. i honestly dont know why you are sticking up for him anyway, having said yourself that youve been through it. maybe its the whole non-conformist thing that little kids like to do?

christ i dont even know why im having this conversation with you. i dont have anything against you on the matter to be honest, as with nintendus, but i dont get the standing up for people who march in and start being a dick from the word go. I didnt start with him because of what he said to anyone, it was because of what he was saying in general and from that i discovered i plain dont like him. so i will take the fact i can say whatever the fuck i like and use it.

[NewAbortion]

so...do you stick up for people you dont like? as im sure that when some assmunch comes around that you dont like and starts pouring the shit out to people you know and respect you wouldnt stick up for them, youd shoot your mouth off too.Yes, actually, I do. For example: On another forum I'm on, a neo-Nazi was banned and I helped organize a petition to reinstate his account. Not only did I do that, but I debated countless times with numerous people, always in his favor. Granted, I hate neo-Nazis, but I still felt he had the same right to be there as did everyone else.

Ever heard the quote, "I might not agree with what you have to say, but I will defend, to the death, your right to say it"?

this topic ALWAYS brings in the arseholes who dont get it, and they make some stupid remark.Unfortunately, you're right. However, I fail to see your point.
i honestly dont know why you are sticking up for him anyway, having said yourself that youve been through it. maybe its the whole non-conformist thing that little kids like to do?I don't understand how being a non-conformist has anything to do with sticking up for someone. =/ I do it because I believe in Evelyn Beatrice Hall's aforementioned philosophy.

~Maggot

[Tommeh!!!]

well...ok, i understand what you are saying. we are clearly on different levels on the matter, but now i understand and respect your view on things.

this is actually what i was getting at, levels of understanding. and the broadened mind to welcome the understanding. so let us leave it at that yes?

i have heard that quote somewhere. but i dont agree with it.

[NewAbortion]

*shrug* Fine. However, I'm not asking for your respect, because I do not respect your view on this matter at all.

~Maggot

[Tommeh!!!]

im not giving it to you at a request, and in turn im not requesting it back. i can respect things i dont agree with. but whatever, this conversation bores me.

[Tami]

okay i just thought i would share with you the things from this list that were personally recomended to me by mental health rofessionals: (It may help)


1) Drawing on yourself in red marker (make sure it's washable!)
2) Writing (poetry, stories, journal, etc.)
3) Call a friend and ask for company
4) Letting yourself cry (can be very difficult for some)
5) Listening to music (try yo use calm music)
6) Writting letters or email
7) Scream real loud (I LOOOVE this one-just make sure no one is home)
8) Call a Help hotline or your Therapist
9) Talk to someone close to you that knows

or another one is:

put an elastic band around your wrist and twang it agains your wrist untill the urge to self harm has gone away (much better than cutting because there are no scars in the morning and you still feel the pain)

[sophMAN]

anythin is better then self harming as i have learnt =]

[HaLeE]

that list is really good.
but some of the things like driving i couldnt do lol.
nicee workk!

[Nirvana_rox]

I actually read all of that.
Wow my attention span has increaced.
Amazing.
Awsome list dude.

[Emmax22]

haha. thats funny.

[emobizznitch]

I read the list and it makes sense. i may have to use a few of your ideas next time i get down.

[sarahgirl_88]

u guys dont hurt urselves i love you guysss =]

[eversosweet]

omg i read that whole thing.
it made me smile :D

[arkham]

Or simpley read that list, by the time you have read it, you will have forgotten your plans of self harm!

I'm not reading all that :P
actually that did work i really wanted to self harm but i decided to come on the forum and i saw this, and i read them all and now i dont want to lol

[anarchyrules]

tried nearly all of them-not 68 but none seem to work cos they don't cause any pain the icecubes thing might though i will try that

[River]

18 - Playing guitar helps


Dip your arms in cold water (not too cold)


I really respect this thread I can see how it helps people x

[xxxdeadxxx]

I like this thread..I used to self harm then stopped...but I've been thinking about it in the past few days.
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Are my everyday though..lol.But this helps.

XOJacky

[jcbangl]

i used to self harm myself but i havn't done that or thought about it in about almost a year now.. i think the last time i did that was sometime in january.. close to a year.. well yea, i kinda stopped and hope to continue not to.. i found out that drawin and music helps keep my mind off of cuttin and stuff...

[Shane]

i used to self harm myself but i havn't done that or thought about it in about almost a year now.. i think the last time i did that was sometime in january.. close to a year.. well yea, i kinda stopped and hope to continue not to.. i found out that drawin and music helps keep my mind off of cuttin and stuff...
That's great. it's good you have found something a damn sight more productive to focus your energy on. :)

[xxluisaxx]

I love this list. There is so many things to chose from here. I'm a recovering self injurer so I find this post really useful.

[Pharaoh]

They're all great ways of helping someone who is Emotional.
I shall forward them onto my Psycological teacher at school when I get the chance, she will be very interested.

[lipgloss]

The list is great! I'm not a self harmer, (at least, not any more) but I would find this list very helpful when I'm board and in need of ideas to do something. Great stuff!

[Arieadnee]

I self harm. I do it to try and cover up the pain I'm already feeling... Something else to get my focus on. Yes, I regret it immediatly afterwards, but right now its all I can do. Even the list is great, I need some sort of pain set up for me..I'll try focusing on that list though.

[case]

shane; 3) drawing on yourself in red marker (make sure it's washable!)

lol!

[fuzzylumpkins]

don't laugh at that one case, its actually taught by therapists.

For some people who self injure, they do so in order to see blood (thus triggering an endorphin release for the individual).

drawing on yourself in red marker / pen in a manner that resembles the cuts one might make otherwise is a safe way to try to simulate the action without actually having to cause oneself harm.

[Shane]

lol!


don't laugh at that one case, its actually taught by therapists.

For some people who self injure, they do so in order to see blood (thus triggering an endorphin release for the individual).

drawing on yourself in red marker / pen in a manner that resembles the cuts one might make otherwise is a safe way to try to simulate the action without actually having to cause oneself harm.


Yeah, this is actually a proven method. :)

[Arieadnee]

Doesn't work :( My ''adopted'' mom also suggested putting a rubber band on your wrist and snapping it when you had the urge to cut.

[fuzzylumpkins]

Well, It depends on the person right? Not everyone is going to derive the same things from self harm.

It usually helps to first understand what you're feeling before you get to the point of SI. There are going to be different things that help you depending on whether its because of depression, anger, invalidation, loneliness.

As well, there will be different strategies to help you out depending on what about SI gives you the emotional (and chemical) release. Whether thats seeing blood, feeling pain, taking care of the wounds afterwards, seeing scars, etc.

[Arieadnee]

Mhmmm

[Webgamefavorite]

Some therapists suggest shooting rubber bands at your arms as a "substitute" if you really, really, really need the pain-sensation.

It hurts like hell, but it doesn't do damage.

[swerah]

Thanks. My friend needed something like that.

[korntim]

iv never done it but im sure XBOX would help

[Grendel]

GO SEE A THERAPIST. Thats what you should be doing. Cutting is retarded.

[Lilith]

I've got another one - Select "Random Article" on wikipedia (you'll eventually end up on something so random you'll totally forget about how shitty you feel).

[mandude]

I've got another one - Select "Random Article" on wikipedia (you'll eventually end up on something so random you'll totally forget about how shitty you feel).
That has the potential to be depressingly and hilariously ironic. I wholeheartedly endorse this idea.

[taccolite]

Ring some kind of helpline.. nfairness

[Sciocco]

Yes, all of the above

[LouieA-P]

Is this post a joke???

[fuzzylumpkins]

^

you joined simply to post this? well done.

I dont know what post your referring to. If you mean the thread, then no, its not.

[Odin]

You know how you can avoid self-harm?

Stop being a whiney little bitch and realize you're a middle-class white kid with no real problems or cares in the world.

Or maybe you're a poor kid who doesn't know who is father is? You know who else was an orphan? Nelson Mandela and Steve Jobs. Heard of them? Did they say "Oh fuck me" because the world dealt them a shitty hand? No. They grabbed life by the hair, pulled it down, and fucked it like the bitch it is.

[skorpion]

and myb favorite 154; masturbate

[phaggot]

bumping kutting threads? how old are you? keep up with the times, even at 2003 n00bs got shit for talking about kutting.

[andrea17]

To answer the thread - there's millions of things to do instead of self-harming. Everyone knows.

[CoolTimez]

Sky diving