The Issues of the gender confused.....

[Guest]

For 7 years i have felt horrible about myself, my body and the way i am.
i had never found out why ( despite 5 years of therapists, councilors, psychologists) and still i wasnt getting to the reason, and then it hit me

I feel like im a prisoner in a cell that wasnt even made for me
Like im living my life in a sarcophagus.
I wasnt meant to be a boy :(

Does anyone have any advice? or even experience?

Please, im desperate to know why/how
XX

[-Snake-]

This is a very tricky subject, Depending on your age I cannot really answer any of your questions. Sometimes teens face this and grow out of it, maybe take a positive step and see a doctor or talk to some one about it.

Sorry I couldn't help more :(

[Bob!]

Lol greg he said he'd seen docs an psychologists and stuff.

But aye I'm stuck fer words as well, mebbe sumone else might have an opinion though :)

[NATAL!E]

I've heard of this kind of thing before.

And basically, the only advice I could give you is

Be Yourself

There's no other way to put it.

If you feel like being someone who you are inside, rather than someone you are on the outside, then be that person. No one can make you feel bad about being yourself.

Some people who have had simelar experiences have even changed their whole gender and gone through some horrific treatments just so they can be the person who they are inside.

So really, yeah, the only thing I can say is to be yourself, follow your heart and do what you want instead of what you think you should act like.

[Bob!]

An that, is good advice.

Applies to all aspects as well.

[NATAL!E]

=] Thank you Bob.

I only thought what was best really. People sometimes ridicule people with problems such as this, and I think it's damn unfair. I really do sympathise; Even try to empathise.

[GotToHaveNeo]

So you feel like you are ment to be a girl, but your a boy. I recon you should you should do whatever feels natural to you, if you feel like dressing up or putting make up on, go for it. Never be ashamed of how you feel inside, you are who you are, be proud of that

[-Snake-]

As said above be yourself!
Your you and thats great, find people who have similar feelings and people who respect and love you! Then you can be the real you around them :)

[Pearson]

For 7 years i have felt horrible about myself, my body and the way i am.
i had never found out why ( despite 5 years of therapists, councilors, psychologists) and still i wasnt getting to the reason, and then it hit me

I feel like im a prisoner in a cell that wasnt even made for me
Like im living my life in a sarcophagus.
I wasnt meant to be a boy :(

Does anyone have any advice? or even experience?

Please, im desperate to know why/how
XX

Alot of people are born like this, its not anyones fault that you dont think your meant to be a boy, just a genetic differences in your brain. As everyones already said to yourself my advice couldnt be anymore different, if you do not feel comfortable in your own skin, change, save your money to an operation and switch sex's (like pete burns)

[*Jess*]

Alot of people are born like this, its not anyones fault that you dont think your meant to be a boy, just a genetic differences in your brain. As everyones already said to yourself my advice couldnt be anymore different, if you do not feel comfortable in your own skin change, save your money to an operation and switch sex's (like pete burns)

well if he wants to do that, then do that.
we are telling him to make his own choice and not to just force himself to do something just because he thinks he should.
i mean, he needs to take into consideration the ridicule that pete burns had.
he could be a boy if he wants, he could change to a girl if he wants. but its his choice. unless its his choice, he shouldnt feel the need to have a sex change.
not arguing, just telling it the way it is. because its such a big deal that you can't just make him feel as if he needs to do that. unless he wants to

[NATAL!E]

Pete Burns isn't ridiculed.

Nor is he 'not a man'.. o_O

[Brianna.]

Nothing's wrong with feeling like you don't belong.

My uncle had a sex change, and is the happiest he/she's ever been. It's all about what you want and what you're satisfied with.

[Richiecroft]

Look i know everyone on here are trying to say this or tell you stuff, their only helping ok. And my advice is, I started to feel like this and i was only 13 years old! its kinda funny really, because i started to fantasise over this guy who was in some pop group and had my family say "oh rich, you got a gf yet!" i was like "erm.....no not yet" lol, and it was hard for me to explain about the way i feel, but now 5 years on i got this job and it changed my LIFE, im starting to act more like ME rather than this "disguise" i used to use all the time infront of family and sometimes my own friends.

Im now 18 years old, not too sure how old you are, but your old enough to understand the way you want your life to be, so good for you :) Erm.. but, i just want to say that whatever you wish to do, we're all here for you and in this universe everyone is so different (unique as some say lol). And also, don't take things to heart, if they have a problem then just let em get on with it, don't make the matter any worse that it may already be!

Hope to hear more from you soon.

[GotToHaveNeo]

The things we have to endure to become comfortable within ourselves.

[Charley]

Your are who you no matter what

[Stephanie]

well if he wants to do that, then do that.
we are telling him to make his own choice and not to just force himself to do something just because he thinks he should.
i mean, he needs to take into consideration the ridicule that pete burns had.
he could be a boy if he wants, he could change to a girl if he wants. but its his choice. unless its his choice, he shouldnt feel the need to have a sex change.
not arguing, just telling it the way it is. because its such a big deal that you can't just make him feel as if he needs to do that. unless he wants to

The reason he'd feel like he'd need a sex change is because he feels like he's a girl trapped in a boy's body and the genitals he was born with and the changes puberty brings on him just does not feel right and can be very distressing so getting the sex change would relieve him from all this pain and confusion.

I watched this documentry on Gender Confusion and it follows the life of a boy who was trapped in a girls body and in the end he got the sex change and I think it worked out really well for him. But with every medical procedure, there are risks so you'd probably want to look into that first if you are considering it.

And just a question: has your psychologists and therapists ever suggested that you had this or did you work it out on your own? If you worked it out on your own then you should suggest it to them and see what they have to say about it...

[blazeteendanny]

its just what feels right inside that counts. i've had a few g\fs, but it didnt feel right...so now i go out with boys, and its made me happier

[blazeteendanny]

so basically do what feels right

[Guest]

Depending on you age, many boys feel this way and sometimes people are confused with their sexuality. As a councilor i feel that you are scared about what sexuality you may become.
You need to right down what makes you feel sad and see if their is any link the this situration becasue it will help you find out what is really going on.

Dont worry, whatevery you sexuality your family, freinds and mates will always be there.

[Stephanie]

Dont worry, whatevery you sexuality your family, freinds and mates will always be there.
Not always the case..In some cultures and religions, it is completely frowned upon if you are not straight and you could either be killed for it or disowned by the family and community. As for your friends, not everyone is as accepting and understanding as we'd all like them to be. Sad but true.

If I were to tell my parents that I were gay then dad would kick me out and wouldn't think twice about it. Mum probably wouldn't want me kicked out for it but she would be really disapointed in me and can't exactly let me back at home against dad's wishes.

I really hope that this isn't the case for you (person who started this thread).

[Stephanie]

hey, I just came across this site which should come in good use for you. http://www.mermaids.freeuk.com/mc01.html

I hope this helps.

[qwassymodo]

Pearson, you could have put that a LITTLE more sensitively... But I'm so prud of fender.chiq! That was kinda beautiful and it IS true! Doun't you dare let others mock you. Stand tall and I promise that you'll be okay.