Boyfiends best mate:/

[Dani_x]

soo other night, me my bf and his mate all gt drunk.
and all night, i was hopin me and my bfs mate would get left on our own and we did when we had finished drinking my bf went to sleep.
then me and his mate was just sat on floor watchin tv and somehow onething led to another and we was laid kissing. i dont know if we had sex or anything tho :( and i cant get in touch with this lad to find out because i dont have his number or where he lives. i dont know weather to tell my bf or try and find out what really happend first.
he's never really trusted me thats why he doesnt like me coming on here (yes i got back with him) my mates are trying to get me to c it as payback for how he's treated me.
soo do i wait and talk to the lad to find out what really happend. or just tell him, because right now all i can really say is-
"i cheated on ya with your bestmate-duno if we shagged or had a fumble but we def fumbled"
:angered: i feel like a right slag iv only really met the lad twice and i cheated on my bf with him. plus i think his mates slept with one of his gf's b4. i know leavin it longer will make it worse

[God.]

For fucks sake. There is no excuse. Tell him, he deserves to know what you've done to him.

[fraggled]

^ Agreed

[Kerry]

^ AgreedAgreed too. :O

[Dani_x]

i never said there was a excuse did i. i could have easily said i only did it because of how drunk i was. but i havent because there isnt any excuse. i said i dont no weather to tell him now or wait till i now what really happend-he is going to get told but i dont know weather to find out what really happend first.

[lucille]

Ew I never get how one thing can lead to another like that.

If I had sex with my boyfriend's best friend I'd take it as my subconscious telling me that I don't want to be in a relationship and put the poor guy out of his misery.

However my boyfriend's best friend is a rastafarian named Raymond so I needn't worry.

[I Am Jake]

However my boyfriend's best friend is a rastafarian named Raymond so I needn't worry.

He sounds cooooool !

[lucille]

He is, but is possibly the most asexual human being I have ever met. All he cares about is weed, reggae music and Aqua Teen Hunger Force.

[Leon]

soo other night, me my bf and his mate all gt drunk.
and all night, i was hopin me and my bfs mate would get left on our own and we did when we had finished drinking my bf went to sleep.
then me and his mate was just sat on floor watchin tv and somehow onething led to another and we was laid kissing. i dont know if we had sex or anything tho :( and i cant get in touch with this lad to find out because i dont have his number or where he lives. i dont know weather to tell my bf or try and find out what really happend first.
he's never really trusted me thats why he doesnt like me coming on here (yes i got back with him) my mates are trying to get me to c it as payback for how he's treated me.
soo do i wait and talk to the lad to find out what really happend. or just tell him, because right now all i can really say is-
"i cheated on ya with your bestmate-duno if we shagged or had a fumble but we def fumbled"
:angered: i feel like a right slag iv only really met the lad twice and i cheated on my bf with him. plus i think his mates slept with one of his gf's b4. i know leavin it longer will make it worse

That line says it all for me, you wanted that so something would happen, you've brought it on yourself because you wanted to, and yet you remember this, but can't remember whether you even had sex or not.
What did he just like disappear or something without saying bye?

Pfft, honestly, tell your boyfriend, he deserves to know, because you at least kissed and felt up this other lad even if you didn't have sex.

[God.]

i never said there was a excuse did i. i could have easily said i only did it because of how drunk i was. but i havent because there isnt any excuse. i said i dont no weather to tell him now or wait till i now what really happend-he is going to get told but i dont know weather to find out what really happend first.

You clearly misread my meaning. There is no excuse for you not telling him, in addition to your disgraceful behaviour.

[Dani_x]

i remember wanting to be on my own with him because i was fully sobre. i hardly rmember stuff when im drunk-theres only a few things i can remember that night after i opend the bottle of vodka and having sex isnt one of them. i couldnt ask the lad next day because my bf was there and then the lad's sister came for him for some random reason, which we think is because somethings was up with his kid.
tbh i know i have to tell him im just scared of his reaction yeh ok id deserve a black eye and his mate would but iv already been told if i cheat on him he would do something much worse then kick me about abit.

[Leon]

i remember wanting to be on my own with him because i was fully sobre.Why?

And you could have just said you want a word with him for a minute, dragged him away from your bf and asked him, quite easily.

[Dani_x]

i tryed getting him on my own i even cooked breakfast for every1 and said il go get him up because he was still upstairs. i couldnt say i wanted a word with him and dragged him away because my bf would keep asking why and try and listen - he is extremly possesive. i cant baby sit with out being phoned every 5mins and accused of stuff.

[Leon]

Yeah, and maybe your boyfriend is right then, he is that protective, because he fears you cheating maybe, guess he had a point.

And I bet you could have easily got him away for 2 minutes.

[nyx]

Tbh you wanted to get him on your own, you then proceeded to at least kiss him, and you're complaining about your possessive boyfriend.

You shouldn't be in a relationship.

[Dani_x]

i have never cheated on him before, he cheated on me about 9 and half months ago and thats when he got more possesive of me. he was only downstairs long enough to make a cup of tea and then my bfs sister was in the kitchen with him so its not like i could get up and go talk to him then either. trust me if i could have talked to him that morning i would have.

[Leon]

Or maybe you just didn't want to.

If you really wanted to trust me you would have found a way.

[Dani_x]

Tbh you wanted to get him on your own, you then proceeded to at least kiss him, and you're complaining about your possessive boyfriend.

You shouldn't be in a relationship.

dont you think i wont have thought of that! iv finished him a few times and he's finishd me but before the end of the day he as always talked me back round. iv even considerd going and staying with family away from here so he cant contact me and talk me around again. if i dont answer my phone he comes to my house.

[Leon]

Then you seem a little silly for getting back with him constantly if you moan about how he is.

Can I also just ask, what are you going to do if, you did have sex, unprotected, and you become pregnant, going to tell him then are you?

[Dani_x]

Or maybe you just didn't want to.

If you really wanted to trust me you would have found a way.

i wanted to know what had happend so yes i really wanted to. i tryed talking to him the same night but he was like "go to bed"

[Leon]

So you just went to bed, I'd have been a bit more bothered than that and dragged it out of him.

To be honest, you don't seem that bothered whether you had sex or not, and you moan about your boyfriend in this thread than the guy you've supposedly slept with, I think you need to recap the situation, maybe you're better off without either of them.

[Dani_x]

Then you seem a little silly for getting back with him constantly if you moan about how he is.

Can I also just ask, what are you going to do if, you did have sex, unprotected, and you become pregnant, going to tell him then are you?

yeh well thats what im like then aint it silly!

i dont see it coming to that.
and aint already said he is going to get told.

[Leon]

i dont see it coming to that.
and aint already said he is going to get told.Oh and why's that, you said yourself you don't know what happened.

[Dani_x]

So you just went to bed, I'd have been a bit more bothered than that and dragged it out of him.

To be honest, you don't seem that bothered whether you had sex or not, and you moan about your boyfriend in this thread than the guy you've supposedly slept with, I think you need to recap the situation, maybe you're better off without either of them.

i obviously dont think when i have had a drink.
yeh i am botherd acctually, and i aint moaning about the guy i slept with-yeh i could have tryed harder to speak to him but at that time i wasnt exactly thinking straight and i couldnt get him on his own like i have said already.

[Dani_x]

Oh and why's that, you said yourself you don't know what happened.

i just dont see it coming to that alright.

[God.]

i obviously dont think when i have had a drink.
yeh i am botherd acctually, and i aint moaning about the guy i slept with-yeh i could have tryed harder to speak to him but at that time i wasnt exactly thinking straight and i couldnt get him on his own like i have said already.


Oh dear. That says it all.

[Leon]

How did I miss that!

[nyx]

Haha, don't become a lawyer Leon :P

[Leon]

I don't intend to.

Actually I didn't look at this thread after my last post, so I hadn't missed it, so nerrr. :P

[Jekyll-Hyde]

All I have to say is you brought it upon yourself so, as harsh as it may be, you suffer the consequences.