Pregnant?!!?!

[barley_baby]

ARGHGHGHGH!!!!

Im f*ing pregnant!!

seriously 100% knocked up!!! shite !

What do i do?! i dont no what to do guys! Is anyone else in my position by any chance?!

Im just about 18!!! i cant have a kid, i dont even want them!! but i dont agree with abortion....

How didn't i see it for one? i missed 3 periods and my stomach is swollen, God this is so bad it feels like a bad dream.

Im 4 months along, i saw the doctor today, thats a real baby inside me, i cant abort it now, its not fair.

The worst thing is the father, he lives in Holland!! i dont! and i want to finish me college.... i want to go to uni, i canmt with a baby!!!


o gooooood someone please help!"!!!

[kralian_Wings]

I would say abort it, if you asked me.
You obviously don't want it, and if you have it, are you likely to put it up for adoption?
It's not fair to have the baby knowning full well that you are not going to look after it, wouldn't you rather prevent that kind of life for it?

You have yourself to think of aswell, you say you want to continue studying and stuff, well that only gets harder when you have kids.
You need to stop panicking and seriously think about wether it's fair on you or the baby, if you keep it.
Good luck whatever you decide - sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.

[barley_baby]

i no i dont want it!!!
BUt its 4 months now u cant have it aborted at that can you?!
People are going to notice soon, im normally really skinny.... :S

I may have to put it up for adoption... but i no if i have it im going to want to keep it?!

O dear god....

And im allowed to panic at this stage! righT?! :S

[kralian_Wings]

i no i dont want it!!!
BUt its 4 months now u cant have it aborted at that can you?!
People are going to notice soon, im normally really skinny.... :S

I may have to put it up for adoption... but i no if i have it im going to want to keep it?!

O dear god....

And im allowed to panic at this stage! righT?! :S


No idea wether you can or not.
Have you told your parents, or is there anybody else you can confide in?
You need to talk to your doctor a lot too, they may be able to advise you on what to do.
You can panic if you want to, but make sure you're thinking things through properly too.

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

That's what you get for opening your legs up and acting like a fucking whore, fucking every guy who comes in sight.
Oh well that's what you get you're mature enough to have sex and act like a slut you're mature enough to deal with this yourself. You got yourself into it now you get out yourself.

[strike]

I think flaming Sweetestxsin is not going to help the situation and how do you know the details? Please rather give advice than just flame ppl who have issues to make them feel worse.

[Leon]

That's what you get for opening your legs up and acting like a fucking whore, fucking every guy who comes in sight.
Oh well that's what you get you're mature enough to have sex and act like a slut you're mature enough to deal with this yourself. You got yourself into it now you get out yourself.Uncalled for.

[strike]

Thanks leon. Some 19 year olds need to learn how to act of age.

[Shakedown]

Have you told the father yet......?

[nyx]

That's what you get for opening your legs up and acting like a fucking whore, fucking every guy who comes in sight.
Oh well that's what you get you're mature enough to have sex and act like a slut you're mature enough to deal with this yourself. You got yourself into it now you get out yourself.

That is based on so many assumptions its unreal.
Grow the fuck up and use your brain.
Ok it might be true, but equally, she could have been in a steady relationship, using contraceptives that failed her.


I think you can still have an abortion, and I would seriously consider it. you don't sound ready to have a baby.
I understand that you are against abortion, but it would be fairer than trying to bring it up when you can't give it the best life possible.

Like someone said find someone to talk to you can trust. A doctor is good, but someone who knows your personal life would be good too. If you live with your parents you should really try to talk to them, they'll be able to tell you whats best for you, and to what extent they are willing to support a baby etc.

And yes, its fine to panic to an extent but you need to think carefully too and come to a rational decision!

Good luck! And let us know what happens.

[endless_hope]

Oh well...Its a hard situation...but dont ever think of aborstion...coz u might do a mistake of a life-time..think outside the box sweetypie...its a baby that u killin and ending his/her life..
U made the choice live with it..and dont give for adoption u know the consequences of that

Ease ur mind and accept ur new life-style..WHY cry over a spilled milk
:popcorn:?

XD

[strike]

Why cry over spilled milk....lol... This is a baby and she had plans for her life she cant just sit back leave all her plans and carry this baby on her OWN. Unless the father is involved their is no way she is going to do what she wants.

[endless_hope]

Why cry over spilled milk....lol... This is a baby and she had plans for her life she cant just sit back leave all her plans and carry this baby on her OWN. Unless the father is involved their is no way she is going to do what she wants.
Well this is wat happens when young teenager with ranging hormones make the decison of their life time..ever action has a recation and she shoud take the consequences of her action..

[strike]

And she is...Every consequence has to have a solution! She has options she is simply asking us for help.

[I Love Necks]

That's what you get for opening your legs up and acting like a fucking whore, fucking every guy who comes in sight.
Oh well that's what you get you're mature enough to have sex and act like a slut you're mature enough to deal with this yourself. You got yourself into it now you get out yourself.
Wow aren't you a massive cunt.

[barley_baby]

I totally forgot i posted that on here!!
I havent been on these forums for... like half a year?! Jeez its almost comforting to see how much i panicked compared to how sorted i am now!!

If anyone's interested, i did keep it, I had a girl, Phoebee, she's 2 months next week.

Yer im an 18 year old mum, but i'm totally coping, i live at home with my parents still, as it's hard being a single mum so young, and Phoebs will have a better life with more people around.

All my friends and family help out and despite the banter that unfortunatly comes with the whole teenage pregancy, i;ve never been happier..

Obviously i'm not advertising my situation to any of you, i didn't mean to get into it, i used the pill AND a condom and it WAS with someone i cared about. (Did, until he refused to have anything to do with Phoebee) But i wouldn't change it for the world, i love my daughter more than i've ever loved anything, parenthood really makes u grow up fast.

Thanks for all the advice guys, sorry i wasn't around much to take it, haven't had the net for a while...


Love

Barley

[MissSunshine]

wow thats great 4 u! well done

[barley_baby]

Yer lol i live with my Dad, with my baby girl lol, i think he knows hehe..

He was totally supportive though, after he got over being angry, but in the end i WAS carefull, noone can say i didn't try!

[Tami]

i hope you and your baby have a brilliant life. and i also hope you can still fulfill all of your dreams. x

[ficti0n]

Yeah good luck!

[GemmaJamPot]

Awwww :) im glad that you are happy and everything. She has a gorgeous name :) lol.
So yeah.. good luck :)
Goes to show that all the stereotyping ideas that people have about teenage pregnancies can be complete bollocks. :)

X

[Rashella]

Aw it's nice to see someone come back with a happy ending.

Good luck to you and your daughter.

[Glamour_Love]

It's really nice to hear everything worked out for you :) Enjoy her!

[barley_baby]

Cheers guys :)

Don't worry, i'm not letting the fact that i have a baby ruin my dreams, it's just post-poned them if you like lol.

Still at college :) They have a nursery!!

Things arent to bad for teen mums these days!!

xx

[Glamour_Love]

I was going to say when I read your original post that you could still achieve anything you had planned, just with a baby in tow :)

Once again enjoy her, before you know it she'll be all grown up!

[jcbangl]

if u can't abort it then there is always adoption. only do that if u know that u didn't get too attached to it while it is inside you. in the end it is ur decision. :)

[klgsbaby]

its okay to panic just don't panic yourself to death talk to a doctor or someone who you can confide in or feel comfortable about talking about this. but you need to think things over clearly if the father doesnt know tell him and good luck and god bless

[GemmaJamPot]

^^ didnt u 2 read the other posts? :S She already had a baby. Lol.

X

[klgsbaby]

I totally forgot i posted that on here!!
I havent been on these forums for... like half a year?! Jeez its almost comforting to see how much i panicked compared to how sorted i am now!!

If anyone's interested, i did keep it, I had a girl, Phoebee, she's 2 months next week.

Yer im an 18 year old mum, but i'm totally coping, i live at home with my parents still, as it's hard being a single mum so young, and Phoebs will have a better life with more people around.

All my friends and family help out and despite the banter that unfortunatly comes with the whole teenage pregancy, i;ve never been happier..

Obviously i'm not advertising my situation to any of you, i didn't mean to get into it, i used the pill AND a condom and it WAS with someone i cared about. (Did, until he refused to have anything to do with Phoebee) But i wouldn't change it for the world, i love my daughter more than i've ever loved anything, parenthood really makes u grow up fast.

Thanks for all the advice guys, sorry i wasn't around much to take it, haven't had the net for a while...


Love

Barley
congrats on your decision i send my blessing to you and your baby hope all goes well for ya'll

[klgsbaby]

^^ didnt u 2 read the other posts? :S She already had a baby. Lol.

X yea i just read it lol sorry haha :P i reposted a new comment about it

[GemmaJamPot]

Hehe, thats okay lol.. I just got confused whilst reading ur posts, so thought id ask, lol. :)
Ive done that before too, so no worries lol.

X

[barley_baby]

Lol thanks for the comments guys, im asuming JCbangL didn't know ive already had it, cause theres no way i'd give her away now, never even thought about it..

And oh yer the father knows, he just don't want nothing to do with her, still i'm getting child payments from him as thats a legal certainty, he'll prob come bak into our lives when he's grown up a lil bit and want in, but i'll cross that bridge when i unfortunatly come to it.

For now its just me, Phoebs and my family!

xxx

[jcbangl]

Lol thanks for the comments guys, im asuming JCbangL didn't know ive already had it, cause theres no way i'd give her away now, never even thought about it..

And oh yer the father knows, he just don't want nothing to do with her, still i'm getting child payments from him as thats a legal certainty, he'll prob come bak into our lives when he's grown up a lil bit and want in, but i'll cross that bridge when i unfortunatly come to it.

For now its just me, Phoebs and my family!

xxx



srry yea i kno now. ;)
im glad that u two are doing good. hope things are working out great for u and for the future. and it was just a last resort thing. my mom gave my oldest sister up for adoption when she was pregnant at 17 and well yea i don't kno who she is or anything.

[-Luke-]

I'm glad things are working out for you :)