Is this wrong?

[annihilate_me]

I'm 18 and my fiance is 29.

My parents are really pissed about it. I've been dating him since I was 13, but we haven't had any sexual encounters. We've decided to wait until marriage, especially because I was so young when we met. He was a friend of my oder sister, and we just got along when I met him. My mom knew I was talking to a guy 10 1/2 years older than me, but she didn't know I was 'dating' him, she thought we were just friends. She absolutely flipped when I told her we were getting married.

How can persuade my parents that everythings ok and to let us get married?

[Innamorata]

I don't really think you can. You just have to let them see that you've been dating for 5 years, and that he's been treating you right. I don't think the age gap really matters now you're 18, but they're not necessarily going to see that. I'm engaged but haven't told my parents, I'm scared of how they'd react.

[Buttons93]

You're 18, surely they should be happy for you, you're old enough to be able to make your own decisions? You might just have to wait for them to get round the idea of it.

[God.]

Any 24 year old who would date a 13 year old would arouse suspicions anywhere, to be frank.

Do they know you've been dating 5 years?

[Shane]

Seems a bit out of the ordinary if you ask me.
I'd like more details. How did you meet etc?

[Hugga-Bear]

Out of the ordinary, horribly so. For a 24 year old to date a 13 year old is off. I'm sorry but it is. As you get older it gets to be more acceptable and it is re assuring he didn't do anything but still, it's not something going to be willingly accepted.
The oldest I have gone is 2 and a bit years above my age when I was 15.
Again this disturbs me, greatly. I have a natural bond with kids for some reason but point is I have had younger girls (three years younger) who have hit on me and I have laughed it off, ten years? its...horrible....

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

No offense, but if he's dating someone your age and is willing to marry you when he's nearly 30 years old, it's like dating a kid. You can't convince your parents it's okay because they're protective, they care about you, and you dating someone who is way older than you isn't really going to please them much so there's not much you can do.
If you want to marry him though, go ahead. But you're still young, you don't know exactly who or what you want yet and 10 years down the road you may feel diferrently about him because you are still maturing, you're going to change alot while you are still growing, and you're still very young compared to him.

[Innamorata]

Bloody hell, she's not that young.

[Hugga-Bear]

No shes not but the problem is that you have been dating for 5 years : /. If you had met him just recently and started dating it would be acceptable, your parents may not like it still but it wouldn't be worrying, it happens. But for a 24 year old to date a 13 year old...thats worrying...
Does your sister know? I would tell her first and would really consider not telling your parents you've been dating for 5 years...anyway you do it though I doubt they'd be happy at first. Remember they're just trying to be protective though, even if they don't understand, they try their best.

[nyx]

No shes not but the problem is that you have been dating for 5 years : /. If you had met him just recently and started dating it would be acceptable


I disagree, I think its very mature that they've been together 5 years and not done anything sexual. And that they haven't rushed getting married, 5 years is a long time.

A 24 with a 13yo I agree is wrong, but thats the the stage they're at anymore

I can't give you any advice on the parent front I'm afriad but I don't think its wrong. Just be wary that you still have changing to do when you're 18, still maturing to do, so that might change your views on marriage and him etc. But if you're sure you'll just have to demonstrate to your parents how much you love him and how sensible you've been.

[elaine010]

this made me think alot.
think about it a 24 year old man.we have to call him a man.
liking a 13 year old just a kid.
that isnt very good in my view.
but this man have a bit of a pervetion even if you havent done any thing?
think about it it makes sens.