sour subject for some.

[mnloveheart03]

i have this friend who got pregnant at 12, had the baby at 13.
she gave it up for adoption and it wasnt by choice. --i think.
but i see how much she misses her little boy and it hurts her.
i hate to see how much she is throwing he life away and everything.
its sad. that boy is her life, she sees him twice a year.


opinion; i would keep it, no matter what anyone would say--wouldnt be
able to give it up or go through it.


whats yours: if you were like around age 15?

[Innamorata]

I'd have an abortion if I was that young, especially if I was single.

[Buttons93]

I always find myself talking about this with people. I'd keep it, I couldn't go through with an abortion .. knowing I've stopped something which would develop into having a life. I wouldn't be able to put it up for adoption either, it would be a part of me and to let it go would just be so hard.

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

I can understand it would be painful, but she's so young so it's best for the boy until she's old enough to take care of him.
I can't say I feel for her that much because she's the one who decided to have sex.

[jemjar]

I would say that i wouldnt have an abortion because i dont believe in it, and i wouldnt be able to give my baby up for adoption, but i suppose until your in that situation you dont know.

[Brianna.]

She couldn't possibly provide that child with a healthy upbringing at the age of 12. She's just a child herself. I think the right decision was made in giving up the child. It wouldn't have been fair to either of them if she kept it.

[iPodge]

What child would want to grow up knowing his/her mother was pregnant at the age of 12, how is that setting a good example? It isn't aborted or adopted, a 13 year old cannot raise a child.

[VraiCanon]

I wouldn't abort.
However it's difficult to say how I'd really feel if I was in that situation, I would be heartbroken if I aborted. I don't think I'd be able to live with myself - I'm just that kind of person.

[Kiki_Yoko_Uno]

I dont think i could have an abortion....not that i am totally against it because other people can do it, i just wouldnt. I would consider adoption, but would probably keep the baby.

[brokenstar]

i wouldnt abort i think adoption would be best but maybe by a family member,
abortion is a terrible thing i swore no matter what the situation i would provide for my child, i was 16 and got pregnant im 18 and childless now, it wasnt my choice. i had an ectopic pregnancy and it was a case of i die or i abort i wasnt really given a choice but since that day ive realised how precious life is, if it came down to me being pregnant and not being able to care for my child i would put him/her up for adoption as there are so many couple that want children and cant have them.
sorry this has turned in to a long post i shall shh now!

[Kate]

I'd abort, everytime.

Even if you do give it up for adoption, it's always going to wonder 'why didn't my mummy want me?'

[anarchyrules]

i would have 2 keep a baby i could never do 2 choices because my mum and dad were adop_ed and i always wonder who i am and where i came. my mum and dad are really messed up so i could never do and abor_ion i fink is basicaly murder-only my opinion

[Amexie]

I think its equally as cruel either way you go.
Because bringing a child into the world and putting it into care can cause all kind of confusion, emotional pain and problems for the kid, but having an abortion means terminating something that could have had a life..
If I was 12 I would've probably had an abortion though. Infact, at 12, I couldn't even make my own descions properly.

[Tamsin (:]

I dunno...it'd be a REALLY hard decision. I don't think I'd be able to bring myself to have an abortion, but I sure as hell wouldn't be able to raise a child. I don't think I could put it up for adoption either though, that'd be really hard 'cos as Tami said, it'd be a part of me. But if I was 12 it'd be even harder and I doubt I'd be able to make the right decision tbh. I do understand why some people have abortions though, but it annoys me when people see it as a form of contraception.

[Leon]

My girlfriend is against abortion.

I don't think I'd want her to abort either too.

[confused1010]

I know you may not like it but in my opinion abortion is the lesser of 2 evils here. I'm fully aware that abortion would be killing a human life and that some would see it as murder, but tbh life is only precious if its worth living, and for a child 2 b brought up by a 13 year old, as a mistake, i think would only turn out for the worse. I reckon adoption is the best option if she's really that against abortion...give the kid a chance in life, it's not all about her

[Arielle]

I don't think I can really say anything about it... Not until I actually came into that kind of position, truthfully. But I don't think I would abort, because I really like kids.

[mnloveheart03]

she thinks she might be pregnant again. :/

[mnloveheart03]

and shes fourteen right now, almost fifteen.
she said she will keep the baby if she has another one. :s

[Secret*whisper]

In the end its up to her..
You cant change her mind, but childrens services can be involved if she is believed to have no help looking after it or in no right mental state too..I would suggest she goes and has a good talk with her GP


She couldn't possibly provide that child with a healthy upbringing at the age of 12. She's just a child herself. I think the right decision was made in giving up the child. It wouldn't have been fair to either of them if she kept it.

^ I agree with this.

[gemsy]

I know someone who was in a similar position.
She got pregnant very young and she gave birth to the baby. But she still wanted to be close to it so she got round her own mum to adopt it.
She made sure to tell the baby, when it was old enough, that she was its real mum and explained why the babys nan had adopted the baby.
The baby grew up a happy child :)

[Tyquangf]

I thnk dat a grl should keep her bby nd deal wit da consequences. I wouldnt b able 2 deal wit givin my bby up. I would pay da price nd da bby daddy would b around 4 da bby 2. No teen mom should hav 2 giv her bby awy bcuz othaz tel her 2.

[Shiro Yuri]

I thnk dat a grl should keep her bby nd deal wit da consequences. I wouldnt b able 2 deal wit givin my bby up. I would pay da price nd da bby daddy would b around 4 da bby 2. No teen mom should hav 2 giv her bby awy bcuz othaz tel her 2.
Le sigh. The problem that arises from this, is the factor that at such a young age, the newborn's mother simply would not have the ability to look after the child properly. Certainly, feeding and changing would be of little importance, as any human being with two hands and a strong nose is able to do so, but at 13 or 14, the mother would have no way of funding the child's clothing, food, vaccinations against illnesses (Which I believe are required, and it is illegal not to do, though I may be incorrect) In the end, it is usually for both the mother and child's best interests, that the child is taken somewhere it is able to be nurtured properly in a safe environment.

I myself would not give up the child. It may seem inhuman, but if I did not feel ready for one, and the father felt the same/was not around, I would terminate the pregnancy.

[dolittle08]

i have this friend who got pregnant at 12, had the baby at 13.
she gave it up for adoption and it wasnt by choice. --i think.
but i see how much she misses her little boy and it hurts her.
i hate to see how much she is throwing he life away and everything.
its sad. that boy is her life, she sees him twice a year.


opinion; i would keep it, no matter what anyone would say--wouldnt be
able to give it up or go through it.


whats yours: if you were like around age 15?


I actually never thought of being pregnant around that age.. I would keep the baby mostly because he/she is mine.. it's not like he/she comes from someone else's womb..

[devilsangel141]

I am totally against abortion so I would keep it. Even if I was 13. I couldn't give away my baby- my own flesh and blood.

[GemmaJamPot]

One word.... Contraception!

If you dont want the chance of being pregnant... use protection! Ok, fair enough the condom can split.. but this isnt the case most of the time. Also... I do try not to be judgemental... but 12 isnt really an age you should be having sex. Fair enough, some people make mistakes but you said she said "she will keep the baby if she has another one" - surely after the last pregnancy she would be careful enough to not get pregnant a second time?

Anyways... if it was me... I dont personally think I could have an abortion, and I know I wouldnt be able to put it up for adoption... so id keep it.

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[StripesNGoggles]

That's sad...

I don't think I could ever have an abortion or give it up for adoption.

I'm not telling other people what to do, but I still think it's sad.

[chloe1993]

If I had people, who I knew would support me and help me out, all the way through untill I was old enough (thats not meaning a boyfriends, cuz they come and go) but if it was my Mom and Dad.. I would keep it..

[Ashley1994]

Personaly I think abortions are just wrong...but that is just me..I would have kept it..but if it wasnt by choice that really sucks.
I am sorry that she has to go through this..but maybe she can ask to see her son a little more? B/c that does not seem like enough...I would want to see him at least once a week...he is her child and she should be able to see him more than she does..
good Luck to her =]

[dOc.dOpe]

i'd keep it ... point blank
no abortion, or adoption