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vicariouslyme
February 13th '08, 02:05 PM
I have recently been dumped after a year n a half because my exs mother feels she needs to be away from me because she spent to much time with me..
Its been a month now and i have been thinking about looking for someone else.. there was a girl who lived a few miles away from me i talked to alot, shes always liked me and had no problem telling me that but i never could share the feelings back.. i started to tell her that i liked her then she told me she had a boyfriend i was like ok i could respect that not much i could do.. but she started telling me she wud break up with him for me n that i was the one for her and all this i didnt want her to do that for me but at the same time i did.. i was on msn one nite and she sent me a long message telling me she broke up with her boyfriend and she wanted me to be hers and i said i would think about it.. i wasnt really sure if i was ready for a relationship. when i said i didnt know if i was ready she said "it wasnt for you my bf sent that to me i love him i dont wanna go with you" my heart sank and i just thought ok n signed off.. i havent spoken to her sense.. a few weeks later i kept getting anon fone calls they wud stay on the fone and not talk then hang up. i grabbed my mums fone and rang numbers i thought it cud be.. i eventualy found out it was an ex from a while bk.. i started to text her and we got on we slagged each other but it was all in fun and we arranged to meet up.. i went to her house the next nite n she stood at the door.. when i told her to come out she wudnt but she was being her usual self.. she looked well and i knew she made an effort for me.. after half an hour we kissed.. and i left.. happy thinking sumit mite be there.. five minutes later i got a text saying forget it happened and i later ofund out she was seeing someone and she wudnt give him up for me.. i accpeted it without much of a fight and let it go.. why does it seem im being used for when there bored?
I know i am good looking but not in a big headed way im a nice guy and wudnt treat anyone like crap.. i never go over board and i can handle what people tell me is that the reason why people think they can do this? would really like someones help a girls preferably to see if they know whats going on inside their head.
Thanks x

God.
February 13th '08, 03:09 PM
To be honest, if you're a good looking guy, then the right girl will come along. Your problem appears in your typing, as you're talking like there's only 2 girls in your town.

There probably isn't, so you should get out there, if you feel it's the right thing for you to do, especially if you feel you have no chance from your ex.

Are you still in touch with her?

vicariouslyme
February 13th '08, 03:19 PM
well not really.. i care about this girl more than anything i mean even my own life shes my world n recently i have heard she has been changing into something she used to despise she goes to the trashy bars n just hanging around wit the rong people i have been trying to tell her i just care bout her n i dont want anyhting to happen her but all i get is abuse n that she doesnt want me in her life at all.. its like she hates me.. for no reason.. it just seems that she has changed from the sweet loving careing girl i used to know to a complete bitch i hate it its killing me

God.
February 13th '08, 03:22 PM
Then she wasn't right for you.

Move on, grow in confidence, and the right girl will definitely come along.

vicariouslyme
February 13th '08, 05:19 PM
easier said than done friend!!

God.
February 13th '08, 05:24 PM
indeed it is, but that doesn't mean it's not the right thing to do.

VraiCanon
February 13th '08, 05:42 PM
Don't look for love, love will find you. (Cliché but does hold truth)
Just take some time out from the dating game, embrace the single life. Relationships are obviously getting you unnecessarily upset/stressed and you don't need that!
You will find the right girl, good things come to those who wait.

Sweetest.x.Sin
February 14th '08, 02:27 AM
I think you are picking at all the wrong tpes of girls and just haven't met the right one yet.
The right one comes along eventually for everyone, but you can't go looking for love. You need to let love come ot you because it will eventually. You just need to give it some time. Don't let those girls get to you because the ones you've just described don't deserve you.

vicariouslyme
February 14th '08, 07:52 AM
thanks guys but lonleiness is a burden none shud bear i hate it.. yeah its ok during the day with friends n work n stuff takes up time but when ur home at nite you miss that person u miss the closeness of someone.. the reliability, the every secure thing you had in your life is now gone.. and its hard to deal with.. and i just wanna feel secure again.. not love intirely because im not naive n i know that love just doesnt happen but i need tht someone just to make me feel like i am..