The ex.

[Isabella]

I've been in a relationships for about 9 months now and its had its ups and downs but overall, everything's been fine. Recently though, his his exgirlfriend broke up with her boyfriend, and now all of a sudden they've become best friends. He's hasn't been treating me the same lately. He goes over to her house. I happened to glance at his sent calls and he always calls her multiple times, usually right after he calls me. I just don't know what to think anymore. I mean, is he cheating on me, is he in love with his ex and just doesn't know how to break it off with me, or am I just really worrying about nothing? To top it off, I'm highly against weed and he told me he wouldn't do it anymore. But I found out that he's likely doing it behind my back anyway. It's so frusturating for me, I just can't deal with it for some reason. Even though I love him more than anything, this just hurts so much and I feel like breaking it off with him because the way things are now, it seems like he wouldn't even care. I just spent the entire day crying about this. I just don't know what to do, any help would be appreciated.

[Isabella]

Yeah... that really helps

[Jyt]

I think it would probably be best to break up with him.
If you know for a fact that he has smoked weed after promising you he wouldn't, that shows you 2 things:
1. You can't trust him to be honest
2: He doesn't respect you enough to keep a promise to you.
And if he doesn't respect you, and isn't honest with you, how can you believe he isn't cheating on you?
Especially when you know it's someone he has a history with, and there is that very coincidental timing with them starting to hang out alot.

[Buttons93]

Have you spoken to him about it? I think that would be the best thing to do, to start off with. Tell him you are uncomfortable with the amount of time he spends with his ex and it's all just a bit too hard for you to cope with the fact he was going out with her at one point but then they both got into different relationships and now they're suddenly best friends, now that she has split up with her boyfriend. Try to be understanding about it but also be firm with it.
I think you should do the same about the weed thing, as Jyt has said, he promised you he wouldn't but you have suspicion about it. Don't jump to conclusions, find out for sure if he is doing it or not and if he is then tell him you know he is back on weed and because you're highly against it, let him choose. It's either weed, or you.

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

Well first off, why do you have a problem with him doing weed? It's not that big a deal. But he could have jut told you he would do it anyways instead of lying to you and doing it behind your back, so he lied to you. Who knows what else he's lying to you about.
If he's paying more attention to his ex other than you, I think it would be wise to break it off with him because it sounds like he's cheating on you or showing very high interest in his ex once again, so you deserve better. Just break up with him because he's not going to make you happy.

[*Jess*]

Well first off, why do you have a problem with him doing weed? It's not that big a deal.


Of course it's a big bloody deal, it's a drug, she's concerned about him. It's not good for you, nor is it good to be involved in the drug business. If I was with someone who was doing weed, it would be a big deal. Open your mind, see clearly as it seems you are most certainly not doing now.

[Innamorata]

Glad Jess said it. I wouldn't date someone that did weed.

[nyx]

I think you should just talk to him about your worries. You've been with each other a long time you should be able to open up about these things now.
It could be nothing with his ex, or it might be. Ask him, see how he reacts.

In terms of the weed, you can never control what a person does, but if he promised you he'd give up and he hasn't then he's broken his word. Tell him that upset you, but don't try and force him it won't owrk. I was the same when my ex started smoking. He also did weed, but for some reason that didn't bother me half as much, largely because I wouldn't say no back then.

[VraiCanon]

Don't get yourself so worked up over something that you may be blowing out of proportion.
Even if he is becoming good friends with his ex again, that doesnt mean hes still in love with her so to speak. Were they friends whilst his ex was with her boyfriend?
It's better to just ask him to be straight and if need be, brutally honest, with you.
A tad confused as to why someone said to give him the ultimatum 'weed or you' :|
Fair enough he shouldn't be lying to you but if he wants to do it, he's going to regardless. Asking him to stop doing something he obviously enjoys doing isn't really a good move if you ask me. I just don't think it's necessary.

[Ajay]

=[ aw. Well in my perspective it seems like they might be "talking" and he might have a little spark going on with her and might want to get with her and just doesnt know how to break it to you.

But i may be wrong, if his behavior continues then i'd suggest you break it before he does. :/.

best of luck.