Do your friends lie to you?

[Mamfy]

I have just recently been aware of the fact that my "friends" are starting to lie to me to get noticed, and to get people to like them.
Is this a common occurance or is it just me that is witnessing this?

It's starting to annoy me.

[Charley]

My friends never lie to my but i did have one friend that did, i think it is a occuring thing but if a friend really cares and trusts you then they should always tell the truth xx

[NATAL!E]

It depends what kind of lying it is really...

[Mamfy]

Well, she makes up stories about things that happen to her. So she can get attention.

[claire]

it is an occuring thing. I have a friend who does the exact same thing!! It makes it hard to trust what shes saying actually happened n tbh i don't like doubting her. Have you tried talking to your friends about this?

[Sponge'K'nob]

i have got friends that egzadurate (or how eva u smel it) things, like makin it bigger than what it was to get attention, haha bet guys make things sound bigger than they really are *cough* BOB *cough*

[NATAL!E]

Lmao Kaye.

And Mamfy, it's basically your decision what you do about this. You can eithger leave her and hope it passes/choose to ignore it. Either that, or you say something to her, not something mean or nasty, but just letting her know that you know some of the things she's saying aren't true. And that you just want to let her know that she doesn't have to make things up to get you to notice her or like her, because she's one of your friends and you'll always be there for her. Or something along those lines anyways.

[Bob!]

Oi Kaye I've never full on lied like that, I've only ever messed around now and then and make sure I tellppl the truth if they start to believe any of it.

Also Mamfy yeah ya get bullshitters in every community, normally I just say yeah to whatever theyre sayin and leave em to it but dont actually believe any of it lol. Some do it for attention, others just do it for the simple sake of saying something whether its true or not.

Also Mamfy what kinda things are they sayin, are they making things up about you or just goin on about themselves?

[Mamfy]

The thing is Nat, I would talk to her if she wouldn't ditch me for it. I have spoken to her about stuff before, in a polite and calm manner but she's taken it to the extreme and gone off with some other people and left me. I've got to the point where I'm soo fed up that I don't care. She can say what she likes. I'll go along with it but I don't believe her., It's better that I keep it that way in my opinion, because she will only make my life hell if I dsay anything.

Bob, she makes stuff up about what she's done, and things that happen to her, because her life is so boring she has to play games and make shit up to get people to like her and want to be her friend,. It's pathetic really because I never do it, I don't see why she has to. It's just making me go off her.

[Charley]

Yeah thats true. Cn i just ask is she an only child because psychologically only children will make up stories to get attention but thats only going by my college lol xx

[Mamfy]

No, she is the oldest. She has a younger brother in year 7, then a younger sister in year 6. Her parents are split up. Her dad has a stable partner and her mum has men on the go allt he time. She doesn't get on with her mum at all, but she doesn't try. She hates her siblings too, but yet again she doesn't try to get on with them,.

[Charley]

Well all i can suggest is to talk to her and try to pin point the reason behind her lying it could be to do with her not getting on with her mum or her parents are split up

[Mamfy]

But they've been split up since she was very little. She doens't care. She loves her dad but doesn't really like her mum. She goes on holiday allt he time with her dad and his partner and they buy her loiads of stuff. I don't understand why she should lie.

She has also started skiving school and lessons. Is she going down the bad girl route? Like, willt he smkoing, drinking, or drugs be next? I just don't know.

[Bob!]

Yeah thats true. Cn i just ask is she an only child because psychologically only children will make up stories to get attention but thats only going by my college lol xx

Nah thats absoloute bollocks really as itl be different for everyone lol, I was an only child in a split familly till 4 years ago (when me bro was born) and never really been like that, me mum also thought that when me bro was born I might try to get more attention and stuff cause he'd be gettin a hella lot of it with being a lil kid and so on, so she just wanted me to know that I wunt be left out or whatever, but I understood ok anyways and I aint really bothered lol, lil kids should be gettin the attention.

Anyways Mamfy, it does just sound like thats what shes after, gettin people to notice her so she can stand out and look good, its is possible that if it gets worse she might start hangin around with the "bad kid" crew and start smokin or drinkin or whatever just to look "cool" and get people to notice her, even if its in a bad way lol.

But I think you're doing the right thing by just ignorin her, as you said speakin to her about it will only cause unneeded hassle, so just ignore her as you are and dont believe a word of anything, leave her to her own thing if she wants to be like that. If she expects to be your friend then she should respect you by not being like that with ya, so just leave her to do what she wants and just treat her as an "acquaintance", as in not really putting yourself out for her or anything till she gives you the respect that a friend should deserve.

[Mamfy]

Yeah. It's getting to the point wehre most of my "friends" are turning out like that. THey are all skiving off lessons and school and forging letters from their parents and stuff. I don't understand. We HAVE to go to school at my ages, therefore why not just make the most of it now, while we have to do it, otherwise when we're older, we're gonna wish we hadn't fucked around. WE're at a grammar school and a lot of the people I know are wasting a valuable place that someone eager to work, would love to have.

I don't understand people sometimes.

[Boy_Wonder06]

mamfy dont take this the wrong way, but if there having to lie to you to get noticed then there obviously not a very good friend, if they are seeking attention then don't give it them, and say to them that they should stop telling lies or they will lose your friendship. Be strong and upfront, my friend used to do that and she came out with some awful things, and i set her straight, we're brill now!

[Mamfy]

I dont' give them attention. I can't be bothered with her anymore. Yeah, okay, I'll talk to her and have fun with her IN SCHOOL but I'm not fussing around with doing stuff out of school or anything. Stuff like this has happened with her before. It's getting on my nerves now.

Don't worry, I'm not offended. I've known it all along. The people I know are not friend material at all. Everyone in my year is weird. They either skive off school, steal things, act like 10 year olds, are into sex and dirty stuff or they just don't talk. I can't seem to find any normal people :(

[Bob!]

Nowdays that is the "normal" lol.

Its more people who dont think like that are the wierd ones, thats why most people be like that, to fit in and look "cool".

I'd say just go ya own way, then at least you are being you and will always have one thing, your personal honor. Leave the people who want to be like that to their own stuff lol, if they want to be like that then as I said just treat em as acquaintances, nothing more.

[Mamfy]

I do now. I'm quite happy to do my own thing, and it will stay that way. I have my family and my boyfriend and that's all I need so I am happy. :)

Thanks you guys, you've been a real help :)

[Stephanie]

Yeah thats true. Cn i just ask is she an only child because psychologically only children will make up stories to get attention but thats only going by my college lol xx

haha...that's funny that you say that because there's this one guy in my friendship group who is CONSTANTLY talking shit and he's an only child. You can't trust a single thing he says (even the small things that don't even matter) because chances are that it's a lie.

What course in college are you taking that says that? Psychology?

[Bob!]

Tbh, that about the only child thing is kinda bollocks :P

Maybe theres an increased chance of em being an attention seeker, but I'd say its just the person really, you could say the same about peopel with brothers or sisters because the other person might be getting all the attention lol.

[Charley]

Im doing health and social care but i also did a course outside of college to do with psychology

[SG's lil babe]

I'd advise talking to her and getting to the root of her problems. Is she definitely lying? Maybe there is a reason for the lying, maybe there is serious stuff going on at home and rather than tell people about that she'd rather lie to make things seem okay.
Hope it goes okay.

[Mamfy]

They completely ignored me the whole day today. They were so rude to me.
We have astudent review day tomorrow, where we come in for 10 minutes to talk to the teacher about our progress, and then go home or do whatever for the rest of the day.
And them to were planning what they were gonna do tomorrow, in front of me. They kept going on about it and stuff. So I could hear them, but it really hurt me. I didn't show them that it got to me, I just didn't care, is that he best thing to do?

Because the "main girl" of us, she has to get what she wants and she thinks she knows best. ANd she has turned the girl I went on holiday with, against me, because she is so easily swayed that she will go with what the main person says. She is a lovely person but I hate what she's turned into.

This girl (main girl) has done this to me countless numbers of times, is it time to make new friends now? I've had it with them,I really have.

[PrincessAlice]

yep my "friends" lie to me all time thats why i can't wait to leave school

to be honest i couldn't careless if i leave school without any friends im quite happy just seeing Wayne outa school i never see any of them anyway

[SG's lil babe]

What sort of stuff does she lie to you about? It sounds like you need to sit them both down and talk to them and find out what you've done (if anything) that made them ignore you. Otherwise you'll constantly be wondering and it'll upset you and bother you.

[Mamfy]

yep my "friends" lie to me all time thats why i can't wait to leave school

to be honest i couldn't careless if i leave school without any friends im quite happy just seeing Wayne outa school i never see any of them anyway

Hey that's exactly what I think. I don't want to see any of them out of school, I am quite happy just to see my boyfriend and my family.

They are so immature and really petty, I wish they'd grow up./

[Shane]

I can't beleive you were online at 6:50am. Do you ever sleep.

And yeah if ya friends are always lying to you Alice, stuff em. :P

[Mamfy]

I had just got back from my paper round. I get up at 5:40am every morning.

Alice? WTF?! I'm Mamfy :S

[Richiecroft]

Ok, what you could try doing Mamfy, is not listening or even talking to (your once) close friend and see if she notices what shes done or what shes doing! This may seem really hard to acheive, but if she doesn't try to talk to you or contact you or anything maybe shes a little scared or worried about what this (other girl) is going to do/say to her, just seperate from her and not give them that advantage to help fill their needs!

Fair enough i left school like 2 years ago now, but i walked away with only 1 friend and they are a friend and nothings come between us and never will :P

[Mamfy]

On tuesday night, she sent me a measley text at half 9 at night saying 'Do you hate me?'

I don't understand why she couldn't have either 1/. Been nice to me and then nothing would have happened or 2. Asked if I was okay, to my face, rather than wimping out and sending me alittle text

[Richiecroft]

Well if she carries on doing this, don't sorta give up and be friends with her again, but wait and see if tries to call you or sends you another text.

[Mamfy]

But that's the thing, texts mean nothing to me, she might as well not say it for all it matters. It shows to me that she isn't brave enough to ask me to my face and chickens out by sending a text.

She has left me out, and done this time and time again and I'm so fed up of it.

[Richiecroft]

Ok. Before all this rubbish happened with this other girl, how close were you guys? Coz if this other girl has like brainwashed her, then your friend(!) might be able to say like how close you were and that nothing can come between your friendship!

[Pearson]

i have got friends that egzadurate (or how eva u smel it) things, like makin it bigger than what it was to get attention, haha bet guys make things sound bigger than they really are *cough* BOB *cough*

I had a mate called booler, he erm stretched the truth a little...

[Mamfy]

How much?

[SG's lil babe]

If she keeps on ignoring you, maybe you should count your losses and move on to new friends.

[PrincessAlice]

I had just got back from my paper round. I get up at 5:40am every morning.

Alice? WTF?! I'm Mamfy :S

lol he was talking about me :) my names alice lol

[Mamfy]

Ooooh whoopsie :D