Amexie
March 14th '08, 06:38 PM
Okay, bit of a long story here.
So I have a group of friends, like everyone else, but most of them are boys. Theres a few girls in our group, but I'm not particularly close to them and they often go off and do things like netball and Duke of Edinburgh at lunch which I'm really not interested in at all. So I end up being with the boys on my own.
But that's okay, I don't feel too uncomfortable because I have a boyfriend in the group, so I have a reason to be there, lets just call him M.
I suppose even if I didn't have a boyfriend I wouldn't really feel uncomfortable, because I'm really close to those guys as friends.
Though being only 14, people who don't know me take that the wrong way and sometimes see me as a bit of a whore, which I don't like. I wish I was closer to my female friends, but they were all a really close net little group already when I met them, so it was hard fitting in.
So anyway. Tonight the guys were hosting a little party thing at one of their house's. None of the girls could go apart from me. I've been in this situation before, and to be honest, I've only ever gone as the only girl because I wanted to see M.
But in the end I decided against going because my mum said I look like I'm chasing him by always being so available, and I should wait till he actually really wants to see me enough to make plans JUST to see ME, not me AND his friends. She also thinks I'll eventually make all the boys slowly lose respect for me, and not appreciate time with me anymore. Which is very true thinking about it really.
Also I would've felt quite uncomfortable. They're all boys and I'm a girl. We're friends, but theres always going to be a difference.
Thing is - I want to see my boyfriend, but he's always so around his friends. I don't want to look like I'm chasing him but I love spending time with him, and sometimes I think I care more about seeing him than he does, and he'd rather see his friends. Even though he says its not like that.
His friends have always been My friends even before we were going out, so its not really me hanging out with him and his friends, its me and my boyfriend and MY close friends. Whom happens to all be boys unfortunately.
I wish I had closer girl friends. Do you think I'm being too available for him, so he thinks I'll go along with whatever he wants to do with his mates? Do you think I should try harder to get closer to the girls and back away from the boys for a while?
...If that made no sense whatsoever, I'm very sorry. I'm extremely confused.
So I have a group of friends, like everyone else, but most of them are boys. Theres a few girls in our group, but I'm not particularly close to them and they often go off and do things like netball and Duke of Edinburgh at lunch which I'm really not interested in at all. So I end up being with the boys on my own.
But that's okay, I don't feel too uncomfortable because I have a boyfriend in the group, so I have a reason to be there, lets just call him M.
I suppose even if I didn't have a boyfriend I wouldn't really feel uncomfortable, because I'm really close to those guys as friends.
Though being only 14, people who don't know me take that the wrong way and sometimes see me as a bit of a whore, which I don't like. I wish I was closer to my female friends, but they were all a really close net little group already when I met them, so it was hard fitting in.
So anyway. Tonight the guys were hosting a little party thing at one of their house's. None of the girls could go apart from me. I've been in this situation before, and to be honest, I've only ever gone as the only girl because I wanted to see M.
But in the end I decided against going because my mum said I look like I'm chasing him by always being so available, and I should wait till he actually really wants to see me enough to make plans JUST to see ME, not me AND his friends. She also thinks I'll eventually make all the boys slowly lose respect for me, and not appreciate time with me anymore. Which is very true thinking about it really.
Also I would've felt quite uncomfortable. They're all boys and I'm a girl. We're friends, but theres always going to be a difference.
Thing is - I want to see my boyfriend, but he's always so around his friends. I don't want to look like I'm chasing him but I love spending time with him, and sometimes I think I care more about seeing him than he does, and he'd rather see his friends. Even though he says its not like that.
His friends have always been My friends even before we were going out, so its not really me hanging out with him and his friends, its me and my boyfriend and MY close friends. Whom happens to all be boys unfortunately.
I wish I had closer girl friends. Do you think I'm being too available for him, so he thinks I'll go along with whatever he wants to do with his mates? Do you think I should try harder to get closer to the girls and back away from the boys for a while?
...If that made no sense whatsoever, I'm very sorry. I'm extremely confused.