Plz help

[asdfjkl123]

Ok, so I'm a 16 year old guy and I go to a local magnet school. Most of the girls I come in contact with during the day wouldn't be the steriotypical "hot" person that you'd imagine with big boobs, blond hair, etc. However, they're all pretty nice and whatnot, and one of them is my girlfriend. She's really awesome and she's a pretty cool person to be around and I like her a lot. To completely screw up the story, I have a crush on her best friend. To make matters worse, her best friend is a guy... I've realized that I'm bi and I'm okay with that but what worries me is that I'm finding myself more attracted to guys (especially my girlfriend's friend) than girls. Most people would be like "screw it, I'm gay", but if that's the case, my family would probably disown me and I'd be totally rejected from the religious community I'm a part of. I've gone to numerous sites, reading articles about how you can't change your sexuality, but is there anything anyone has done to do so?

[Shiro Yuri]

You are who you are. If society can't accept that, then it's their loss. There is no way of changing your sexuality, so it's a waste of time and effort to try.

[Shane]

Do you have sexual desires for this guy? If not then maybe you're just bi-curious? No harm there, no need to even tell anyone else. :)

[Torn Apart]

Just do what feels right to you. You can be bi if you want to and don't let anyone tell you differently.

[asdfjkl123]

yea, that's the thing. most of my sexual feelings are for guys, though most of my romantic feelings are for girls so i guess that's where im feeling pretty confused...

[Shane]

Hmmm. We could do with a Gay Dude to give you some Advice. I'll try and get one online for you soon. Their opinion on things might help to shed some light.

[Richiecroft]

Ok, so I'm a 16 year old guy and I go to a local magnet school. Most of the girls I come in contact with during the day wouldn't be the steriotypical "hot" person that you'd imagine with big boobs, blond hair, etc. However, they're all pretty nice and whatnot, and one of them is my girlfriend. She's really awesome and she's a pretty cool person to be around and I like her a lot. To completely screw up the story, I have a crush on her best friend. To make matters worse, her best friend is a guy... I've realized that I'm bi and I'm okay with that but what worries me is that I'm finding myself more attracted to guys (especially my girlfriend's friend) than girls. Most people would be like "screw it, I'm gay", but if that's the case, my family would probably disown me and I'd be totally rejected from the religious community I'm a part of. I've gone to numerous sites, reading articles about how you can't change your sexuality, but is there anything anyone has done to do so?

Right, from what i've gathered so far... you go to a mixed school, have a girlfriend, and have a crush on her best mate (Nothing wrong with that). Ok, taking into account you mentioned before you have sexual feelings/ desires for guys, yet your romantic side for the ladies, it sounds as if your Bi-curious. You wana be with a girl yet do things with guys. Have you explained any of this with your girlfriend? Ya nener know, she might be coll with it! That maybe the answer, let her understand how you feel to make things better. Btw.. How long have you had feelings for this guy for?

[asdfjkl123]

Right, from what i've gathered so far... you go to a mixed school, have a girlfriend, and have a crush on her best mate (Nothing wrong with that). Ok, taking into account you mentioned before you have sexual feelings/ desires for guys, yet your romantic side for the ladies, it sounds as if your Bi-curious. You wana be with a girl yet do things with guys. Have you explained any of this with your girlfriend? Ya nener know, she might be coll with it! That maybe the answer, let her understand how you feel to make things better. Btw.. How long have you had feelings for this guy for?

i'd say about a month or something like that? i've considered being bicurious and I guess it would make some sense in that im curious about guys etc. it would be a little difficult to be like "hey. guess what? I like ur best friend" but I can try to mention it.

[GemmaJamPot]

Do you have strong feelings for this guy, or is it just sexual desire? And, with your gf.. what are your feelings like for her?
Coz your feelings are part of who you are, and therefore cannot change them. But if you have feelings for the guy that are stronger than those of your gf, then you shouldnt stay in the situation you are in, because its like denying yourself of who you are.
And about telling other people... you shouldnt tell them until you are absolutly certain that the feelings for guys is part of who you are. If it is just curiousity, then you dont need to tell them, coz im sure many people have been curious about people of the same sex before. However, if you are actually bi, then maybe you will need to tell them someday, because its who you are and im sure that they will love you no matter what, even if they dont like it.
X

[VraiCanon]

You're probably just bi-curious.

[Richiecroft]

i'd say about a month or something like that? i've considered being bicurious and I guess it would make some sense in that im curious about guys etc. it would be a little difficult to be like "hey. guess what? I like ur best friend" but I can try to mention it.

Ok. Its optional, only if you feel completely comfortable talking about it, like telling a child their pet cat or dogs died, let em down gently but still stick to the situation taking everything into account. Lifes too short to be messing about you either wana do one thing or another, so.. you either wana be with your girlfriend, discuss things and see where that goes or think f**k it, i wana go try things out and see where that takes me?

Because tbh, i've been in a similar situation. Ages ago i met this girl through an old job, we got kinda close and all, met her family, spent time with her, etc until one night after a staff party a so called friend of mine text this girl telling her im gay, she didnt take it very well but still wanted to try sticking to a relationship and seeing where it led.

Enough said.. Think things through and time your time!

We're all here! x