Submissive / Dominant ?

[Thesimpleone.]

Just intrigued as to what peoples preferences are.
What do you prefer??
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[TheMan]

Dominant.

[VraiCanon]

A balance is best.

[Shane]

Depends on the mood I'm in.

[Tommeh!!!]

Same as Shane, sometimes i like to let a girl have her moment.

And a power struggle is always awesome!!

[Thesimpleone.]

much more submissive than dominant, but i have my moments i suppose :P

[-Michael-]

I have me moments.

[ficti0n]

In terms of runing a relationship?

I dunno with different people I always seem to be the 'dominent' one and others I seem to be quite 'submissive'.

In terms of romantic relationships every time I have started as dominent then ended submisive, not good really. :S

It's really interesting too, cause I can't think of many relations I have with people that there isn't a dominent and submissive apart from those which havn't fully formed yet.


Unless you meant sexually then I've just babbled on bout shit here.

[Thesimpleone.]

Haha i did mean sexually, but no matter :P
Relationship wise, Im again submissive for abour 3 weeks of the month .
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[Deathturtle]

Ahah lol! Idk, I suppose i'm dominant, but that's the image i give out to people i think

[Lila]

I like a balance.

[Deathturtle]

Balance would be interesting, never happens with me :(

[Leon]

Balancng it works very well, trust me ;)

[ficti0n]

Sexually, it's nice to let the other one be dominent, in a un-latexey way.

[rosie1]

i tend to be the more dominate person about 60% of the time...

[StripesNGoggles]

Sub

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[Thesimpleone.]

Tbh I just lke a good shag, haha.
Defo sub though.
And the shlaggggg sat next to me is sub aswell ;)

[mwsk91]

Submissive all the way.

[Glamour_Love]

Dominant both in terms of the general relationship and the sexual side too. I have had a few times when I like it when he takes control but they're kinda rare.

[PJV575]

I love a balance, that's what my ex and I had.

Sex was great. I miss it.

[nymphomania]

I'm very submissive, in terms of the sexual side. But in the actual relationship, I lean toward submissive without being all "Yes, Dear" all the damn time.

[ficti0n]

I think this is a really good reflection of personalities :)

[OTR]

I'm kinda submissive in the relationship but more dominant sexually (lol). I'm not really concerned if my gf is dominant or submissive sexually but I like a submissive gf in the relationship (well a *soft* person) because I really hate being told what to do (dominated haha).

[GemmaJamPot]

I think a mix of both in either context is better.
Altho, im still a virgin, so need to test if that theory applies sexually ;)
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[stanley]

i am a virgin as well. but im a virgin by choice.

[Thesimpleone.]

Relationship wise and Sex wise I'm nearly always the sub.

[GemmaJamPot]

i am a virgin as well. but im a virgin by choice.



Isnt everyone who is a virgin, a virgin by choice? :\
And the question wasnt if you are a virgin or not, it was if you are submissive or dominant... and that can apply sexually, or not.

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[stanley]

Isnt everyone who is a virgin, a virgin by choice? :\


no because sometimes a girl or boy can be really fat or ugly or both and nobody will ever want to have sex with them. but what if that person wants to have sex? they dont have a choice then. i no this isnt right but it happens. are u saying these ppl have a choice?
now that i explained it to u and i taught u the difference. are u a virgin by choice or not? because i had the chance with 2 of my x-girlfriends but i didnt want to do it with them.

[xiv_kelly]

i am definitely the dominant one in the room ;)

[GemmaJamPot]

no because sometimes a girl or boy can be really fat or ugly or both and nobody will ever want to have sex with them. but what if that person wants to have sex? they dont have a choice then. i no this isnt right but it happens. are u saying these ppl have a choice?
now that i explained it to u and i taught u the difference. are u a virgin by choice or not? because i had the chance with 2 of my x-girlfriends but i didnt want to do it with them.

That is a really shallow opinion you gots there Stanley... Just because a person is "really fat or ugly" doesnt mean somebody wont like them. Each to their own deary... everyone likes different people. Just because someone isnt generically what people would call good looking, doesnt mean that somebody wont. Also.. you should watch what you say, because you may offend someone; there are people on here that might be really self-conscious (like, worse than me) and actually depressed about it, and its comments like what you said, that have made them like that. It is more likely that they will struggle to find someone because they are always miserable, rather than their appearance.
And besides, even if they have trouble finding a partner... they may still have a choice, because if they are that desperate to have sex, many people are willing to have one night stands, or they could even resort to paying for sex if they feel they have to.
And in answer to your question as to whether I am a virgin by choice or not... are you calling me "really fat or ugly" there? because then you would be contradicting what you said in another thread. Of course I am a virgin by choice, I wanted to wait until I had found someone I was in love with, and now I have, but he lives far away... but im going to see him in August ;)! Ive had the opportunity to have sex, however, I believe in monogamy, and would never cheat on Alain, no matter how far away he is.

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[stanley]

im not shallow and i did not say it is right i was just saying what i feel. it doesnt mean i think it is right. if someone is really fat or ugly they might have a hard time. it doesnt mean nobody wants them it could also mean they have such bad self esteem they dont go out either. but being a virgin is not a choice to them because it is not like somebody says

hey lets fuck

no thanks.

it is a choice if people are given a choice if they never have an opportunity they have no choice. u say they can pay for sex? this is a forum for teenages. do u think teenagers can see prostitutes? u are a great person but u are wrong. not everybody has a choice.

[stanley]

And in answer to your question as to whether I am a virgin by choice or not... are you calling me "really fat or ugly" there? because then you would be contradicting what you said in another thread. Of course I am a virgin by choice, I wanted to wait until I had found someone I was in love with, and now I have, but he lives far away... but im going to see him in August ;)! Ive had the opportunity to have sex, however, I believe in monogamy, and would never cheat on Alain, no matter how far away he is.

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i am not calling u fat or ugly. i am asking because maybe u never had a choice. maybe someone has never asked. i wasnt saying that at all gemma. this upsets me :(

[GemmaJamPot]

im not shallow and i did not say it is right i was just saying what i feel. it doesnt mean i think it is right. if someone is really fat or ugly they might have a hard time. it doesnt mean nobody wants them it could also mean they have such bad self esteem they dont go out either.



Hey, im sorry I called you shallow, it just seemed like its what u thought... which would be shallow. I think self esteem is a bigger issue than appearance tho, coz I think if they look miserable with their body, it will reflect on other people.


it is a choice if people are given a choice if they never have an opportunity they have no choice. u say they can pay for sex? this is a forum for teenages. do u think teenagers can see prostitutes? u are a great person but u are wrong. not everybody has a choice.

Then it is more about opportinity than choice... because, if they were that desperate to have sex then they would find someone who would and put themselves in a position where they have the opportunity.
I dont know about anybody else, but I have seen a prostitute before. I think it would be harder for a female, because male prostitution is more rare... but yes, I do think that if a teenage male was that desperate to have sex, they would be able to find a prostitute easily.
Its a discussion deary, its based on opinions, nobody is necessarily wrong.


i am not calling u fat or ugly. i am asking because maybe u never had a choice. maybe someone has never asked. i wasnt saying that at all gemma. this upsets me http://1.2.3.12/bmi/www.teenageforums.com/forums/images/smilies/frown.gif

Ok ok... it just seemed like you did, because you basically implied that the only people who havnt had choice are fat or ugly.. and then you asked me whether it was my choice or not as to whether I am a virgin. Thats what I got from it anyways. Why are u upset? :S I was just questioning if thats what u implied. Im sorry I was mistaken hun.

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[ficti0n]

Relationship wise its nice to be dominent, but in the bedroom it can be good either way. Theres nothing sexier then a girl thats dominent and knows what shes doing :)

[chocolatepocky]

A bit of a balance is good but I think a power struggle is also pretty hot too =D
Personally, I think I'm more dominant than submissive but not really extreme on either side of the spectrum.

[-Luke-]

Balance should be ideal.
My relationship is more or less generally equal but i end up being more dominant in decisions in the mudane things and she becomes dominant in going out with friends (Such as time and what to wear)
:)

[Tami]

i like being dominant, most of the time. i wont start being dominant until i really know the person, and no that they are comfortable with it.
but i have been in the position where like being submissive

[Tim]

always have been dominant, but have been submissive a few times so i enjoy the balance

[zakarius]

sex im usually the dominant one.. like 90% of the time tho it has now bin a while since i had a GF
relationship wise i like the other person to make decisions n shit insteada just going.. mmm i dno etc..

[Leon]

I find a balance is best.

[TeenageDirtbag]

I'd say i'm the more dominant one.

[solepureskillz]

I'm usually submissive because I care about her feelings more than my own, but since that has always become a problem I switch between the two.

[ficti0n]

Definatly dominant