Good Friend 'seeing' your ex-girlfriend

[ficti0n]

There is nothing worse :(

Went out with a girl for about 2 years, we broke up and today I find out one of my closest friends is getting very friendly with her.

What the fuck!
Anyone else have this happen to them?

[Glamour_Love]

Thankfully I've never experienced this but I'd doubt the authenticity of the good friend if it did.

[GemmaJamPot]

Ive never been there either... but basically same as the above post... any decent friend would know that it is a no-go area. I dont think it would be as bad if he came up to you and told you about any feelings he has for her, and made sure you were alright with it... but getting "friendly" with a long term ex just isnt right.
Hope ur ok.
X

[Shane]

I don't think it's that big a problem, as long as you can move on.
If you know the Guy as well then at least you'll know what he's like and what to expect for her (I'm guessing you still care about her?!). Wouldn't you rather be friend with her an know she is being treated okay and all that?

Of course this is just my perspective and it's entirely down to you. I don't know the full story.

[coolbreeze]

That really sucks. I can understand where you are coming from.

I do agree with Shane, you do need to move on and be happy that she may be with a good guy, but I also sort of agree with the other posts. I think it would be pretty shitty for a friend not to tell you what's going on and if he started seeing this girl right after you two broke up, but I don't know the situation.

I do hope your friend did say something to you about being interested in her and 'seeing' her and it wasn't something you just found out through someone else. Who knows though.. maybe they won't have a relationship? If he does then maybe it will help you move on knowing that she is taken.

[Leon]

When did you break up with her?

[rosie1]

well i kinda am the new girl on the scene
my xbestfriend and my other best friend were hookup buddies (tell me if ur not familar with the term) and anyway she turned into a total cow. and stopped talkin to me and im gettin really close with my best friend

i dnt see that theres anything wrong with it
me and luke are really close
and she kinda has moved on from it
x

[ficti0n]

Broke up about a month ago now I think. I suppose I still care for her, but I have moved on or at least started to.

It just annoyed me a bit, cause there are like things you share with a girlfriend you dont want you mates knowing. Like nothing particulary embaressing, but still makes you think.

I dunno I probably wont give a fuck in a weeks time, it just caught me off guard I think.

[Leon]

It's only natural you're going to still think of her after only a month, I'm surprised at the amount of time between. I don't really blame you for feeling like you do.

[Thesimpleone.]

happened to me but not with a relationship that long, u get over it, n were all mates lol.

[chloe1993]

I Suppose if your mate left it a while until he knew your feelings had gone for her, it would of made the problem a bit easier, him jumping in it straight away suggests to me that he has been waiting for that day when he could get her to come..
i dont know though.
hope all turns out well for you x

[VraiCanon]

Bad times
feels like betrayal on a friends behalf!
However, just try and be happy for them, easier said than done I know.

[ficti0n]

Meh I'm just like 'fuck it' now. I really miss having a girlfriend though :S

[VraiCanon]

I miss having a boyfriend
2 months now :| fucking helllll.

edit - enjoying being single like

[cutthehardline]

There is nothing worse :(

Went out with a girl for about 2 years, we broke up and today I find out one of my closest friends is getting very friendly with her.

What the fuck!
Anyone else have this happen to them?



Indeed I did, EXACT same thing but I caught them instead!... do yourself a favour and get out there and see the world, literally, just go out, take some breaths and think "time to start fresh" and keep with your friends!... or you'll find yourself here where I am, regretting not doing that!

[PJV575]

Hell man, you should feel good that your best friend went after a girl YOU already had. Think about it bro, she's old news, he's got her AFTER you.

[lincoln lad]

In a way, i agree with ^^^


yet, ive been in this situation, and when your good mate is getting close to someone you really care about, it hurts so bad. You feel betrayed, but after a while im sure you would get used to it. I never got that far due to the situation changing, thank god. But you'll be alrite :) Have you spoke to him about it? If not, try that, they might understand, because if you say nothing, they may assume your cool with it.

["m2n"]

listen i have been there.... and if you value your friendship dont let him date your ex. because its just gonna end bad. even though he hasnt been a good friend for you. you should still be loyal to him and make sure he doesnt hook up wit your ex. because its in his best interest. believa me i know.............