*Graphic* Is it worth telling my parents about him or shall I just keep it a secret?

[lana_homeschool]

I know if I tell my parents about my bf they will go crazy at me because they alread said another time that they won't allow me to date guys older than me. My bf is lots of years older than me. But I'm in love witth him and don't let his hands leave me so theres no chance of me saying bye bye to him. So I'd like to know is it worth telling my parents about him or shall I just keep it a secret? btw its really hard keeping it secret really stress. :)

[claire]

how old is your boyfriend?

[lana_homeschool]

how old is your boyfriend?

23

[Pearson]

tell your mum and dad, they might go mad for a bit but there'l accept it aventually.

[Brianna.]

It's better to tell your parents and have them pissed at you for a while.

[Mattimadhead]

there is...quite a shocking difference! if i was your parents id go mad...and they crnt sto pyou seeing him but the can stop you leaving the house!!

[~Wayne~]

1 thing to learn in life, parents find out everything eventually, easier to be honest

[Luke]

Packet of sweets and a cheeky smile, he's a fucking paedohpile.

[Pearson]

Packet of sweets and a cheeky smile, he's a f*cking paedohpile.

I no, aye! 23 and a 15 year old!?! If I wa your dad Id kick his head in.

[Mattimadhead]

Packet of sweets and a cheeky smile, he's a f*cking paedohpile.

lmao! lol

hi! you wanna come into my van???

[Bob!]

LoL I must agree that whatever ya feel, 15 and 23 is a very big age gap.

Thats the equivalent of you going out with a 7 year old lol, imagine you touching and doing stuff to sumone of that age gap between you and them? Well its the same for him and you lol. :confused:

[lana_homeschool]

LoL I must agree that whatever ya feel, 15 and 23 is a very big age gap.

Thats the equivalent of you going out with a 7 year old lol, imagine you touching and doing stuff to sumone of that age gap between you and them? Well its the same for him and you lol. :confused:

eggsept 7-year-olds don't like sex

[Mamfy]

Are you having sex with him? I don't understand. How did you meet this man? He will have finished uni by now and wanting to start a family maybe? Your parents will seriously flip. 7 years is a huge difference.

Some people don't like a 2 year difference between a 15 year old and 17. So., be careful. Are yuou sure you're in love with him? Or do you just think he's good in the play section?

[lana_homeschool]

Are you having sex with him? I don't understand. How did you meet this man? He will have finished uni by now and wanting to start a family maybe? Your parents will seriously flip. 7 years is a huge difference.

Some people don't like a 2 year difference between a 15 year old and 17. So., be careful. Are yuou sure you're in love with him? Or do you just think he's good in the play section?

Met him at tennis club - he's a coach. Not having sex with him just kissing and touching under skirt. We make out in the bathroom but not sex but he's taken off my underwear. Im not 100% sure if its love but I think it is but not 100% sure of what love is but I think I know.

[Brianna.]

I think you're mistaking love with lust, dear.

[Mamfy]

How did you two happen? I mean, who suggested it?

[lana_homeschool]

How did you two happen? I mean, who suggested it?

i played tennis with him and at the end we moved our faces close till we kept going and kissed and he touched my leg during it. and next couple of times i saw himit got more serious and now i kiss him from ontop of his lap and he takes my underwear off etc.

[Mamfy]

Do you not think of him as a pervert or something?

[lana_homeschool]

Do you not think of him as a pervert or something?

no, i like him a lot

[Sammi]

Bloody hell, 23?! Sorry, but I think that sounds a bit creepy...

[Silver_Bullet]

I think its a little too old, I mean between 2 to 4 years I think is ok but that many. I dont know, I think its a little too old.

[Mikhael]

. 7 years is a big difference

Yes but 8 is bigger keep in at scool girl.

Yeah i agree he might be a peodo as he is 23 and you are 15 your not even old enough to have sex yet ( legaly) but if he had sex when he was 16 then ud be 8

[Kristen69691474]

Hun i'm in the same situation! my finace is my age and my other "Friend" is 27 and i'm 18. To be honest, its best to be open with ur parents! my parents didnt like the fact that i'm hnaing out with someone 9 yrs older than me but they came to realize that its not a big deal!. Just tell ur parents ....Its better than doing something behind their backs

[lana loo]

^^ thats easier said than done tho darlin

[Mamfy]

It's easier to do when you're that age, but when you're 13-14 it's a bit more difficult

[lana loo]

thats what i mean, cos when your 13/14 then your parents still have guardiance over you and have rights over you. so really huni, your age is against you on this one :(

[Feign]

In all honesty, I don't think you're at the appropriate level of maturity to be entering into this kind of relationship at your age. It's one thing liking him and him being older, but him knowing you're 15 and doing the things he does is another matter entirely.

Picture this: a 14/15 year old has fantasies about her teacher. If the teacher is attractive, then it's somewhat acceptable. However, a fully matured teacher having fantasies about pupils is far from acceptable.

If he likes you enough and he's not just in it for a bit of tail, then give it a break or spend time together on a strictly platonic level. When you're older, and if you still feel the same, start fresh - but at least you'll be a mature young woman with enough life experience to make decisions, be aware of the consequences, and - with any luck - not be so naive.

At the minute though, I'd seriously question his intentions. That mindset isn't right.

[Fairy]

I totally agree wit pearson and fcuk4forest.That guy sounds mega creepy to me.

[ana_massager]

When I was 14 (3 years ago) I was playing basketball on my own in a schoolyard after school and a cute guy (he seemed 20-30) played one-on-one against me and we ended up kissing and he pulled my underwear down and licked between my legs till I came. I was really silly at the time and he could have raped me but I didnt know much back then. I loved the feeling though and some people came and he left.

[me1]

yer that sounds pretty dodgey at that age, oh and btw if u had sex with him now then i fink the age amount wud make it count as rape, even if it is concentual.
coz its a certain number of years that he has to be above u and when ur under 16 then it wud count as rape. dunno how it works but yeah.

[Luke]

When I was 14 (3 years ago) I was playing basketball on my own in a schoolyard after school and a cute guy (he seemed 20-30) played one-on-one against me and we ended up kissing and he pulled my underwear down and licked between my legs till I came. I was really silly at the time and he could have raped me but I didnt know much back then. I loved the feeling though and some people came and he left.

LOL

You're too easy sweetheart.

[ana_massager]

LOL

You're too easy sweetheart.

BUT that was when I was 14, but now I'm much smarter!

[Luke]

He raped you. End of.

What a fucking paedo. Should be locked up.

[me1]

hes rite 20-30, come into a school yard and jus do that, fuckin sick in my opinion.

[me1]

He raped you. End of.

What a f*cking paedo. Should be locked up.

nah id say knee capt myself, and then raped by 4 burly men lol.
serve the dirty pedo rite.

[ana_massager]

Was my fault though, I put my arms around him to kiss, I just didnt know about rape pretty much and my BF had been licking there a lot so I knew it would feel nice. I know it was wrong and I would never let a stranger do that now, no sireee

[me1]

yer but if u were my gf then or sister or summet i would of literally slit his throat. i mean fair enough if u like a 20-30 year old or even if u go out wif him but when he jus comes into a school nd does that. its really sick and i would of been happy t kill him.

[KiKiDee]

Ok, people stop takin the mick she obviously has a problem and were here to help her make her mind up. My other friend was in a mixed race realtionship (which most poeple dont accept in the area were i live.) They loved each other, whilst people were physically and verbally abusive to them. They had been goin out for 3 years and kept this from both sets of parents. When they decided to tell them, of course they were kinds of pissed off at first but quickly came round to it, and now there engaged to be married this July.
Obviously i can kinda relate this to your story, but my friends were the same age. Age might be a problem seen as though your 15. I'd just keep it a secret just a little longer, like as they said above, ur 15 he is 23, my parents would go mad aswell! good luck
Kirsty xx

[Luke]

He'd get beat up if he that to a 13/14 year old go around here.

[me1]

yer i fink they wud, like alot of parents, forbid u t see him nd be rly pissed of. i mean obviously ur the only one who knows ur parents but they migh even do summet drastic like call the police or kik you out.

btw, kikidee, where bouts d u live that dusn accept mixed relationships (just curious)

[me1]

He'd get beat up if he that to a 13/14 year old go around here.

send him to ireland nd hed get shot lol. too rite aswell its fukin discustin that he can do dat.
but if ya think about it it dusnt matter if u liked it or not, its the fact that he walked off and knows he got away wif it, so wat if the week after u found out that sum little girl had been raped and hed fuked up her head nd stuff. how bad wud u feel if it was coz he fort he cud get away wif it.

[Mamfy]

Eurgh. Some people.

I wouldn't let anyone do that to me in a public school ground, not even my boyfriend, ever lol

[Goxxipgurl]

I think that 7 years is too much of a age gap. My older sister is 16 and she is dating a 18 year old guy and my parents don't approve too much of the age difference between them. I think you should tell your parents because they will most likely find out sooner or later.

[fletch]

well i think its worse with older lads cos my sis went with a 16 year old wen she was 15 n mum n dad wernt to happy but i just split frum my relationship :( :( =( =( n she was year abuv me n mum n dad didnt give two craps o i miss my ex :(

o nvm plenty more fish in sea n neways i say secret till ya find watr he actually wants

fletch

[saraharms1]

For one, this dude can get into serious trouble. I don't know who he is our how he acts but just by they sounds of it hes not exactly the best person to be in a relationship with. You should deffienetly tell your parents. They deserve to know what their daughter is doing. He's pretty much "molested" you even though it was consentual. I think you should tell your parents about everything. The way he has touched you and all. It will be way WAY better for them to hear it from you then them find out when you and him went way too far and you have to tell your parents your pregnet!