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TheOne
July 31st '08, 08:30 AM
Well, I only really have one reason i my life to get upset.
Everything else is awesome.
But I can't understand why almost every night I get so depressed I actually hope that I don't wakeup.
I am not going to go to a psychiatrist.
And I'm not going to tell my parents.
But I just get so upset, for no reason, my head gets all cloudy, and I can't think straight, and I just want to die.
I was just wondering if anyone had any similar experiences.
Cheers.

VraiCanon
July 31st '08, 09:04 AM
No. I suggest you go to a professional whether you want to or not.

Tim
July 31st '08, 10:21 AM
yeah, if you have thoughts running through your head, maybe it will help if you wrote them all down as well as the above post ^

rosie1
July 31st '08, 10:24 AM
you need someone to talk to about it
at least if its a professional tehy can help you

TheOne
July 31st '08, 10:39 AM
Thanks for the advice, but I don't want to bring this up with my parents.
I talk about it with very close friends every now and then.
But I know I wouldn't actually purposely do anything.
The closest I have come is try to climb up onto my friend one storey roof when I was drunk and upset.
But the pulled me down.
I wouldn't do anything, but sometimes I hope that something happens.

Shane
July 31st '08, 01:22 PM
Posting here is a start. Talking to people, in any manner can help you a lot.

I've previously felt like this, it's quite common. You think about your sense of purpose in the world and stuff, it just gets to you.
Try getting more involved in something, something you can partake in when your even at home, alone. It's good to have something to put your efforts into, instead of letting your mind wander.

A few suggestions:
Start a Blog, this will help you to express yourself and give you something to do when you feel yourself getting emotional. :)
Got a games console? play it some more. Sounds a little like a geeky solution to the problem but playing computer games will give your mind something other than yourself to focus on.
Read a book. Same sort of idea as playing a video game here except your mind will be even more active, especially if it's a really good book.

Hope this helps. :)

n0iZe
July 31st '08, 02:03 PM
Or you could play a REALLY good video game. >_> Hey, most of that I think is being a teen. Depression and whatnot.

Shane
July 31st '08, 02:10 PM
Or you could play a REALLY good video game. >_> Hey, most of that I think is being a teen. Depression and whatnot.
Of course, it's at this point of our lives we learn how to cope with it though. :)

n0iZe
July 31st '08, 02:15 PM
Of course, it's at this point of our lives we learn how to cope with it though. :)

And having no direction is what makes it so hard.

saxophonic
July 31st '08, 02:17 PM
yep we do or join an social group or a sport or something like that or as ^ said play video games which it does really help get things off your mind.

n0iZe
July 31st '08, 02:18 PM
yep we do or join an social group or a sport or something like that or as ^ said play video games which it does really help get things off your mind.

Aha, i'm a bad influence. Read a book, go catch butterflies, do what you do. :]

Tommeh!!!
July 31st '08, 04:14 PM
Yeah i was very much the same, i ended up getting pro help and i have to say id recommend it to anyone as it really helps make sense of everything.

Its been said already these are the developing years and the hormones and realities of life are fucking with your head. Although its very plausible that you are just having a harder time dealing with it (as lets be honest some people struggle more, could be through perception or something else.) or it could be something more deep rooted and potentially serious.

I had a very hard time telling my parents about it and i still dont really talk to them about it, but if you talk to a professional, you will at least have an idea or a reason that you can pin these feelings on and have a better understanding of it all. To me that was half the problem: nothing wrong in my life, no reason to be upset, but felt shitter than a big bag of shit things...so the painfully frustrating question was: Why?

Now i know, and i feel so much better now i know how to counter the feeling, when to expect it, etc.

It ties up those loose ends, may not get rid of the feeling, but its better to be told your sadness is irrational and due to chemical imbalance, than sitting around wondering if you are losing your mind or not.

I wish you the best of luck in resolving the issue whatever you choose to do.

TheOne
August 1st '08, 04:02 AM
Thank you so much.

You have helped more than you realize.

One of my main problems is that my best friend killed himself two years ago, and within the last 2 months, someone at my school that I kind of new killed himself, another of my friends has tried twice and said there is nothing that will stop him, and one of my closest friends said that if that guy does do it then he doesn't know whether he would cope.

So it's all kind of getting to me, depression is contagious.

Shane
August 1st '08, 04:25 AM
Thank you so much.

You have helped more than you realize.

One of my main problems is that my best friend killed himself two years ago, and within the last 2 months, someone at my school that I kind of new killed himself, another of my friends has tried twice and said there is nothing that will stop him, and one of my closest friends said that if that guy does do it then he doesn't know whether he would cope.

So it's all kind of getting to me, depression is contagious.
Yeah, my younger brother took his own life just over a year ago.
I think it's all about coping techniques, if you can find something to take your mind off the bad stuff till it passes, it really helps.

n0iZe
August 1st '08, 05:02 AM
Yeah, my younger brother took his own life just over a year ago.
I think it's all about coping techniques, if you can find something to take your mind off the bad stuff till it passes, it really helps.

Woah. I'm sorry dude.

Tommeh!!!
August 1st '08, 12:46 PM
Shit shane, i didnt know about that!! im so sorry.

KatieMay-
August 1st '08, 12:58 PM
So sorry about that Shane.

My best friend tried to kill himself.
I decided that if he was to go, I was going to go with him.
So one night we just went down to the train track. He had some of his mum's painkillers and some other shit he had scraped off someone. He was all ready to down the pills, but at the last minute I just said 'is this what you really want? do you want to give up? I'm still coming with you if you do, but do you honestly want life to beat you? Don't you want to win?' and things along those lines. at that point he just completely cracked and just told me everything
that's when we got him to go to a phsyciatrist, and he's seriously getting so much better, I am so so proud of him it's unbelievable.

Just think about those things...true, life is rough as a teen but you never know it might just pass when you leave teenage years. You might have thrown it away.

You do have a chance to stop and do something, please do, please dont let yourself get to a state where you are willing to take your life.

That doenst have alot to do with this topic but you kno :)

piax
August 1st '08, 02:12 PM
I'm sorry to hear that the both of you, that's really terrible :(

I suppose it's all about how you cope with things, talking to people that you trust and having that support so that you know you're not alone.

Glamour_Love
August 2nd '08, 12:44 AM
I can relate to this, alot. I'm usually fine in the day but I have this cloud come over me most nights and I just can't cope with it, although I do know what's causing mine at least. I think you subconsciously have some pretty big things on your mind that are bothering you, please don't be so closed minded about seeking help, if you can't suss the problem out alone then councelling is a very useful aid.