how much is too much?

[Guest10]

how much is too much?

when a couple argue, and that is basically all they do?
i know this one couple and all they ever do is argue.
sometimes over stupid shit. they both hide it well that they are hurt, and all.
my friend told me shie is kinda unhappy for the way she is talked to.
my boyfriend's friend gets upset when he does something to her and makes her cry.
it's sad really, they do love each other, just right now they are having some difficulties..

he's got a lot of stress and she is going through a tough time and is under stress too.
i would help them, but i don't know how to help. what can i tell them?

[klgsbaby]

i am going through the same thing i wish there was some advice i could give you but i dont even know what to do about myself all i can say is try to be there for them

[fuzzylumpkins]

well, you could be totally forward and just say what you're thinking about their whole situation, but that can get kinda messy. Otherwise just try to be there for your friend(s), and try not to get too upset over their relationship.

[klgsbaby]

The thing about relationships is that there is times when there will be highs and lows... what needs to be done is understanding both sides of the arguement, and not try and let little shit get to you. When you have a relationship it is based on the acceptance that you are two seperate people that are trying to be one. Sometimes in a relationship you will need to givce more then you get, its never 50-50 it can be 75-25 at times. Being there and knowing that in life there is times when people will question a relationship, wonder if they made a mistake, that is normal. The big thing is never say hey lets take a break... time to cool off... to women this means you no longer desire them. The whole thing about words can hurt is true..Before you say anything think, not so much what you say but how they will take it.

Tis is what my dad told me but somehow i dont know if it will help .

What do you think?

[jcbangl]

hunn. i really don't kno...

set them down and talk to them and have them talk it out. but don't interferr with it.. don't always assume that this will work adn what others say coz we don't kno ur friends and what type of relation they have...

klgsbaby: sometimes listening to ur dad... yea u know what happened last time... need i remember my best friend and what happened...???

[Guest10]

thanks for the suggestions...

klgsbaby- thanks for the advice. seems like you and my friends are in the same boat. hopes things get better for you and your girl. but the thing is it seems like she does all she can for him, but she gets yelled at. they have been dating for quite sometime now and it is weird how this has actually kinda just began. they have had their ins and outs but i think this one took the cake. it even got to the point the were thinking of braking it off for a little while but i think i told them just to cool off for a couple hours and then talk again to see what they decided to do. they didn't brake up. but they are still not quite over with it.

jcbangl- hope things get better for your man. what ever happened, hope things worked out ok for you two. :)

fuzzylumkins- i think i may just do that. set them down and tell them exactly what they need to hear. otherwise, neither are going to know, right?

I thank you so much for your suggestions. i'm sure they will work, or help in some way.

[Glamour_Love]

It depends on how long the arguing has been happening, in terms of whether it's time to call it quits. Also, how long the relationship has been active is important. All relationships have bad phases but depending on what I said previously most people can pull through it.