Feeling Down :(

[Emz_ayy]

Ok so basically ive been searching on the net for anywhere to get some help & i stumbeld upon this site which seems full of helpful ppl.
Ok so abt 3 months ago i finished olevels and got sick for a while. However it took me a very long time to recover and was in and out of hospital. Although ive recovered i still feel under the weather. But now i think its more of a mental matter. I often feel dizzy and sick. With frequent headaches which have probably something to do with worry.
My character has also changed. My moods swing. I never want to go out anymore (i was once a party animal). I dnt enjoy the thngs i used to. Im afriad to be alone (probably fear of not being able to look after myself).
I also spend alot of time thinking about what life is rly worth and what it rly is. I wonder why things in life are the way they are and wonder how ive gotten to the place i am. I dnt understand why im thinking so deeply into life. I was never i person who gave much thought about it, i simply enjoyed life.
Ive been with my boyfrnd for a year and im happy with him...so why am i feeling so down all the time.
Ive spent a whole summer inside my house. except when im out with my boyfrnd.
I went for a holiday in scotaland...and i rly didnt want to go,..i wasnt very etusiastic about going.

Im stuck in a rut. I sometimes feel im going crazy...

Am i the only person who feels this way? i find it hard to speak to anyone about it cos they just shrug it off... ive got frnds and family but i still feel alone

can anyone help?

[n0iZe]

I'd suggest having a talk with a doctor. That, or you're going through a severe period of puberty. Otherwise, I don't know what else to tell you. Sorry.

[colored_zebra]

well firstly, *hug*
secondly, maybe you think about this sorta stuff alot because u have too much time on your hands. get out and distract yourself from all this, even if you dont feel like going anywhere. just try to enjoy the simple things in life, maybe get into meditation or some art classes or the like. go for a run, listen to loud music, watch a movie, read a book... or just post on tf!

[luvikavi]

Ok so basically ive been searching on the net for anywhere to get some help & i stumbeld upon this site which seems full of helpful ppl.
Ok so abt 3 months ago i finished olevels and got sick for a while. However it took me a very long time to recover and was in and out of hospital. Although ive recovered i still feel under the weather. But now i think its more of a mental matter. I often feel dizzy and sick. With frequent headaches which have probably something to do with worry.
My character has also changed. My moods swing. I never want to go out anymore (i was once a party animal). I dnt enjoy the thngs i used to. Im afriad to be alone (probably fear of not being able to look after myself).
I also spend alot of time thinking about what life is rly worth and what it rly is. I wonder why things in life are the way they are and wonder how ive gotten to the place i am. I dnt understand why im thinking so deeply into life. I was never i person who gave much thought about it, i simply enjoyed life.
Ive been with my boyfrnd for a year and im happy with him...so why am i feeling so down all the time.
Ive spent a whole summer inside my house. except when im out with my boyfrnd.
I went for a holiday in scotaland...and i rly didnt want to go,..i wasnt very etusiastic about going.

Im stuck in a rut. I sometimes feel im going crazy...

Am i the only person who feels this way? i find it hard to speak to anyone about it cos they just shrug it off... ive got frnds and family but i still feel alone

can anyone help?

I can relate to what you're going through, because Ive gone through the mood swings, not really wanting to be around people, and thought too much into thing. Never had anyone to talk to. The way I'm coping is by writing whenenver I can. Its therapeutic to me. I also try to go for a walk, get some air, burn candles, anything that puts my mind at ease. There's little things you can do for yourself

and if you really have no one to talk to, talking to a counsler wouldn;t be bad, Ive done it before. I hope you feel better

[lipgloss]

Ok so basically ive been searching on the net for anywhere to get some help & i stumbeld upon this site which seems full of helpful ppl.
Ok so abt 3 months ago i finished olevels and got sick for a while. However it took me a very long time to recover and was in and out of hospital. Although ive recovered i still feel under the weather. But now i think its more of a mental matter. I often feel dizzy and sick. With frequent headaches which have probably something to do with worry.
My character has also changed. My moods swing. I never want to go out anymore (i was once a party animal). I dnt enjoy the thngs i used to. Im afriad to be alone (probably fear of not being able to look after myself).
I also spend alot of time thinking about what life is rly worth and what it rly is. I wonder why things in life are the way they are and wonder how ive gotten to the place i am. I dnt understand why im thinking so deeply into life. I was never i person who gave much thought about it, i simply enjoyed life.
Ive been with my boyfrnd for a year and im happy with him...so why am i feeling so down all the time.
Ive spent a whole summer inside my house. except when im out with my boyfrnd.
I went for a holiday in scotaland...and i rly didnt want to go,..i wasnt very etusiastic about going.

Im stuck in a rut. I sometimes feel im going crazy...

Am i the only person who feels this way? i find it hard to speak to anyone about it cos they just shrug it off... ive got frnds and family but i still feel alone

can anyone help?



I'm so sorry to hear that^^
I've been through something very similar to what you're going through, and so i can definiately relate.
Do you have any close friends? If you do, then I suggest getting all this off your chest... That's what i did and still do when i feel depressed. Friends help. But if you don't have any close friends that you feel you can open up to, or just talk to, then a counselor doesn't sound like a bad idea! I found out that letting it all out, and opening up to someon you trust helps big time!
Oh, and btw ppl on TF are very helpful!! We're all here to help!
I feel kind strange suggesting this, but some people find religion helpful. Dunna why I suggested it, but it just came to mind.

Anyway, I'm not the best at giving advice. I hope I didn't waste your time. I do wish the best for you though.

[GemmaJamPot]

^ She lies. She is one of the best people to give advice, and I agree with the things that she suggested. :).
Perhaps you need something like a hobby to do for yourself, such as writing, art, music or a sport or something... just to exchange your negative thoughts into energy. This would also give you something to do with your time, so thats another plus. Talking to people is always a good thing to do... if you dont want to see a professional, im sure you have friends and family that are willing to help, or even your boyfriend? Im sure he will want to help you, and besides sometimes a male perspective can be helpful :p.
As lipgloss said, there are alot of people here who are willing to help, so I do hope that you keep us posted. If you need us, we will be here for you :).

X

[Smartie Cookie]

Ok so basically ive been searching on the net for anywhere to get some help & i stumbeld upon this site which seems full of helpful ppl.
Ok so abt 3 months ago i finished olevels and got sick for a while. However it took me a very long time to recover and was in and out of hospital. Although ive recovered i still feel under the weather. But now i think its more of a mental matter. I often feel dizzy and sick. With frequent headaches which have probably something to do with worry.
My character has also changed. My moods swing. I never want to go out anymore (i was once a party animal). I dont enjoy the things i used to. I'm afraid to be alone (probably fear of not being able to look after myself).
I also spend alot of time thinking about what life is rly worth and what it rly is. I wonder why things in life are the way they are and wonder how ive gotten to the place i am. I dnt understand why im thinking so deeply into life. I was never i person who gave much thought about it, i simply enjoyed life.
Ive been with my boyfrnd for a year and im happy with him...so why am i feeling so down all the time.
Ive spent a whole summer inside my house. except when im out with my boyfrnd.
I went for a holiday in scotaland...and i rly didnt want to go,..i wasnt very etusiastic about going.

Im stuck in a rut. I sometimes feel im going crazy...

Am i the only person who feels this way? i find it hard to speak to anyone about it cos they just shrug it off... ive got frnds and family but i still feel alone

can anyone help?
a) you aren't going crazy
b) lots of people get that way including me so you aren't alone in this
c) councilors and psychologists help not because they are qualified for the job but they provide someone to talk to who wont judge you when you need to 'chat'
d) find something you like to do (reading, writing, drawing, games blablabla)
e) fresh air baby! (your body is meant to be in the sun for a lil while a day and sitting in your house doesn't enable it to do that)
f)there are two chemicals in your spine that when imbalanced can cause a problem called 'depression' talking to a doctor and asking about it might be a good thing to look into
g) if you have a pet that likes to be stroked. pet the pet a while each day, see if that helps.
h) stuffies! i love my stuffed wolf and my stuff bear with the heart that says "you're special" I always hug 'em and talk to them when I don't feel liek anyone is going to listen (it's normal ya know XD)

[adarm]

Hey,

I know what you're going through and I don't know if my advice will help you but it certainly helped me. I got really depressed about a 4 months ago now and didn't really talk to anyone about it. I left my job and moved away from London, was living in liverpool at my ex boyfriends nanas house whilst we looked for jobs and our own place. I built up a lot of credit card debt, spent all my time worrying about him and never myself and ended up being out of work for 3 months with no where to live and in the end we broke up. But anyway, i got really down, couldn't get out of bed and hated the world.

Long story short, I went to see my GP and he gave me a website to change the way I thought and do things to make me feel better about myself and improve my mood.

The site is called Mood Gym and it's ran by an Australian university I think. It's a really good site and an interactive training course to change the way you think. Here's the address:

Mood Gym (http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome).

check it out and give it a go :-)

Some top tips i'd probably give you though for improving your mood are these:

- Get out of the house into fresh air (being stuck in one place and certain rooms for long periods of time are depressive and you do become down and bored, that's natural).
- Do some exercises (walks, run, play games outside etc)
- Eat healthy (a healthy balanced diet means your body functions at its best and produces all the right chemicals to keep your mood and energy levels at a natural high).
- Make yourself feel good! Do whatever the hell you want to do that is going to make you feel good about yourself, the way you look and the things you do. Get your hair done, buy new make up, buy new clothes, have a night in with a really warm hot bath (relaxing), candles and favourite music playing, exfoliate, put a face pack on and whatnot! Trust me, that helps a lot. When you feel good about yourself you feel good all around.

I started to do sun beds again, got my hair cut and dyed, had a facepack, eyebrows waxed the works!! I felt better in myself and the way people would look at me. It works honestly. Sometimes its just about a confidence boost.

- Get a really good nights sleep and regular sleeping pattern. Your body naturally needs 8 hours sleep at minimum to keep energy levels high, if your diet isn't normal and balanced your body will reduce in certain chemicals, your skin will get bad (as will your hair) etc. So going to bed at a normal hour and feeling refreshed and relaxed after a bath means your muscles will of relaxed as will your brain. You'll sleep like a baby, trust me!

Having a shower in the morning wakes you up aswell, you feel refreshed and more ready to tackle the world.

You might not feel like doing all of these things initially but if you want your mood to change and to become more confident, bubbley and comfortable with yourself. You'll do them and stick to them. Trust me, it works! Even things like going out and buying nice smelling body stuff will help!

I hope that helps, it worked for me so i hope it works for you :-)