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Viksta
September 12th '08, 08:46 AM
Where do I start?...I just feel so depressed and lonely lately.

I am in my last year of highschool so it's like I know I can leave everything and start fresh real soon. Just, every day I go to school I get so frustrated. I've been there for five years and everything seems so stale! Everyone knows everyone, and I feel like this fact means I am stuck being the person I was five years ago. Like so much has changed since then! I started at highschool at about the same time I lost a parent to cancer, and it was all too much and I was way introverted and swamped for the first two years. I didn't realise at the time but I think I just couldn't bare to let anyone new into my life at the time, and since it was at a new school when everyone first makes friends to last, I'm stuck in that same position now.

So many years I thought things would get better, my time would come, but now its nearly all over and nothing ever happened. I have about three friends who are awesome, but they never do anything but school work. They never go out on weekends and spend lunchtimes just sitting there blankly. I know I am soo lucky to have friends, like I feel so ungrateful saying this, but because of them it seems like there's even less of an escape. I feel like I am becoming them. I appreciate life, and somewhere in me there is a bubbly, energetic person waiting to escape. I get angry thinking of how many days I waste when there is so much to do, so many places to go, and my friends don't have any idea where I'm coming from. I just don't know what to do to get out of this hole I have dug for myself! Noone else talks to me, because they see me as the boring, empty person I was once, but have grown from so much since. I am scared when I leave it will be even worse! Each day life seems yet more unfufilling and pointless.

Grief is a strange thing...It seems like I have missed out on so much development because of it! I never had anyone to talk to at the time, and because of that it really took over, but heck by now I so over being sad! I want to move on big time but so don't seem to have the skills, like I'm socially undeveloped or something. From all those years hiding away, I have missed out on the whole party thing, relationships, making friends. Like the thought of going to a party, I don't know what I'd do. The boring side of me has taken over everything and I don't know what to do about it.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated and I apologise for such mindless rambling!

n0iZe
September 12th '08, 11:02 AM
Where do I start?...I just feel so depressed and lonely lately.

I am in my last year of highschool so it's like I know I can leave everything and start fresh real soon. Just, every day I go to school I get so frustrated. I've been there for five years and everything seems so stale! Everyone knows everyone, and I feel like this fact means I am stuck being the person I was five years ago. Like so much has changed since then! I started at highschool at about the same time I lost a parent to cancer, and it was all too much and I was way introverted and swamped for the first two years. I didn't realise at the time but I think I just couldn't bare to let anyone new into my life at the time, and since it was at a new school when everyone first makes friends to last, I'm stuck in that same position now.

So many years I thought things would get better, my time would come, but now its nearly all over and nothing ever happened. I have about three friends who are awesome, but they never do anything but school work. They never go out on weekends and spend lunchtimes just sitting there blankly. I know I am soo lucky to have friends, like I feel so ungrateful saying this, but because of them it seems like there's even less of an escape. I feel like I am becoming them. I appreciate life, and somewhere in me there is a bubbly, energetic person waiting to escape. I get angry thinking of how many days I waste when there is so much to do, so many places to go, and my friends don't have any idea where I'm coming from. I just don't know what to do to get out of this hole I have dug for myself! Noone else talks to me, because they see me as the boring, empty person I was once, but have grown from so much since. I am scared when I leave it will be even worse! Each day life seems yet more unfufilling and pointless.

Grief is a strange thing...It seems like I have missed out on so much development because of it! I never had anyone to talk to at the time, and because of that it really took over, but heck by now I so over being sad! I want to move on big time but so don't seem to have the skills, like I'm socially undeveloped or something. From all those years hiding away, I have missed out on the whole party thing, relationships, making friends. Like the thought of going to a party, I don't know what I'd do. The boring side of me has taken over everything and I don't know what to do about it.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated and I apologise for such mindless rambling!


I can relate to what you're saying, and I am also a senior in high school. I know the stress, and I know the feeling. When you finish something, you usually look back and say to yourself that you "could have done more, or a better job". Life isn't about going out for lunch, or even trying your damnedest to get good grades. I understand this is my opinion, not fact. Life, to me, is about being who you are. If you're hiding something, don't be afraid to let it out. It's your senior year, you don't need to worry about social etiquette. More than 80% of the people you know in highschool, you will never see again after this year. Let them know what they're going to be missing out on. Show them yourself, and show them that you aren't your misinterpretation of 'boring'.

conor
September 12th '08, 07:41 PM
I guess I can kind of empathise. I wasn't exactly the most extroverted person for a while, and people kind of saw me as resident nerd anyway.

The old piece of advice comes to mind though:
"Do something that scares you every day."
You say you wouldn't know what to do at a party; just take the plunge. You never know until you throw yourself in at the deep end.