Fitting In/bullying

[Laetitia]

Hi everyone,

My name is Laetitia. I'm 22 years old and I'm doing some research on teenage issues, especially bullying (emotional and verbal). I've registered on this forum because I need some help: I'm looking for witnesses who are either bullies or bullied. I'd like to get your points of view on what it's like to be in high school and coping with the whole "fitting in" issue. Is anyone willing to help me out? Help me understand why it's so important to be part of a clique, the issues and difficulties of it, what it means, how it feels, the pressure etc... anything, really. Can't wait to read your entries! Thank you in advance! :)

xx,
L.

[~Wayne~]

I think you'll need a few peoples opinion on this because I'm sure there is totally different views, I'll give it some thought and post later :)

[Silver_Bullet]

I dont need to be in a clique, I made my own and I really could care less who comes and hangs out as long as they are not causing problems. yeah I like to lead it but I let others cause Ive been both bullied and then I bullied so I know both sides. I just hang out you know? Everyone is different and can hang as long as there are no problems...hope this helps though its only small! Laters!

[Laetitia]

It does help! Thank you so much for sharing your view.
Take care "silver_bullet" :)
L.

[Mamfy]

When you're my age, nd a girl, it seems that everyone has to be a part of a group, otherwise they are seen as a 'loner' or that no one likes them.
There are team leaders of the group who like to dictate, and the rest of the people in the group are virtually lemmings. I have been bullied so I know what it's like. It either happens when you are not in the groups, so they pick on you bgecause they think you have no friends, or you get bullied when you ARE in the group because you may not want to do some of the things that the majority of the people in the group do want to do. So they get cross because you don't want to go out and then they begin to leave you out and bitch about you behind your back.

Girls are so petty, everyone is so two-faced. Everyone is so chummy with each other one minute, and then slagging them off the next. You can't win. I've just given up on some people it's that difficult. I find it is easier just to get on with everyone, that way you're not just confined to one little clique as such, but you have lots of people you can communicate with and you can go by as you choose.

[rondo]

i know a friend who used to be bullied coz he used 2 wear a boiler suit to school, he got beat pretty bad, but he told a teacher n they got expelled

[sam]

never bin bullied closest 2 it was wen a nob head egged ma window. na he gon get banged haha lmao

[iaxa]

i just shut my self off from the people i dont no .. and if i do get targeted i defend myself. i have a rule if they hit me more than 3 times (that is full on hits) i start to fight back. cause i have found all the tips that the school offers only makes things worse.

[shotbyajackgun]

I hate my life bullies make it the hardest thing i have ever done. i dread doing something wrong as it results in me getting hurt on the inside and the outside.

[iaxa]

i used to be a victim of a very big bully but thank god he didnt hit me, i also have been blackmailed into keeping low and not joining in with my friends in any fun things. destroyed my jr year in high school. but that is all behind me now cause i told some1 (well they found me punching a wall and asked me what was wrong) and they invited me to join there group! so just do what i did if the bully sits near you that is. but sorry to say i dont no what to does not sit near you .