Make up her mind

[luvsickhalfcrzy]

my ex has had 2 boyfriends since we broke up and i havent really cared about anyone enough to try start something with them. My ex doesnt want to be with me but whenever she finds out that ive been talking to another female she acts hurt as if i did something wrong. she broke up with me, so its kind of a she doesnt want me/she doesnt want anyone else to have me deal. i feel like if she feels like that then she still cares about me and i should just wait for her. on the other hand, i think about trying to get with someone else to make her jealous to see if that would make up her mind. the only problem with that is , that its not fair to the person i would be getting together with. any advice?

[jcbangl]

if u really love her then ask her back out but if u don't like her anymore then go for someone else. don't try to test her or anyone.. been in the same situation. i had a boyfriend that would brake up with me and then when i would get another guy he would try to kiss me and all to get me back and i didn't want him.. but to each their own.. well hope things go good for ya.. the main thing is just follow ur heart..

[GemmaJamPot]

I think you need to talk to her, and ask her straight out... If she doesnt want you, why does she get upset if you talk to anyone else? You need to know why she is being like that. I dont recommend you get with someone to make her jealous; it would make you just as bad as her if you play mind games back. You need to know where you stand with her. You cant let her continue to have this hold on you.

Good luck with whatever you do.

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[luvsickhalfcrzy]

thanks, i spent the weekend over there well from wed to sun, and we had sex wed, thur, and fri. then sat she started acting like she didnt want me to touch her at all. i couldnt even put my arms around her. i try to do things to make her happy, like i clean up so she doesnt have to and i made her breakfast so that she wouldnt have to get up every morning that i was there. it seems like it would mean something to her but she acts as if it doesnt. i know she still cares about me but she has a boyfriend that she says shes cares about more. why doesnt anything i try to do for her matter, i would think that she would rather be with a guy like me than a guy she hardly ever sees. i just dont understand how everything i do means nothing to her. my problem is that she uses me and she knows i would do anything for her. sat night she talked me into a 2 1/2 hour drive to take her to see him. i know im a dumbass for taking her but i wanted to keep her happy. i feel like if i try to stand up to her and tell her that i hate doln those types of things for her but im afraid tthat she'll gfet mad at me. i want to act like it doesnt bother me but im afraid she'll show me that she doesnt care. and it sucks because even after she would show me she doesnt care i would still care about her and want to be with her
Is there any chance that if i act like im not gonna give in to her anymore that she'll stop acting like she doesnt care about me?

[n0iZe]

Jealousy is a bad trade, my friend. Only if you wish to hurt people do you ever take that road.

[VraiCanon]

It sounds to me that shes just being selfish.
She doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you either.

[GemmaJamPot]

Wait.. she's got a boyfriend, but is having sex with you? :S
Seems she is enjoying the attention, and the fact that she can manipulate you. You, and the other guy deserve better than this. Why not just say no?
I know you care about her, but as its been said, she is just being selfish.

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[jcbangl]

^exactly..
having a guy and having sex with another. dang that's wrong. usually it is the guy doing that. but, if she don't want to be with ya she needs to let go and let u go on with ur life.. i mean she shouldn't be with someone and not let u be with anyone. that's just crazy!!!

[GemmaJamPot]

^ Yeah I think you need to move on too.

Didnt really agree with the comment "usually it is the guy doing that". 1. its irrelevent, and 2. there are people from both genders who cheat. Shouldnt make stereotypical comments :/ not all guys do it.
Anyways, this bit was off topic, sorry..

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[jcbangl]

^well guys around here do.. i thought guys everywhere did.. girls do do it too. just (more of what i hear and see) guys do it.. srry if i hurt anyone with that.. meant nothing by it...

[luvsickhalfcrzy]

well thanks both of you but something happened today, and i think i can finally let go. i told her boyfirend about what happened and pretty much was just a complete dick to her. it just happened like two hours ago. i mean, dont get the wrong impression, i love her and didnt want to hurt her, but i had to do something that i knew would make it impossible for us to get back together so that i would just get over it. i know that there's no way we can get back together now, and there's no point in trying to deny it anymore. hopefully it will be easier to get on with my life now and try to forget about her.

[luvsickhalfcrzy]

okay i just amde that last post and i already know that im not over her, i think i made a pretty big mistake tongiht and i know that its done and i cant take it back, but for some reason i STILL want to be with her.
FUCK!!!!!!!!!

[piax]

To be honest you didn't give it a lot of time to try and get over her did you..

[luvsickhalfcrzy]

To be honest you didn't give it a lot of time to try and get over her did you..

well not between those two posts, but its been 8 months since she broke up with me.

[piax]

Yeah I meant between the two posts. You decided to try and give it a shot.. Getting over her that is.. And like five seconds later you said you can't.. Will power?

[luvsickhalfcrzy]

Yeah I meant between the two posts. You decided to try and give it a shot.. Getting over her that is.. And like five seconds later you said you can't.. Will power?

yea lol i know i just feel like... well i guess idk. i just dont see myself with anyone else, and the way she acts confuses me, sometimes i feel like its hopeless, then others like were about to get together. thats why i dont give up because of the times she makes me feel like were getting back together. and.... no, i have no will power, well at least on the subject of her.

[jcbangl]

girls, we like to confuse guys, it's just how some girls function, and there are other girls not so complex, and apparently she seems to be complex. and that ain't a bad thing necessarily. lol..

be strong. and the one post i read where u told her boyfriend i was proud, but then when u said u missed her and fuck it i was all like, man i thought he was doing good, but it takes time.. sometimes 8months aren't enough for some, that is what we need to realize when we gave u the advice, but she shouldn't be playin' the two of u like that either.. two wrongs don't make a right.. lol... hope things get better and we are here for ya when ya need us..

[GemmaJamPot]

@ jcbangl - Yeah guys everywhere do it, but I just didnt see the point in your stereotypical comment coz not all guys do.

:/ Getting over someone is hard.. but you know that it will be better for you to move on hun. You just have to try.. and think about all the things she has done. Think that you deserve better.

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[jcbangl]

like i said i meant nothing by it... i may have worded it wrong :(.... i know some guys who don't but most do..

[GemmaJamPot]

^ Nahh lol, no need to get upset over it :) I think I just overanalysed what you said lol. Sorrys.

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[colored_zebra]

well firstly u gotta make up ur mind abt this chick!

probably best if u forget her, bcoz she is just using you
find sumone who appreciates you

[GemmaJamPot]

Yeah.. and someone who deserves you.
She.. does not!!

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[jcbangl]

hey i just don't want anyone mad at me, and it's ok, i just don't want anyone think i think all guys are like that which i know they not.. so yea.. but hey no worrys...

[GemmaJamPot]

Just forget it hun. Minor misunderstanding/disagreementy thing.. its a forum, difference of opinion n stuff happens.

Back on topic...

You decided anything yet?

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[luvsickhalfcrzy]

well i kinda still dont know, i mean i mentioned something to her about me meeting someone else and she freaked out like im cheating on her or something, my sister's sister is trying to set me up with someone else but ive never met her before and im really nervous, im afraid i wont be myself