argh! wtf can i do?

[Plutonic]

well.
my girlfriend has pretty much told me she would kill herself if i left her.
she cut herself when we had an argument.
she has bipolar.
i really don't want to be with her anymore.
but i don't want her to die.
i still want to be her friend.
and i really don't want to lose her.
but if i even seem unhappy with her she does something stupid like cutting.
i think it's an attention thing with her (the fact the she tells and shows everyone is my basis for thinking this)
or like an insurance thing so i wont leave.
but i just can't handle this anymore.
i get so so depressed being with her.
i don't know why.
but i'm unhappy with her.
what the hell can i do?
this is too much :(

[rosie1]

you need to talk to her
you cant let her maniplulate you to stay with her cause of her problems

[Tommeh!!!]

Ah shit, sounds like a real bugger of a situation.

Im a bipolar sufferer myself so i can understand how/why she feels the extremity of the situation.
This could prove to be a delicate and personal situation so i will say now that i will be happy to discuss this here or through PM. Your choice, let me know.

[Tami]

manipulation isnt a strength for any relationship.
becarful with the situation.
dont leave yourself in this situation too long
its only you that's gunna get hurt in the end. (unless she actually does it. which im guessing she wont, the thing with cutting yourself is that it is embarassing. i used to hate people knowing i did it. so why would she be proud of it? i know a few people at college that do it for attention, its pathetc.

i dont elieve that people that show thier cuts are ever doing it for real. beause thats not what its like. the cuts are things that should be hidden. also threatening suicide is a major step for someone that you are going out with.
how long have you been with this girl?
i know the bi-polar adds to the situation.
bur from my point of view that wouldnt lead you to kill yourself not over a bf, especially if she treatens to do so before hand (i may be rong tommeh is probibly the best person to talk to from that point of view. )

hope everything gets better
:)
i'm willing to talk if you want someone to talk to

xxx

[tehfincheh]

i get so so depressed being with her.
i don't know why.
Are you kidding me?

Sounds like her being a melodramatic emotional lightweight doesn't help.

Explain your situation to her and leave, making sure that her family and friends are aware that she'll be feeling down in the gutter. Any girl who tries to guilt you out by cutting herself simply isn't worth the time of day. It's self harm to stay with her.

[tf_arl_90]

If you really love her, I wouldn't remove yourself from her life completely. I wouldn't just leave her out in the dust. I also wouldn't want her to be completely depending on you like that, since it's not helping her gain control in her life.

Get her some professional help, make sure she has the support of her friends and family, and then start backing away slowly.

Must be a terribly hard situation. Best of luck and hope it all turns out ok.