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nyx
December 10th '08, 09:46 AM
So I've had what you might call an eventful morning. I got in from my friends house at about 2 o'clock this morning, it hadn't been anything major, just a couple of drinks, and a couple of smokes and a film. Anyway point is, I got to sleep latee.

Then about five o'clock this morning I'm woken up by my housemate in the room nextdoor to me crying down the phone. I'm still half asleep at this point and not fully functional, so can't quite work out whats going on.

About five minutes later there is a knock on the door, this is when I know its something serious. She comes in, eyes so bloodshot, tears all down her face, shaking, and tells me her brother's died of cancer. He was 23.

It wasn't out of the blue he'd be deteriorating for months, but still. He was only 23. I'm still kinda in shock. It couldn't have happened to nicer people either, my housemate for all her naivety is a truly lovely person, and what I've met of her family are lovely too.

In the end I took her to the station at about 6 o' clock and she got the first train to Chesterfield where her family live. I came back here and crashed into bed for a couple of hoours. But now I've woken up feeling completely drained and pretty empty. I know it wasn't my brother, but I care about my housemate a lot, even though sometimes I don't think I show that enough, and its devastating to see a normally happy person so upset. I guess it kinda made me realise how precious life is as well.

I really don't know why I've written this as a post, except to let all my feelings out, I do that a lot when I blog. I find it easier to express in writing than out loud. Thank you to anyone that read this anyway, I think I might go and eat a lot of chocolate right now.

ficti0n
December 10th '08, 10:19 AM
Reading that story makes me want some chocolate :(

lozflup
December 10th '08, 10:21 AM
Oooooh thats so sad :( poor girl, hope your alright too :(

nyx
December 10th '08, 10:31 AM
Yeah first thng I do when I finally bother to leave the house is stop into sainsburies and buy the hugest bar of chocolate I can find. Chocolate cures the soul tbh.


And yeah I'll be fine, I'm a toughie just a bit of a shock is all. As for her 'm pretty worried, she's a fairly timid and vunerable kind of person, at least (if there can be an at least about your borother dying) it happened just before the end of term so she can be with her family rather than stuck here at uni.


Thanks for reading too, its all just a bit strange right now.

GemmaJamPot
December 10th '08, 12:06 PM
:( Im in with the wanting of chocolate.
Im so sorry hun, thats awful news :(
I know its nothing that can help but *virtual hugs for you and your friend and her family* and I hope you can all get through it together.
If you need to talk or let it out or anything, were all here for you.

X

nyx
December 10th '08, 03:03 PM
Thank you its appreciated. Its hard now cos my housemate has obviously gone home so there's nothing we can do to like help, but she's with her family which is definitely the best place to be.

Yeah was a weird morning.

colored_zebra
December 13th '08, 03:34 AM
*hugs*
*hugs*
*and more hugs*

n0iZe
December 13th '08, 01:16 PM
I know that this post was made awhile ago, but still. I've had friends whose siblings have died. It really gives you that blood-curdling feeling. Watching them break down, and yet, having no way to relate to the pain they're feeling.

It sucks.

nyx
December 13th '08, 10:28 PM
Yeah exactly, there's absolutely nothing I could have done, so its just as well she's home now for christmas. Sucks though.

Leon
December 20th '08, 01:25 AM
:(

I know what it's like to los family members to cancer, ok they weren't 23 but the feeling's still the same. It's horrible sadly, though trust me your friend is in the best place for her at the minute with the rest of her family.
And although there's nothing you can really do at the minute to help you, she'll really appreciate what you have done for her and she'll be aware of it in the future, trust me.

I hope you're feeling ok about things now.

nyx
December 20th '08, 09:41 AM
Thanks Leon.

Yeah cancer is a horrible thing, my grandads been battling it for a couple of years now and its not a nice thing to see.

My friend's brother's funeral was yesterday I text her saying I'm thinking of her and my other housemate and I sent her a card before we left.

I have to be honest, I'm fine now, a little worried for my housemate but thats it, I didn't know her brother, and I've been so busy since I got home I haven't had time to dwell on it.

Leon
December 20th '08, 05:43 PM
Thanks Leon.

Yeah cancer is a horrible thing, my grandads been battling it for a couple of years now and its not a nice thing to see.

My friend's brother's funeral was yesterday I text her saying I'm thinking of her and my other housemate and I sent her a card before we left.

I have to be honest, I'm fine now, a little worried for my housemate but thats it, I didn't know her brother, and I've been so busy since I got home I haven't had time to dwell on it.Yeah both my grandads died from cancer, one sadly before I was born and the other a couple of years ago, after only having been diagnosed a few months before, so I guess I saw the full extent of it unfold all a little quicker than most and it's shocking how quick it can happen.

Keeping busy will help you, I'm sure you'll have a little cry with your friend when you see her again, but until then just try and keep your mind on other things, she'll be grateful to have people like you to come back to. :)

nyx
December 20th '08, 06:09 PM
She'll be grateful to have people like you to come back to. :)


I do hope so, I can but try.

Thank you Leon, I don't really have anything else to say but I appreciate the comments a lot :)

Leon
December 20th '08, 06:27 PM
I do hope so, I can but try.

Thank you Leon, I don't really have anything else to say but I appreciate the comments a lot :)Trust me, she will.

No problems, anytime. :)