A situation.

[nyx]

Ok so say you're in a relationship with someone and you find out that one night they've been out clubbing and start talking to a member of the opposite sex for lets say, half an hour or so, then it gets to the end of the night and they end up getting in a taxi with this member of the opposite sex, go back to their house and talk for three hours, no kissing, no pulling, no sex, no nothing (well a hug and maybe holding hands, but then drunk people do that all the time right?) before walking home at like 6AM.

Are you mad? Do you have the right to be mad?


I'm gonna leave you to make your own assumptions about the origin of this story. Its not actually as bad as it sounds. Its more grown out of my imagination.

[fuzzylumpkins]

ummm yes. yes you do. if they went back to said other persons house in the middle of the night and hung out there, you most definitely SHOULD be mad (or at the very least, extremely suspicious).

I'm not usually the jealous type, but I've been burned by this exact scenario a bit too often for me to let it pass. I'd like to think that people are mature enough that this not be an issue, but they never are. ever.

[lozflup]

Well as your making it out to be, id be very very mad hahaha, why whats been going on clare! x

[nyx]

Hahaha. Well it all happened, I just don't actually know whether the guy has a girlfriend, I'm like 98% sure he's single, but he's 'engaged' on facebook, so you can never be too sure. And then I was like, well in fairness we didn't do anything anyway.

[Thok]

Id say you have a right to be mad, because even though they say they didn't do anything you are only taking their word for it.
A Lot would depend on how much you trust the person you are with, and how they act around the opposite sex. Eg are they always friendly but noting else, are they always after sex or whatever.

[VraiCanon]

I guess I'd be a bit like 'hmmm wtf' but I cant see anything dodgy going on especially if he'd been talking to her right in front of my face! I guess it's just the same as going back to someones house of the same sex. If there is trust then there shouldn't be a problem.
Saying that, I would be more annoyed if it was just some random they'd met that night... Can't say I'd go back to a randoms just to talk... But I would go back to a friends for that!

[n0iZe]

I'd be a little jealous, but something i'd be able to shrug off. ^^

[Charlotte(:]

Personally, i wouldn't be that mad... Don't get me wrong, i'd be unhappy about it. But if they said nothing happened. Then i'd believe them, cos i trust them :)

But...
I can see where your coming from.. I mean.. You Know that nothing happened, and whats wrong with just spending the night together chatting to a friend? Male Or Female.
But i can see from the other point of view too..
How would you feel if he'd done the same thing as you? Even if he said nothing Did happen?

[nyx]

I just tried to reply to this thread and my internet cut out as I hit send, grrrr.



Can't say I'd go back to a randoms just to talk... But I would go back to a friends for that!


Yesh I thought it was a bit strange, to begin with I just thought he was sharing the taxi back with us, then my friend came in to my house so he did too, then my friend went and he stayed a couple of hours. Ah I dunno, he was a proper sweet guy, we had loads in common, I'm not gonna moan if we're just friends at the end of the day. We were also both a little sloshed so it probably made sense at the time.



And I think I'd be with n0ize, I'd be jealous but it wouldn't take me long to get over.

[Leon]

Depending on the stage of your relationship with them I'd range from shrugging it off if we'd only just begun, and thinking I'd rather know they're like that now than find out later, right up to mad as fuck if I was in a relationship like I am now, if this member of the opposite sex wasn't a friend of theirs at the beginning of the night. Then again even on which friend it is it would vary my anger.

I'd think Laura would think the same of me vice versa too.

[VraiCanon]

Why would you be so mad if you were in love with that person and vice versa? Surely the trust should be stronger then

[Leon]

Why would you be so mad if you were in love with that person and vice versa? Surely the trust should be stronger thenIt's not about trust at all. I love her and trust her with anything, as does she vice versa.

Also, I only said I'd be quite mad if it was someone that they didn't even know before such time, going back to their house with them, alone. I think there's several reasons to that why I'd feel like that, and it'd be more a mixture of anger and worry, not about cheating (because like I say I trust her with my life) but about other things that would easily make sense to worry about.

If my partner was to go home alone with another lad, I'm quite a paranoid/worrying person as it is (as Laura would tell you). I'd worry about other things that could happen apart from her willingly cheating (if you get what I mean there), where she is, if she's alone, etc etc. Because of how much I love her, that's why I'd be so worried then angered.
I'd be mad at the fact she's done it to leave any of the above possibly happening.

[nyx]

If anyone cares he was single anyway and we're going on a date next week :D

[Buttons93]

Oooooh thats good! Hope all goes well :D

[nyx]

Ta love :D

I need to get beyond the whole one or two dates then get bored mindset really. I'm hoping cos we just talked for hours before he might not bore me, haha.

[Buttons93]

Only one way to find out I guess : )

[Tim]

i agree with mr leon...yet again haha

[Claireapillar]

i didn't read much of the above, cos there's loooads.
however my take on this scenario is...who the hell goes back to someones house whome they've only spoken to for half an hour or so? he could have raped her or owt? what a stuuuupid girl!

I dunno if i'd be mad if i was in the situation...err...this wouldn't EVER happen cos joe's really anti-social lmao. But if it did, I'd not be mad nah, but i trust him looooads. Also, i just think fuck it, if he cheats he looses me...so is it worth loosing someone over no-one?

i still think the whole concept of going back to a strangers house with them is bizarre though

EDIT:Oh sorry...leon mentioned it in his lengthy reply...yeah i agree with leon

[nyx]

I take random people back to my house all the time, haha, normally when there's a group of us though. And this time my friend came back for a fair while as well. I probably wouldn't do it if my housemates weren't in, but as they are I don't see the problem, one shout and they'd be there. I wouldn't go back to someone elses house though, mainly because of the effort of getting home mind.

I don't see a problem with that aspect at all :/

[Leon]

EDIT:Oh sorry...leon mentioned it in his lengthy reply...yeah i agree with leonLol at you reading it after and editing. :D

[Claireapillar]

Lol at you reading it after and editing. :D

lmao. yeah, i'm special aren't i...ah well