Why do Men Never Show Their Feelings?

[megz]

I went out with a lad for ages, bout yr n alf, we got on so well but he never told me how e felt bout things, e only mentioned it wen he was drunk.
this puzzled me as your suppsed 2 be able 2 tell your luvd ones everything. when we split he then told me some things and i hlped him out with it, however he never tells me how he is feeling deep down, i wana know why?? i tell im how i feel bout him and how im feelin but he never tells me why, :confused: its so confusing
help me figure it out
xxx
:sadangel:

[Sponge'K'nob]

This is a common problem with guys, partly has something to do with their friends, they don't want to seem like "a pussy" or "soppy"
hardly any guy shows their feelings, thats what i have found out anyway.
You said he said his feeling when he was drunk? Well you know they all say you tell the truth when you've had alcohol, drink does that to you, and maybe he didn't feel as bad infront of his friends or anything then.
I don't think we will ever understand a guy fully with feelings, i guess because girls are more open.

[Lindsay]

guys who are sensitive and in tune with their feelings are commonly accused of being gay, which for some reason is a huge fear among men. They supress all their feelings to look strong it makes them feel macho and feel more secure.

stupid, i know.

[Bob!]

Its nothing to do with any of that bullcrap lol, well it might be for some guys when theyre actually infront of their friends, but otherwise its because if we be the "sensitive" guy or tell you what we are feeling, our thoughts or any problems we might have or whatever else, then you f***in make some excuse and leave us because we arnt good and strong enough, or you cant deal with our problems as well as your own, or were too sloppy and not "man" enough or whatever else and then bugger off with some "bad boi" nobber cause he's well fit n well strong, confident and is way better and "manly" then us because of that lol.

You have no idea what kind of position we get put in when wi you lasses, its either show no feelins at all and then have you leave because were cold and borin and dont love yer or whatever, or show some of our feelings and try to be open with ya like ya always preach. and then have ya do the feckin same because of the reasons I mentioned in the first paragraph.

And if we do supress any of our thoughts and feelings have you ever thought it may be because of our personal honor of taking things upon ourselves and dealing with them, and to NOT want to have you burden all our feelings as well or put any hardship or worries onto you.

Seriously before you women start groaning about stuff like this at least get some idea of what you actually want, and when ya get it then keep it, not change ya bloody mind after the blokes tried his heart out to be the way ya wanted.

[blazeteendanny]

Go Bob! lol

[The Reaper]

Bob wins. Flawless victory.

[Mamfy]

Its nothing to do with any of that bullcrap lol, well it might be for some guys when theyre actually infront of their friends, but otherwise its because if we be the "sensitive" guy or tell you what we are feeling, our thoughts or any problems we might have or whatever else, then you f***in make some excuse and leave us because we arnt good and strong enough, or you cant deal with our problems as well as your own, or were too sloppy and not "man" enough or whatever else and then bugger off with some "bad boi" nobber cause he's well fit n well strong, confident and is way better and "manly" then us because of that lol.

You have no idea what kind of position we get put in when wi you lasses, its either show no feelins at all and then have you leave because were cold and borin and dont love yer or whatever, or show some of our feelings and try to be open with ya like ya always preach. and then have ya do the feckin same because of the reasons I mentioned in the first paragraph.

And if we do supress any of our thoughts and feelings have you ever thought it may be because of our personal honor of taking things upon ourselves and dealing with them, and to NOT want to have you burden all our feelings as well or put any hardship or worries onto you.

Seriously before you women start groaning about stuff like this at least get some idea of what you actually want, and when ya get it then keep it, not change ya bloody mind after the blokes tried his heart out to be the way ya wanted.

I completely agree with you Bob. I know of people who ditch their perfect boyfriend for anobbeh with a supped up car because he is bad. I hate girls like that. I'd never do that to anyone. I respect peoples feelings. i couldn't do that ever.

[Charley]

Hun this is a current thing it is said that women are more of the emotional type creatures, Its not that they dont have any feelings for you its just they dont know how to show them or they are just scared i wouldnt worry xxx

[Boy_Wonder06]

no offence but how can women say they know what the reasons are for men hiding their feelings. Mamfy and Bob have it all covered, the argument is won lol, but im gonna add to it hehe. Men don't tell the women how they feel out-loud, it causes arguments, and if we do it once or twice u expect it all the time, then when we do it all the time you accuse us of being mushy etc.

Relationships are difficult enough, and you put us under a lot of pressure, and we only try our best, we will tell you, we love you at the right time, and you can guarentee when we finally say it, we mean it. we dont say it freely, and as far as im concerned, the mroe you say it the less it means. it becomes a habbit, and thats not good! anyone agree with me ?

[God.]

100%

[Brianna.]

Maybe I'm a douchebag, but I don't like it when a guy shows too much feeling. I'm a traditionalist....I like the guy to be the rock in the relationship.

[balisticbruv]

it's me megz, luk i tink we males find it hard to show their fellings, esp. me cos we av ad bad exp. wen it comes to tings like luv so we try n keep ppl at arms lengths esp gf cos they r d 1s dat cud n will hurt u most n ur bf just didn't want 2 tek dat chance n i bet e's kikin imself 4 it! Also we don't no wot gfs want cos we mite b comin on 2 strong n as a result mess tings up n sumtimes it teks time 4 us 2 get ova a breakup if it gets serious wi telin gfs wot we tink den it hurts deep, so we dont get too much involved 2 avoid d hurt. well in my exp. dat is wot i found. ope i elpd

[Morazain]

We will always be blamed don't try to explain it to them if you get teird of it bloke just remeber you can always go on the final fall back plan be single and let the women live in there worlds of romantic crap.

Romance is fine and all but we can't truely enjoy it because of the sterotype and we scare girls and other blokes when we get emotional so just bottle it up and let it out on hobbies or just go for runs.