lovin_it
April 6th '06, 09:31 AM
hi guys,
i'm new here. it's not a major problem that I have but i want you to tell me what you think. i'll have to explain all the gory details here it goes...
My parents are divorced and 2 weeks ago I went back to Manhattan, NY for a vacation as I am an american living in the UK. Anyway, my dad's side of the family are always busy as most of them work at the office. (my cousin's are all older than me and married) my mum's side of the family are mostly housewifes and work at home. (my cousin's from mum's family are younger than me and get to spend free time with me). Anyway my sister arrived before us with her friend and it was only my mum's side who picked them up as my dad's family were working at that time.
Since I arrived there, two of my dad's family picked us up from the airport but my mum's family were not there as it was only me and my dad who arrived. We stayed at my nan's (dad's) house for 1 week. we went to a party at my mum's family and my nan (mum's) kept nagging me to come and visit her and i told her later as I only arrived 1 week ago. (she asked me like about 5 times at the party already) Then I wanted to visit my cousin from my dad's side in Long Islands but my uncle (mum's side) said that it's too far to get there, we might as well stay in Manhattan where it's easy to visit everyone. (I had already arranged to meet him before we left London) I was sooo disappointed. I told my uncle that I had already arranged the appointment but he just told me to tell him to cancel as we only had 3 days left. Then on the last few days my mum's sister forced us to go to one of my cousin's wedding (mum's side) instead of going to my cousin's in Long Island's as it's too far. My other cousin of mine works in a big business office and can only see her during the weekends but because we went to Boston to sightsee for 13 days I never got to see her as the next weekend I had to go back here. And then my three friends came to visit me at my aunt's (mum's) house to give us some vacation pictures (which they didn't know where she lived). We were going to sleep over my aunt (dad's) house but had to stay at my aunt (mum's) as my sister thought it was rude to leave them at my aunt's all by themselves. so then we had to cancel going to my dad's sisters house. Then when I went shopping with my aunt (mum's), I vaguely heard her talking to my nan (mum's) about my dad's family and trying to arrange to meet my mum's side of the family more as they are less busy. I thought that if we stayed at my mum's family for a week go to Boston for a week and stay at my dad's for a week it would work out but it didn't happen like that. Two years ago when I went back to the US, my aunt (mum's) arranged to visit all my mum's family first then my dad. i didn't really get to see my cousins from my dad's side as they work mon- fri and didn't have time to meet them at the wkends.
because of my parents divorce, do you think my mum's family is keeping me away from my dad's? Two of my cousins live away from Manhattan and only talked to me on the phone. Do you think they should've made the effort as well to come and visit me? This situation happened 2 years ago when I went back there as well. thanks for ur opinions. It never used to be like this before they divorced. It's not like they hate it other, I feel that they both want me and my sister all to themselves.
i'm new here. it's not a major problem that I have but i want you to tell me what you think. i'll have to explain all the gory details here it goes...
My parents are divorced and 2 weeks ago I went back to Manhattan, NY for a vacation as I am an american living in the UK. Anyway, my dad's side of the family are always busy as most of them work at the office. (my cousin's are all older than me and married) my mum's side of the family are mostly housewifes and work at home. (my cousin's from mum's family are younger than me and get to spend free time with me). Anyway my sister arrived before us with her friend and it was only my mum's side who picked them up as my dad's family were working at that time.
Since I arrived there, two of my dad's family picked us up from the airport but my mum's family were not there as it was only me and my dad who arrived. We stayed at my nan's (dad's) house for 1 week. we went to a party at my mum's family and my nan (mum's) kept nagging me to come and visit her and i told her later as I only arrived 1 week ago. (she asked me like about 5 times at the party already) Then I wanted to visit my cousin from my dad's side in Long Islands but my uncle (mum's side) said that it's too far to get there, we might as well stay in Manhattan where it's easy to visit everyone. (I had already arranged to meet him before we left London) I was sooo disappointed. I told my uncle that I had already arranged the appointment but he just told me to tell him to cancel as we only had 3 days left. Then on the last few days my mum's sister forced us to go to one of my cousin's wedding (mum's side) instead of going to my cousin's in Long Island's as it's too far. My other cousin of mine works in a big business office and can only see her during the weekends but because we went to Boston to sightsee for 13 days I never got to see her as the next weekend I had to go back here. And then my three friends came to visit me at my aunt's (mum's) house to give us some vacation pictures (which they didn't know where she lived). We were going to sleep over my aunt (dad's) house but had to stay at my aunt (mum's) as my sister thought it was rude to leave them at my aunt's all by themselves. so then we had to cancel going to my dad's sisters house. Then when I went shopping with my aunt (mum's), I vaguely heard her talking to my nan (mum's) about my dad's family and trying to arrange to meet my mum's side of the family more as they are less busy. I thought that if we stayed at my mum's family for a week go to Boston for a week and stay at my dad's for a week it would work out but it didn't happen like that. Two years ago when I went back to the US, my aunt (mum's) arranged to visit all my mum's family first then my dad. i didn't really get to see my cousins from my dad's side as they work mon- fri and didn't have time to meet them at the wkends.
because of my parents divorce, do you think my mum's family is keeping me away from my dad's? Two of my cousins live away from Manhattan and only talked to me on the phone. Do you think they should've made the effort as well to come and visit me? This situation happened 2 years ago when I went back there as well. thanks for ur opinions. It never used to be like this before they divorced. It's not like they hate it other, I feel that they both want me and my sister all to themselves.