Friendship to relationship

[allie]

Ok see me and this guy have a really strong friendship (i'm 16 and he's a very mature 14 year old) and i have a suspicion that he really likes me. i love him. whenever i talk to him he says he isn't ready for a relationship. i think he is mostly afraid that our friendship will be affected if we go out and break up. besides just waiting what can i do?

[Sponge'K'nob]

you have got to be sure he is really mature, as hes 14.
If you like eachother a lot then it might be better than friendship, it may or not affect it though, depends how friendly you are really. everyone is different.

[allie]

he is mature and i know it will work out better but he won't admit it. i love him with all my heart and soul and i know some of you might say im only 16 but i've been through a lot and it takes me a lot to trust a guy this much. all of my ex's are still my friends so idk y he would think it would ruin our friendship. we have been "just friends" for 3 months now. HELP!

[Brianna.]

I was in the same situation.

My friend Mike and I went through this. We both pretty much knew we were ment for each other, but we just couldn't seem to make it work. He knew that if we were together, we'd stay together...and i was afraid of commitment.

We ended up deciding that it's better if we just stay close friends. He's like my brother. We still both have a thing for each other, but we know it's better to stay like this.

[allie]

its not better like this though. im not afraid of commitment and this isn't forever i know that. he is just worried it will ruin our friendship!

[Brianna.]

Well, then he's probably right.

[allie]

it won't though im still friends with all my ex's no matter why we broke up.

[Mamfy]

Just because you are friends with your ex's this time, doesn't mean you will be if you split up with this guy.

Everyone is different. You can't decide what is happening and you don't know what will happen.

[zyclonix]

If the relationship doesn't work out - which is a 99% certainty as high school relationships never last - there's no going back.

[Stephanie]

Well I don't know how close you two actually are but I think if it's troubling you this much, you should talk to him about it. Tell him that you like him and perhaps a relationship might work.

I, for one, find it quite hard to admit to people that I like them but I don't know..you might find it easier depending on the type of relationship you have with this guy.

[iamtheposter]

he's like my best friend. i have told him how i felt about him and that we should try a relationship (all of this has already been stated above fyi).

[allie89]

this is me on an different account (i accidentally entered my wrong b-day so ignore that LOL). anyways i know him very well. he is my best friend and i have talked to him about it. anyways im working on convincing him to go to this walk for cancer where i will be walking at night and there will be dancing and walking and games...... i just dont know when is the right time to kiss him or if its even the right move!!!! HELP!

[allie89]

If the relationship doesn't work out - which is a 99% certainty as high school relationships never last - there's no going back.
never say never i read an article where two people knew each other from 4th grade and got married. so dont tell me it NEVER happens. what if that 1% is me and i never take the risk? i'd rather take the risk rather than wonder what would have happened if we dated.

[allie89]

please help.......

[Stephanie]

never say never i read an article where two people knew each other from 4th grade and got married. so dont tell me it NEVER happens. what if that 1% is me and i never take the risk? i'd rather take the risk rather than wonder what would have happened if we dated.

Yeah, I totally agree with you. It's better to have done it and know the outcome then to spend the rest of your life wondering what could have been!! Life is full of risks and if we don't take any then we'd probably die from boredom.

Just read this thread: http://www.teenageforums.com/forums/t1981-story-with-a-moral.html

It has a good moral.

Allie, I think you should just go for it! I don't exactly know how you can go about this though...like how you can convince him that you two should give it a shot..but I'll give you my full support (not that I think that will help but still...)

[allie89]

Yeah, I totally agree with you. It's better to have done it and know the outcome then to spend the rest of your life wondering what could have been!! Life is full of risks and if we don't take any then we'd probably die from boredom.

Allie, I think you should just go for it! I don't exactly know how you can go about this though...like how you can convince him that you two should give it a shot..but I'll give you my full support (not that I think that will help but still...)
thanks.... yea now i gotta figure out how to do it LOL.

[allie89]

http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e119/magicalallie/meandrewandjustina.jpg
how could u not want us together huh?

[Stephanie]

http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e119/magicalallie/meandrewandjustina.jpg (http://i38.photobucket.com/albums/e119/magicalallie/meandrewandjustina.jpg)
how could u not want us together huh?

lol...you two DO look good together!! But wow..is he really 14?? He looks heaps older!

[allie89]

yea i KNOW! he is only 14. hes such a sweetheart.

[allie89]

more opinions PLEASE!

[allie89]

please please PLEASE help!

[Stephanie]

Awww...come on guys..give Allie a hand..

Sorry I can't give you any advice Allie :(

[Mamfy]

We have though haven't we?!

[allie89]

i love him and no u guys have not given much help.........

[Brianna.]

Well, maybe we're out of advice?


Sometimes you gotta rely on yourself, too. You can't make other people fix your problems. Work it out yourself if you don't like what we've told you.

[Morazain]

Well, maybe we're out of advice?


Sometimes you gotta rely on yourself, too. You can't make other people fix your problems. Work it out yourself if you don't like what we've told you.
Ta dah Morzain has come to smash this perfetic advice apart.

Allie the spark is there you have said so yourself. So all you need is bide the time the lad is only just becoming a bloke (physically) and if hes mature now imagine how he would be in a few months time meanwhile have fun and flirt with him. Think on how much you value this relationship and say whether or not that if you two start going the thing you get back in return is worth the realtionship gamble.

Ultimately you must let him grow comfortable and relaxed and then maybe just a slight peck on the cheek while hes chuckling perhaps at some comedy.

Well let me know if this was any help.

[allie89]

i guess it was but i mean...... idk i cant wait i love him..... if u all dont believe me then too bad but i really do.... i love andrew......

[Hevz]

Ultimately you must let him grow comfortable and relaxed
I agree with tht
and there is no doubt tht u like this guy and u might nt want 2 wait bt he might! and there's no point in rushin him into it like u sed u r like best mates n if he's scared of lossin u as a friend he isn't going to disappear out of ur life ne time soon so jst let things develop on thier own, make subtle hints or even talk 2 him about it u never know u might find out sumthin new! relationships rn't jst bout wot u want and if u did get together and u had rushed him and eventually did end up breakin up and nt being as gud friends he cud resent u 4 rushin im in2 a relationship he was 100% sure about. think about it! hope tht was sum help:)

[allie89]

i have talked to him about it and idk i think he feels intimidated because i have had 2 bfs and he has never had a gf

[Hevz]

well then u av gota show him tht there is nothin 2 b intimidated about! av u tried talkin 2 im bout tht do u deffinately no tht he feels intimidated?

[allie89]

i dont know what he feels he told my friend again tho that he doesnt like me like that. idk what to do. im head over heels for him!