Going from Freind to Boyfreind

[Drew2507]

Hey, I've been liking this girl now for almost six months. We're really good freinds, but I've never discussed the way I feel, with her at all. She's been going out with a freind of mine on and off for about two months, they're broken up again now. Im not sure if she still likes him but I'm pretty sure he likes her. I really want to get with her but I have no idea what I can do to get out of being just good freinds and into boyfreind material. She's told me she thinks I'm attractive, and we're really good freinds so she dosn't hate me lol. On the face of it, it seems like I should just gofor it, but she's flirty with alot of boys not just me. How can I gain the confidence and reassurance to ask her out? Is it possible she feels the same?I'd really appriciate some advice from a girls point of view if possible, thanks in advance!

[Jessaay!]

Every time it says "freinds" in that I feel like I've been slapped in the face. 'i' before 'e'! We don't know whether she feels the same. I tell some of my male friends they're hot a lot but it doesn't always mean I feel romantically for them, I'm just weird. There's also the fact she's a friend's ex, does he not mind?

[Drew2507]

Well he's not a good friend of mine really just an aquaintance, and they were never really that into each other sorry about the spelling mistakes lol :P

and just so yyou know I'm only 15

[n0iZe]

Your age doesn't excuse you from being able to spell "friend". t_t But in any case, there is a certain time limit that you have to hook up with her before things become awkward if you ask her out.

[Drew2507]

Have I exceeded this?

[Jessaay!]

Your thing says you're 14.

[n0iZe]

Depends. How long have you been her friend?

[Drew2507]

Yeah Im 15 on the 25th lol

[Drew2507]

I've known her for about three years, been pretty good freinds for about a year, but only recently have we started to become really close

[n0iZe]

Ahaha! Well bud, the time limit is usually a month and a half. If she's ACTUALLY interested, by all means, go for it. Though don't expect something too great. Half the fun of relationships is to be disappointed by all of the flaws you find. xD. But in all seriousness, be careful. If she's flirting with twenty other guys, you need to man up, grow a pair, and say "Bitch, yous with me now."

[Drew2507]

Haha thanks for that, suprisingly that actually helps. Any advice on ways of telling wether she is actually interested, thats my real problem?

[n0iZe]

You've been her friend for three years now. You should be able to tell what she's thinking by now.
Or just tell her your thoughts. Like.. "Hey, I've been thinking a lot lately, and I can't seem to get past what would happen if we started dating. Like, if it's too late."
Her: "Oh, blah blah blah something or other blah (Guaranteed three words:) I don't know".
You: "Well, is there still time?"
Along the lines of something like that, you throw her a smile and poof! Your outcome is either good or bad.

[fuzzylumpkins]

if you can't tell if she's interested, she's not.

[babybell321]

hey. I've been liking this guy for ages, he's also very flirty with me and other girls too and I actually asked him out twice cos i thought he liked me too but really he actually don't, I also knew he had a girlfriend on and off, i guess we're in a similar situation. But try flirting with her and it just comes nautrally if you really like each other. Tbh with you I flirted with him all the time but nothing, but this is you now, hope it goes well.

[cuddlemuffin]

Not that im an Expert at love or Anything but relationships between Friends is a bad idea... I mean i suppose they should be your friend before you go out. I've had mine 2months now and i love him to pieces But had we been Friends... I would have never Thought of him this way! Ad say Let it play out Still!

[rosie1]

well my advice is, DONTTTTT tell her, make a move etc when YOUR DRUNK. bad idea.

[fuzzylumpkins]

^ or a really good idea lol.

when you get rejected you can play it off as being hammered... unless she's the kind of person who takes everything drunk people say wayy too seriously.

[Drew2507]

Haha Hmmmmm... getting drunk and asking her out not an entirely stupid idea lol


@ babybell321 thanks that really helps getting advice from someone in the same situation

[cuddlemuffin]

Don't Do Ittttttttttt... Don't Ruin a Friendship... I hate it when guys do it to me! :'( Always ruin them being friends!

[Thok]

Don't Do Ittttttttttt... Don't Ruin a Friendship... I hate it when guys do it to me! :'( Always ruin them being friends!
thats because you are a bitch it would seem.

So long as they dont force themself on you whats the problem? They tell you hwo they feel an if you dont feel that way back you dont have to fall out with them

[Leon]

I don't think you should even try.

- She went out with your friend. - Will lead to some fall out between you and your friend.
- They were on and off for 2 months - How do you know that won't be the same with you.
- She's told you she thinks you're attractive - Not something you generally go out and say to someone you really do like.
- She's flirty with other boys too. - Which trust me, won't stop if she goes out with you.

Seems a simple choice to me.

[colored_zebra]

tell her you like her, but say it so shes not under pressure to do anything about it.
that way its out there, and if she likes you too thats great if she doestn continue with whatever you're doing and get over her.
just dont screw it up and make things awkward if she doesnt end up liking you.