Who Makes The First Move?

[cuddlemuffin]

I dunno... A weird topic that i really can't talk about with my friends... But its eating me alive!!!

This guy im with... i Really Really REALLY like him... I think he likes me too... But who should make the First move? Im talking about... You Know... The whole Birds and the bee's Thing!

He's really Shy and isn't good in taking hints! I have to push myself on him to to get him to kiss me... :sad:

So... The Problem: I don't want to force myself on him because he won't take a hint. and he might not be ready... Then again i can't Hint at him BECAUSE HE CAN'T TAKE IT!!! Its an Infinite Cycle! What do i doooooooooooooo???

So... I Suppose this is a Double Question... Who makes the first Move? Him or Her?


Thanx For allllllllll your Help!! :)

[Tim]

start with holding hands and just cuddle, if he's shy chances are he's probably new to relationships and seeing other people so generally doesn't take hints. get him to relax first

[n0iZe]

Yeaaaah. Use a condom.

Seen plenty of pregnant and unhappy girls 'round here.

That, and make sure he's ready too. Guys can be raped too, yanno.

[Jessaay!]

There's no rush, just wait until he feels more comfortable with you and physical affection.

[Tommeh!!!]

Yeah, to be honest, just try and let one thing go to the next, if he isnt receptive, then hes not ready, if he is...go you! :P

[babybell321]

have a convo with him as friends and try to make him more relaxed and not tensed by being with you, then make the second move.

[fuzzylumpkins]

use 2 condoms. and tie that shit with a rubber band around the base.

[cuddlemuffin]

lol ^^ Thanks ... Ive started Taking the pill just In case one Night it happens anyway! He carried Me home This Morning because he thought i was upset ^^ (Granted it was only 300 Yards) But it was sweet of him! :D. He better Be ready!!! Because if i Could id grab him right now and take him upstairs!

fuzzylumpkins - Omg that name just makes me Smile!!!

[Claireapillar]

lol yeah i agree with above, if you can't talk about it before you do it, then maybe you're not ready to do it...saying that i don't think me and my bf spoke about it...it just happened.

maybe that's it, if it just happens...like naturally kinda thing, without planning it, then it's meant to? and it shows you both want it lol. Just cos he's she it doesn't mean he doesn't want to do it. He might be just worried and stuff :)

haha i thought that about lumpy's name too. But i still imagine him to have a huge affro...and i have no idea why :(

[Burias]

Honestly, I'm terrified of making the first move. I suppose it comes from deep-seated fear of rejection.

So, I think I'm qualified to make a suggestion here. Make a few moves. It took me forever to kiss my ex because I was scared to. I wish she had kissed me first. He probably wants you to make the first move. And, honestly, if you ever wonder, ask him. Just flat out ask him if he's comfortable with what you're doing.

[Thok]

Honestly, I'm terrified of making the first move. I suppose it comes from deep-seated fear of rejection.

So, I think I'm qualified to make a suggestion here. Make a few moves. It took me forever to kiss my ex because I was scared to. I wish she had kissed me first. He probably wants you to make the first move. And, honestly, if you ever wonder, ask him. Just flat out ask him if he's comfortable with what you're doing.
Best advice ever, make a move but ask if he is comfortable with it

[cuddlemuffin]

lol Thanks again guys... God this whole relationship thing is hard :mad2:

[n0iZe]

lol Thanks again guys... God this whole relationship thing is hard :mad2:

You have no idea.

[cuddlemuffin]

:frown2:

[colored_zebra]

talk to him about it. if you're not comfortable talking about it then maybe you should work on that before you give yourself up to one another.

fridget boys. sigh.

[Tim]

all part of life's learning curve

[cuddlemuffin]

I wanted to stop learning when i left School!!! lol!!!

I just Thought up the most Awesome way to ask him!!!!

Thanks James from Msn... ( Don't know your forum Name )
He doesn't even know he helped me!

[n0iZe]

"Will you stick your Mr. Dangly in my hoo-hah?"

[Tim]

awesome way = 'fancy some sex?'

[nyx]

awesome way = jump him.

(or not?)

[cuddlemuffin]

lol... all valid Points!! But wouldn't solve my problem! xD

No instead I'm gonna harm Wrestle him!!!
xD Well its original...
(Its somhing we did to decide what film to watch! I just use two hands :D)
Just tell him... If i win we go upstairs and *Ahem * You know the rest!
If he wins we Sit downstairs and watch a movie...

xD i can just cheat if he isn't pushing back right?

:( Now i say it out loud it doesn't sound very good!
lol! I might just jump him in London!

[Tim]

rape him, he'll thank ya later :p

[cuddlemuffin]

I thought legally a woman can't rape a man?

[CHIPstick5]

I wanted to stop learning when i left School!!! lol!!!

I just Thought up the most Awesome way to ask him!!!!

Thanks James from Msn... ( Don't know your forum Name )
He doesn't even know he helped me!

Im james, woooop
was this about the chess thing and how to distract him?

[Thok]

I thought legally a woman can't rape a man?
bullshit of course they can...



I say, you buy some rope and then watch a film he wont like. He will fall asleep then you tie him up and when he wakes up and cant move you tell him the only way to get free is to have sex

[Burias]

bullshit of course they can...



I say, you buy some rope and then watch a film he wont like. He will fall asleep then you tie him up and when he wakes up and cant move you tell him the only way to get free is to have sex

Good idea, but my vote goes to handcuffing him whilst you're making out. That way, he'll already be... in the mood.

[CHIPstick5]

Good idea, but my vote goes to handcuffing him whilst you're making out. That way, he'll already be... in the mood.

lol are we trying to make it so sex is the only option haha, poor guy
Put a condom on his pillow or something and say nothing about it to him and see what he makes of it, you could also put your king from the chess games u play (that you have told me you lose lol)
Its like saying you have won the chess match and had ur fun, heres ur prize (and some fun for you haha)

[Tim]

I thought legally a woman can't rape a man?

well no but lots of booze and viagra would work i think lol

on a serious note don't rape anyone...anyone

raping's bad mmm'kay

[Thok]

Good idea, but my vote goes to handcuffing him whilst you're making out. That way, he'll already be... in the mood.
but gives him the option to resist:p
wouldnt be hard to get him in the mood once hes pinned

[CHIPstick5]

you sure bout that? i aint so sure

[Stevio]

Depends on the situation, if you're both ready you'll find that sooner or later it will just happen.

[x-chicky-x]

Tehee. Shy guys are cute! kinda.. uhh not really :) Take it slow ;) yaaa know? Haha looks like you 're the one that's gonna have to make the first move and nothing wrong with that!

[zhong.10]

tell him u love or u like him immediately.or u'll miss him

[soggytoast]

start while he's sleeping, he'll pretty much have no choice but to play along unless he wants to admit to getting girl raped.

[Will]

No one is going to go to the police crying "I was raped by a beautiful 16 year old girl officer!" Drag him upstairs and shag him.

[soggytoast]

No one is going to go to the police crying "I was raped by a beautiful 16 year old girl officer!" Drag him upstairs and shag him.
that right there is why i dress up as a 16 year old girl on the weekends.

[Joe 90]

use 2 condoms.

no, don't.

thats worse than using just one. friction between the two is bad mm'kay.

[Gem.]

^ What Joe said. More likely for the condoms to break!

Alsooo. Just rub his willy :)
See where it leads from there xD
Aha.

[zakarius]

pounce on him with your vagina spread wide

[Buttons93]

Sorry if this is kinda late but like.. if I was you..Arrange to have a movie night, then when you're both on the sofa, half way through the film or whatever.. just like move your hand up his leg.. towards his crotch.. and kiss him etc, tell him you want him.. but only if he's ready :)

[soggytoast]

Alsooo. Just rub his willy :)

i can't be the only one that found this hilarious


or i could be o_O

[Burias]

i can't be the only one that found this hilarious


or i could be o_O

I laughed--mostly at the word "willy," but still.

[Haylee Dawn]

Haha. I made the first move in my relationship. But it doesnt seem like he is quite ready to "have sex" with you yet. Move slow.