desperately need advice!!!

[teenneedinghelp]

hi, well i'm new to the forum and don't know where to start, but i need help with something thats bugging me so much.

basically i love this girl (X), soo much :) she's not sure whether she likes me, and she's still deciding for the time being. its known to a few people how much i love her. anyway last night, i made a terrible mistake. i went to another girls house (Y) who's a mate of mine. i had too much to drink, and tried to kiss her, but she pulled away. there was a few people there at the time who saw, but they've all promised they wont say anything to anyone about it, but they don't want to speak to me again.

so do i tell girl X, the one i love, of what i did? we're not going out, so it's technically not cheating, but i feel soooo guilty and bad of what i did and have been sick with worry about if it got out. please help me, should i tell her? or should i just forget it and continue? all help appreciated :)

[SpiritSharD]

You should tell her.

Why?

A) If you want a successful relationship with girl X, you're going to have to be honest. Honestly is a core part of any relationship.

B) If girl X does eventually find out from someone else, her reaction will be A LOT worse than if she had heard it from you before you starting dating.


If girl X doesn't want to date you afterwards, then she probably wasn't the right girl for you, because any decent girl would understand you and be happy you were honest with her. :)


Hope that helps. :D

[teenneedinghelp]

thank you, i understand what you mean and realize it is the right thing to do :D but its gonna be so hard telling her

[Incendiary]

B) If girl X does eventually find out from someone else, her reaction will be A LOT worse than if she had heard it from you before you starting dating.

that.
trust me, she'll find out about it.
people can never keep their mouth shut, even close friends usually have problem with it, let alone a whole bunch of people who basically don't give a shit for you and just want to see some drama.

[SpiritSharD]

thank you, i understand what you mean and realize it is the right thing to do :D but its gonna be so hard telling her

I don't know how old you are, so I'm going to assume you at least go to school/college.

If that's the case, ask her if you could speak to her privately for a moment, then tell her. Would be a good idea to say that you hope it doesn't effect the friendship you both share with each other, and you hope that she can forgive you. :)

[teenneedinghelp]

i'm 15, i'm so worried though if i tell her she wont want to go out with me :( god i'm so confused >:[

[soggytoast]

i'm 15

there's your problem.

[teenneedinghelp]

there's your problem.

lol, why all teens get tarred with the same brush, i don't know :/

[RawrBaaybee]

I think you should tell her... honesty always goes down well with girls (: its all about the trust and honesty.
and if she doesn't want to go out with you after it, then she's not for you. She can't exactly hate you for it, it wasn't cheating or anything.

[Burias]

lol, why all teens get tarred with the same brush, i don't know :/

Let me tell you something: stereotypes don't exist because there's nothing to them. They exist because, as a rule, they're true.

I would be incredibly surprised if I found out some day that you married this girl. To be honest, I would be surprised if I found out you had a relationship that lasted more than a year.

I didn't think I was like most teenagers, but I am. If you truly think that this whole "love" thing exists, go for it. But, I think it's a load of bullshit.

I think you're only now coming to realize your sexuality, and you've corrupted the affection you feel for a friend or acquaintance into your idea of romantic love.

[fuzzylumpkins]

I didn't think I was like most teenagers, but I am. If you truly think that this whole "love" thing exists, go for it. But, I think it's a load of bullshit.


Someone got dumped recently :P

[soggytoast]

lol, why all teens get tarred with the same brush, i don't know :/
because everyone who has been through the 15 year old stage comes out realising they were all the same.

I think you should tell her... honesty always goes down well with girls (: its all about the trust and honesty.
and if she doesn't want to go out with you after it, then she's not for you. She can't exactly hate you for it, it wasn't cheating or anything.

sure is whore in here.

[Burias]

Someone got dumped recently :P

Hah hah. Not quite. Not quite. I'm just bitter.

[Gem.]

I agree with what Burias said actually.
Open your eyes to the reality that sooner or later everything is going to fuck up and go ass over tit for you anyways.
Believe me, we've all been there.