My Mum. =/

[Gem.]

I think my mum has mental problems.
And I honestly dont know what to do when she has one of her crazy moments.
So I get in a mood and end up making her cry (or cry even worse if she's already crying.)
Reckon I should like check her into a mental home or something? =/
Or just slap her and say GET WITH IT YOU MORON.
(Already done the second option actually... didn't go down too well.)
Ughhh.

[Jinxieminx]

Tell her to go see the doctor, my mum's got depression, agoraphobia and M.E.
Can't say ''I know what you're going through.''
But I can empathise 'cause I go through similar things daily.

[Duvets]

My mum has had depression and I'm pretty sure she's an alcoholic.
I don't know what to do either because she's this really strong human being most of the time, when she breaks I feel like I can't even be in the house.

But I agree with above post, maybe suggest seeing a doctor. Just generally be supportive, don't be a pain in the ass, and help her out as much as possible. Things that people should do for their mothers anyway, to be honest. A lot of people don't :/

[Jinxieminx]

Sounds horrible but when my mum goes on a downward spiral, I can't stay around either... I go to my room, or out to a friends. Then I get yelled at for ''not caring''. :/

[phaggot]

grow up

[Jinxieminx]

grow up

Go away Nachu, this isn't the time/place for trollin'

[neoncupcake]

Go away Nachu, this isn't the time/place for trollin'
Well, although it wasn't put together very well, it's kinda true. When someone is having moodiness that's more serious than something they can just get over, you can't say CUT IT OUT, MORON. You have to take a more mature route and compromise how it makes you feel so you can make the other person feel better.
I'm not saying if she pisses you off or hurts you with something she says to just take it on the chin, but you have to talk to her like you know it's not sincere.
When she gets in those moods, you have to let her know that they worry and upset you because that's not the kind of person she really is. A lot of people are stubborn about seeking treatment, but if you tell her you think she has a problem in a compassionate way, she may feel easier about it.
Don't show her she pisses you off, show her you care.

[Malarkey]

I'm not sure what your mother's "crazy moments" consist of, so I'm speculating here, but it could be menopause, or maybe menopause is just aggravating whatever problems she has. When my mom, who I would consider to be a strong, sane, normal woman, went through menopause, she would turn into a raging bitchoholic, attack me for no reason over silly things then sob uncontrollably, and just generally just act like a crazy person at moments. After her hormones righted themselves, she was fine. I'm not saying that menopause turns all women into crazy bitch monsters, but like with most things, there are some people who just don't transition very well.

[Jinxieminx]

Well, although it wasn't put together very well, it's kinda true. When someone is having moodiness that's more serious than something they can just get over, you can't say CUT IT OUT, MORON. You have to take a more mature route and compromise how it makes you feel so you can make the other person feel better.
I'm not saying if she pisses you off or hurts you with something she says to just take it on the chin, but you have to talk to her like you know it's not sincere.
When she gets in those moods, you have to let her know that they worry and upset you because that's not the kind of person she really is. A lot of people are stubborn about seeking treatment, but if you tell her you think she has a problem in a compassionate way, she may feel easier about it.
Don't show her she pisses you off, show her you care.

Either way, he's trollin'.

Some people can't deal with emotions in the way you or I could.
Anger is how worry is manifested insome people.
You can't judge someone and say ''GROW UP'' when you don't know the full story.

Although how you describe, is how things should be dealt with. Some people can't function that way.

[Duvets]

Yeah I was assuming these crazy moments were massive episodes that happen regularly.
Little more information needed perhaps?

[neoncupcake]

Either way, he's trollin'.

Some people can't deal with emotions in the way you or I could.
Anger is how worry is manifested insome people.
You can't judge someone and say ''GROW UP'' when you don't know the full story.

Although how you describe, is how things should be dealt with. Some people can't function that way.
People don't function that way because it's a selfless thing to do. It takes more time and effort than you'd first expect. But in the end it usually is worth it.

[Jinxieminx]

People don't function that way because it's a selfless thing to do. It takes more time and effort than you'd first expect. But in the end it usually is worth it.

No, I'm saying that some people physically can't give people who're going through those kinds of emotions sympathy and support.

[neoncupcake]

No, I'm saying that some people physically can't give people who're going through those kinds of emotions sympathy and support.
o.o Physically can't give emotional support? You're confusing me, here.

[Jinxieminx]

... >.>

I meant, some people just don't have it in them to be sympathetic towards others.

Make more sense? lol

[Andy C]

Check yourself in as well, lol :p

I think you should just have a sit down with her and find out what the matter is. You probably already know and don't wanna share, but at least opening the doors of communication without losing your rag and calling her a moron will make it seem like you do care about her. She can't turn round and slap you with a 'you don't give a shit about me' card later on when you do the bigger thing and wanna talk about it head on and see what's up. At least when you do apt to ignore her bullshit and power on, she knows you've made your peace, lol. Ask her if there is anything you can do and see what happens?

To be fair to her, I don't think anybody should raise a hand to their mother. You could well be the problem here and I think talking to her will better your relationship and relieve any contention.

But really, she's probably only on a domestic over a crappy Mother's Day card or something. Book her into a nuthouse for a laugh :locked:

[neoncupcake]

... >.>

I meant, some people just don't have it in them to be sympathetic towards others.

Make more sense? lol
Yea, but everyone should have love for their mommies.

[phaggot]

Either way, he's trollin'.

Some people can't deal with emotions in the way you or I could.
Anger is how worry is manifested insome people.
You can't judge someone and say ''GROW UP'' when you don't know the full story.

Although how you describe, is how things should be dealt with. Some people can't function that way.how was it trolling? people who are being overly sympathetic to an annoying teen don't know the whole story either, I choose to be brief and let others figure out what I mean... and antagonising me is what's going to get you trolled, just sayin'.

[Jinxieminx]

@ neon: True, but people show love in different ways.

Personally, I agree with everything you have said.
But I'm just keeping neutral, I don't like judging anyone.

@ Nachu: >.> I assumed you were trollin' cus you made no effort to give real advice, I apologise if that was not the case.

[vermicide]

IDK, I'd need to know what you're doing to make your mom cry to try and determine that. The way you tell it doesn't sound like she's crazy, just reacting the way anyone would if you yelled at them just because you're "in a mood." A lot of teens think their parents are nuts, when in reality they're actually just brats.

So yeah, details are kind of important in this case.

[Gem.]

She's been to the doctors and multiple tests.
They have no idea whats wrong with her.

Examples of her "crazy moments":
1.) The other week I told her I was going to town for a few drinks with mates and before I knew it she was on the floor, screaming at me. Literally screaming. So I was like O_O STOP IT! Because she was scaring me for screaming at nothing really. And then she kind of curled up in a ball and sobbed like fuck so I grabbed her shoulders to try to get her upright again and she started shaking and smacking my hands away. And then I just needed to get out the house so I went out and let dad deal with her =/

2.) On Saturday just gone I took her to town to go shopping since I wouldnt see her on mothers day as I was working. All day I spoilt her and treated her nice and it was a lovely day. Untill we got onto the train to go back home. She started panicking because some guy stood in front of her and she said she needed to get off and stood up so I told her not to be silly and to just look out of the window. She ignored me and continued to panic and then I told her to calm down and she yelled DONT SHOUT AT ME YOURE ALWAYS SHOUTING AT ME. Even though I was actually whispering and hushing her. And then she jumped up when the train stopped and stormed off O_O
Not wanting to leave her on her own I got off too and we ended up somewhere we didnt even know so had to find out where we were and call Dad to come and pick us up =/

Sorry that theyre pure essays.

[Andy C]

Hooooooookay.

Jinxie, get Clay in here.

[Phlyarologist]

Yeeeeees?

[Jinxieminx]

;) Damn, I'm good.

[Phlyarologist]

Naturally. <3

[isitso]

Could she be going through menopause? I would check into that, since menopause can make women go a little batty. It sounds like a hormonal problem to me, and there are medications for it from what I know.

[vermicide]

My mom actually found natural supplements that worked better for her than hormones. She hated the hormones because they made her gain weight like crazy, but she couldn't stand the effects of the menopause. These vitamins actually got rid of all the symptoms, without the weight gain side effect. Her friend tried and liked them too; in her case she couldn't take the hormones at all because apparently your doctor won't let you if you're at high risk for breast cancer.

Just a suggestion.

[Malarkey]

Could she be going through menopause? I would check into that, since menopause can make women go a little batty. It sounds like a hormonal problem to me, and there are medications for it from what I know.

You.

Complete me.

[Andy C]

...

The 15 year old comes in and destroys us all.

[Malarkey]

...

The 15 year old comes in and destroys us all.

I suggested that it was menopause on the first page.

[isitso]

You.

Complete me.

haha.

just don't make me go off on a tangent about Premarin :P

[Andy C]

Yeah but her post got me stiff and anxious. Yours didn't have that ting.

[vermicide]

haha.

just don't make me go off on a tangent about Premarin :P

I remember reading a big article about that back in the day when I subscribed to Horse Illustrated magazine. ;)

[aglarana]

@Gem oh girl this is really fucked up i know how it is though my mom doesn't have it but my grandmother does and she is the one who raised me, so i know how it is, u still have your dad around to help out with me it was just me and her, and my mom very seldom, what i suggest you do is that u talk to your dad and see what is best, because this really sounds like strange mental problems and not only hormones

[Gem.]

She's been taking erm... ah cant remember what its called but its some herbal shite anyways thats supposed to calm your nerves and whatnot.
I dont think its menopause tbh because truth be told she has had a lot on lately... all of the family has but its hit my mum hard I think.
She seemed to be getting better when taking the herbal stuff but then she stopped because she "felt fine" but she clearly wasnt fine because she went off having crazy moments like everyday!
She could just need a cuddle =/ god knows.

[aglarana]

yea u never know how to help people in moments like that, a hug can help but it can also fuck things up more :S its just very fucked up for u girl do u need a hug?

[Gem.]

Yeah, I could do with a hug haha.

[aglarana]

*hugs Gem *

[Gem.]

Awww ty.
<3

[Beans]

I hope your mum's ok, it does sound like she needs help.

I worry about mine a lot actually, she's had depression since my dad left home but he came back near the end of last year.. then left again last month and she's back to square one it seems.
There has been times, so many times where I'd have been more then happy telling her to shut the fuck up and on most of these occassions i have.. It's getting to the point where I can't stand her unstableness anymore.

[Gem.]

I hope your mum's ok, it does sound like she needs help.

I worry about mine a lot actually, she's had depression since my dad left home but he came back near the end of last year.. then left again last month and she's back to square one it seems.
There has been times, so many times where I'd have been more then happy telling her to shut the fuck up and on most of these occassions i have.. It's getting to the point where I can't stand her unstableness anymore.

I know the feeling, very much.
If you ever need someone to talk to about it then you can always PM me you know since we're in a similar situation so it seems.

[TheMan]

you slapped your mom?
what kind of daughter are you?

[Giggle Monster]

I thought I'd responded to this but I guess not.

I don't know if you've maybe made plans to see a doctor yet or not, but I'd consider it. She's clearly not in the best frame of mind, regardless of the cause. If it's menopause, she can maybe take some hormones or something to help make it easier. Even if it may not be anything more concerning than "the change" it could still be good to rule that out. It would suck to brush it off as menopause and find out later that there was more to it. If it is menopause, then she's certainly having a rougher time than most; this sounds worse than just general irritability and mood swings. I hope she starts improving soon.

She can't be happy this way, and you're certainly suffering for it as well. If there's anything that can be done to help her out, it's worth looking into. :)

[Gem.]

you slapped your mom?
what kind of daughter are you?

*Mum.
And the kind of daughter who doesn't know how to react when her mum turns psycho-bitch.

[Duvets]

If I ever slapped my mum, she'd probably beat me to death.
Not on tbh.

[Beans]

If I ever slapped my mum, she'd probably beat me to death.
Not on tbh.

It wouldn't matter what state mine is in, she would DESTROY me if i slapped or hit her.
Then again i've thrown a chair at her before, and I think i only got away with it because of the shock. I think I got away with throwing a table at her as well last year only because it missed her and it was quite clear at the time I was in a place where she could've done anything and i'd not have gave two shits.

Also just throwing this out there, but you considered you mum could perhaps be bipolar?
And cheers for the offer on the chat, but it's just not something i feel like confiding to people about in a heart to heart on the internets, or planned out. I'd rather just talk about it to someone i know in person spur of the moment when i feel like it, but it doesn't bother me mentally that much anymore. I've a lot bigger things to sort out then putting up with my mum.

[Giggle Monster]

If she were bipolar, there would have to be distinct episodes of mania and depression. Being irritable and crying a lot and overreacting to things can be depression-related but, from what Gem has said, I don't see any of the typical manicky stuff. Euphoria, delusions of grandeur, hallucinations, impulsive decision-making... There's some possible paranoia, which is a manic symptom, but nothing else that's mentioned really jumps out as textbook bipolar. There's definitely some general freaky mood stuff, and it's possible that something is going on psychologically. What has been said in this thread alone isn't enough for me to think bipolar is the best solution, though. Everyone's symptoms are a little different, but, I wouldn't be in a rush to stick a label on this.

[Beans]

I'm not really sure what bipolar is, i just remember watching eastenders a while back and the nutty mum is bipolar and stopped taking her meds and went nuttier, then her daughter stacey went crazy-eeeeeeeeeee and were diagnosed with it as well.
Archie raped her, but the baby's Whitney's brother's and Stacey admitted to killing archie and as her and bradley tried to escape walford bradley's poor parkour shows were shown as he fell off the roof the the queen vic live on tv and still moved a little, but he was dead.

Also Jack forgot his lines, because he was awesome.

[neoncupcake]

If she were bipolar, there would have to be distinct episodes of mania and depression. Being irritable and crying a lot and overreacting to things can be depression-related but, from what Gem has said, I don't see any of the typical manicky stuff. Euphoria, delusions of grandeur, hallucinations, impulsive decision-making... There's some possible paranoia, which is a manic symptom, but nothing else that's mentioned really jumps out as textbook bipolar. There's definitely some general freaky mood stuff, and it's possible that something is going on psychologically. What has been said in this thread alone isn't enough for me to think bipolar is the best solution, though. Everyone's symptoms are a little different, but, I wouldn't be in a rush to stick a label on this.
People usually pin it on bipolar disorder, they think since it's such a broad spectrum of symptoms that anyone showing problems like this has it. When someone has manic symptoms they are very clear, you will know. Everyone knows depression, but mania is a whole other thing. This, to me, doesn't seem like bipolar disorder either.

[Giggle Monster]

People usually pin it on bipolar disorder, they think since it's such a broad spectrum of symptoms that anyone showing problems like this has it.

Indeed. I actually am bipolar, so I'm usually quick to try and correct it when people do that.

[neoncupcake]

Indeed. I actually am bipolar, so I'm usually quick to try and correct it when people do that.
Oh my gosh, are we twins or something? Stapit!

[Giggle Monster]

What, you too? Freaky!

[neoncupcake]

What, you too? Freaky!
I know. What's next?!

[Giggle Monster]

...you're not ginger, are you?

[neoncupcake]

...you're not ginger, are you?
Oh, no, but I'm really pale! Haha.

[Giggle Monster]

*phew* Ok, good. That would have been too freaky. xD

[Gem.]

She's been the doctors yet again and he said it's stress related.
So god knows how long she will be like this for!

[WastedlittleDj]

Right no offence, but the fact you've posted this about your own mother on a forum full of strangers is pretty shocking, and to turn around in the post above and say 'god knows how long she'll be like this for' is pretty disrespectful. I hardly think your mother is having fun suffering how she is, however bad she has episodes.
You don't know how hard it might be for her, and yes you might have shit hard because of it, but at the end of the day you can live your life relatively normal, like go out with friends, shag about etc etc. What options does your mother have when she can't escape herself?
Maybe instead of thinking about yourself and how YOU are suffering, take time out for her and think about why she may be like this, and as for smacking her when she does have an episode because you don't know how to react .... I'm sorry that is the woman who raised you. You need to seek help for yourself if you don't know how to cope or react, there are plenty of advice forums or even counsellors.
You probably won't like my reply and I'm not fussed.

[Duvets]

^ Agree with pretty much everything above.

[Gem.]

Right no offence, but the fact you've posted this about your own mother on a forum full of strangers is pretty shocking, and to turn around in the post above and say 'god knows how long she'll be like this for' is pretty disrespectful. I hardly think your mother is having fun suffering how she is, however bad she has episodes.
You don't know how hard it might be for her, and yes you might have shit hard because of it, but at the end of the day you can live your life relatively normal, like go out with friends, shag about etc etc. What options does your mother have when she can't escape herself?
Maybe instead of thinking about yourself and how YOU are suffering, take time out for her and think about why she may be like this, and as for smacking her when she does have an episode because you don't know how to react .... I'm sorry that is the woman who raised you. You need to seek help for yourself if you don't know how to cope or react, there are plenty of advice forums or even counsellors.
You probably won't like my reply and I'm not fussed.

Yeah, incase you didn't notice I'm here for advice since this is an advice forum.
I'm not here to be judged so please gtfo out of my thread unless you're going to be helpful.

Oh and FYI, my mum barely raised me.
It was mostly my nan as that's where I spent the majority of my childhood.

[Tobifreed]

I think my mum has mental problems.
And I honestly dont know what to do when she has one of her crazy moments.
So I get in a mood and end up making her cry (or cry even worse if she's already crying.)
Reckon I should like check her into a mental home or something? =/
Or just slap her and say GET WITH IT YOU MORON.
(Already done the second option actually... didn't go down too well.)
Ughhh.

She hot?

[Leon]

please gtfo out of my thread unless you're going to be helpful.
She was being helpful.

[Odin]

Odin will use lube next time.

[Tobifreed]

Old thread brah.

[13X4]

I think my mum has mental problems.
And I honestly dont know what to do when she has one of her crazy moments.
So I get in a mood and end up making her cry (or cry even worse if she's already crying.)
Reckon I should like check her into a mental home or something? =/
Or just slap her and say GET WITH IT YOU MORON.
(Already done the second option actually... didn't go down too well.)
Ughhh.

Edit: Nvm old thread.

I take it you sectioned her?