Yeah, so, I have problems.

[RDawg]

So yeah, I'm 17 years old and I thought I would post about my problems here because who would know more about this sort of stuff then a forum full of teenagers right?

Anyway, 17 years old, i'm depressed, in love and a loner. I'm also a huge computer nerd which doesn't help me a lot.

I used to be quite happy a few years ago. I met this girl who's the most perfect girl in the world. To me, she has no flaws. She's beautiful and amazing. Anyway, years went past and it's now. She doesn't (and never had) liked me because I didn't treat her very well and now she's got this boyfriend who's a great guy and all. All I want is for her to be happy, but it's so incredibly hard to watch her with him. I know I should move on etc etc but I haven't been able to find anybody even close to being as great as she is.

I've also realized that I'm ugly, fat and have no real friends. This is making me feel really bad and I don't really know what do to anymore.

Anybody else in a situation like this? What did you do about it?

[Prophet]

quite elementary dawg

stop getting upset about your looks, work out, and gain true friends by being active and social yo

[Malarkey]

You were/are not in love with her if you think she is "perfect" and has no flaws. You were/are infatuated with her. There's a difference.

Why exactly did you treat this so-called "perfect" girl badly - especially if you liked her? That doesn't make any sense - unless you still think that throwing rocks at girls is an acceptable method of getting them to like you, in which case you need to mentally mature about 10 years before you even think about dating.

You're not going to find anyone better than your "perfect girl." Get to know her better, try being her friend, and if you pay attention, you should see that she has does indeed have flaws. That is, unless you were such a dick to her that she doesn't want to be your friend, in which case, you're screwed. If you keep idealizing her from a distance you'll never get over your infatuation with her. Once you've done that, then you can think about other girls - maybe - if you grow up.

If you're unhappy with your life, take steps to change it. Join clubs, get active, do something! This will make you feel infinitely better about your life. You do not need a girlfriend to make you a complete person. If you feel that is the case, tack another 10 years of needed maturity onto that first 10 years I mentioned earlier.

[Prophet]

Why exactly did you treat this so-called "perfect" girl badly - especially if you liked her? That doesn't make any sense - unless you still think that throwing rocks at girls is an acceptable method of getting them to like you, in which case you need to mentally mature about 10 years before you even think about dating.that's most likely the case in his situation yo

also I don't know how many years you've liked this chick, but that's too long, you in a way brought this depression on yourself by lusting after the supposed perfection she has, stop putting her on such a high pedestal

as for you thinking being a computer nerd is shameful, there isn't any shame in it

there are plenty of people who are social, active, and fun who are all "nerdy" in some way, for example there are people who have an encyclopedic knowledge of certain things, like in my case I know everything there is to know about basketball or popular culture or computers or comics or psychology and so on

don't let your hobbies hinder you, rather use them to benefit you when the situation calls for it yo

[Darts]

^ True dat, my boyfriend is a nerd and he's goooorgeous. *gushes* Haha....

[phaggot]

:' ( so sad

[lawlseanny]

:' ( so sad

This.

[Alpharius]

...Anybody else in a situation like this? What did you do about it?

Nope, sorry, can't help ya. :smile5:

I jest, I used to like a girl who didn't like me (she only liked the artistic, I'm far too practical), I got depressed, thought drugs would help (didn't).

Then, to alleviate the depression (and to control the ADHD), I joined a martial arts group, won a few competitions, got 2 black belts, started playing a few musical instruments and met many more interesting people.

Two years after all this, that girl tried to chat me up, I blanked her completely.

In hindsight I should have tapped that, but we're all human.