Age Difference

[SG's lil babe]

I'm 17 and I really like this 34/35 year old guy. He told me he liked me a couple of weeks ago and we ended up kissing and ended up in bed together (but we didn't have sex) I like him a lot and think I might be in love with him and he keeps blowing hot and cold. The day after it happened he said it shouldn't carry on because of the age difference and I don't know what to do. He likes me and I like him. Does the age difference matter that much? I've known him for a few years now because I babysit for his children. He asked me not to tell anyone about what happened and I haven't. I have asked him where I stand and he says he has feelings for me but it would be best to be friends. But I don't know if I can see him a couple of times a week and just be able to ignore my feelings. The night all this happened he was talking as if we were going to be in a relationship and it would happen again. Do you reckon this was just to get me to do stuff with him?

I know the age different is a lot, but is it just a number or is it important in a relationship? I get on well with his children and don't want to miss out on seeing them just because this happened with him but I don't want to be in an awkward position with him.

What would you do in my situation?
Thanks

[Bob!]

Too old, age difference is one thing but a gap that large just shouldn't be happening at your age lol.

I'd say you should get away from the guy no matter what your feelings are tbh, if you were late twenties it would be fine but you are far from that, try find guys of more your own age, as he seems just to liek playing with girls a LOT younger, and rpobably does not want you for who you are, as a guy of that age should have enough experience to know that, so he is probably manipulating you, and even if not, there is still something wrong.

[iaxa]

i disagree . my dad and my steo mother have like a 20 year age gap and there fine. my step mum is like 27 and my dad is 45. they married just last xmas eve.
but i cant offer you any advice. but it is possible to have a relationship with a age difference .

[Pearson]

Pedo! if i was 34 no chance id go out with a 17 year old, its just wrong.

[Brianna.]

That's morally wrong, on both your parts.

He should know better than to end up in bed with a 17 year old...Jesus. The thought of it makes me sick. He's got children!! Yes, some teens have them, but this man already has his life setteled down and everything.


It's not right.

[timswfc]

yeh thats ridiculous

theres 1 year between me n my beautiful gf :P

[Hevz]

lol tim u liar there is 4 months between us u doodge! bt tht's nt wot we're talkin bout! personally i think it's wrong and jst frm the fact tht u sed he is blowin hot and cold with u ses tht he doesn't really no wot he wants! i think it's completely unfair on u 2 b messed about and u can c it cumin so get out now and it's also completely unfair on his kids!

[SG's lil babe]

Thanks for all the advice. Since I've started babysitting his kids he's had a few girlfriends, all his own age. I just want to know whats made a change this time, why go for me? He knows I like him and my mates say he's just playing me but when I ask him questions he either changes the subject or doesn't answer properly. I guess, deep down, I know he's playing me, I just don't want it to be true.

[Sponge'K'nob]

hevz what does "doodge" mean? patriot mailed me about it. and it got me thinkin!
oh and the whole age thing.....its just wrong.
i would never get with anyone that age!

[Pearson]

doodge or douge, just like an idiot really.

[Sponge'K'nob]

ooh like dougie. or yeh. i think i get it. thanx mayttte

[Morazain]

What you got to consider is not the what he is doing but why is he doing it.

Ask yourself a hepyerthetical situation and see if you can judge what he does next. Run the current scenario ahead ans estimate based on passed experience what he will do next once you have a little list in your head see how many of thjem he fufills and then you will know the why.

[Hevz]

thank u pearson! tht's wot a doodge is! and it was a word pea taught me so he will know!

[michelle]

age differnece that big is just wrong well i think it is anyway

well if ya think thats bad my step sis is just 18 and got married to a man who is older than her dad, my dad is 52 the man she marrried was nearly 60 and shes pregnant, no money what so ever they're both skint hes got her workin in a abr while he sits there drinking all night and hes also phoned us up threating to kill us and all that - thats just wrong and disgusting