The Marriage Bed

[Malarkey]

I found this really funny, because I was just talking with someone about how having someone, anyone really, sleep in my bed with me makes my sleep less restful. I was thinking that I was a huge freak, until I saw this article. Okay. I still think I'm a huge freak, but not for this particular reason anymore.

What do you guys think? Will you have one bed or separate beds if you get married/are in a long-term, live-in relationship? If your partner disturbed your sleep, would you get separate beds or bedrooms, even if you like the idea of one bed/bedroom better? What do you think the consequences of separate beds/bedrooms are?

http://www.today.msnbc.msn.com/id/38410209/ns/today-the_new_york_times?GT1=43001

[Kriskascini]

My grandparents did that too, but they had marriage issues alright, even if they loved each other secretly, kinda romantic, kinda sad. I think my Vó (grann) passed away without knowing how obsessed Vô (grannpa) was with her. -.- Personally I think king sized beds are the answer.

[Malarkey]

That's sad.

You know, I have a queen-sized bed, and I don't take up a lot of space. It just disturbs my sleep to have another person sleeping in the bed with me - unless I am dead exhausted. Even my 25 lb, 2-year-old nephew bothers me when he crashes in my bed. It's weird.

[Jinxieminx]

I have a less restful sleep when I'm sharing a bed with a friend or a child, but if I'm with a significant other, I sleep better than I would if I were alone.

This is all of course, providing my significant other doesn't snore. If he does, he might as well be picking out his own bed/mattress. He won't be sleeping with me. LOL

[Charlotte(:]

I enjoy sleeping on my own, but I sleep even better when i'm with my boyfriend. I'm not entirely sure why, possibly the cuddling and holding of each other, just makes me feel safe, and so I fall to sleep practically straight away. =)

Personally, I find it a bit strange why people would want to sleep in seperate beds, unless your partner, or whoever you were with, slept in a way that meant it stopped you from sleeping soundly. Most couples I know share the same bed, but I do know one or two sleep in seperate rooms because of snoring and such.

Each to their own I guess. :)

[gabzillasaurus]

Hmm I've never slept over at a boy's house because my mom is so paranoid that she hardly lets me sleep over at girls' houses. Well yeah I have, but not in his bed with him. I sleep in my girl bestie's bed when I sleep over and I don't have any problems really, but I don't like to face her. It feels weird.
I've shared beds with quite a few people lol, big family trips and staying in hotels and such. I think I'd be fine with sleeping with a significant other.

[XxlilsawahxX]

i love sharing a bed, but only if its with my partner, i hate sharing a bed with my sister when she stays, i can never sleep properly. with my boyfriend its different, its like when hes there nothing else matters and i fall asleep so easily, i love it.

[neoncupcake]

When/if I live with my SO we'll definitely share a bed. It's nice to fall asleep together, and then have separate space but still be close during the night. Nights I have sleeping trouble or feel sick it always helps to snuggle. He makes fun of me because when I lie next to him and cuddle, even on the couch watching TV, it's not long at all before I fall asleep. :P When I stay the night as his house now, he's got a queen bed so there's enough room for us to separate but we never share pillows. I'd imagine if we make the decision to live together, we'll get a king size bed so it's even more comfortable.

Though I don't think it's weird to have separate beds/rooms due to comfort issues or snoring. There's always tons of time to be together while you're awake, sleeping together doesn't keep you THAT much closer.

[Njord]

I've shared couches with cousins back in the day. Having someone in a bed is a piece of cake

[neoncupcake]

I've shared couches with cousins back in the day. Having someone in a bed is a piece of cake

Hahaha sharing a big bed with my cousin when we were little was AWFUL, she would ALWAYS knee me in the ass, I'd wake up, shove her away, fall back asleep.... WHAM, again! My god.

[Prophet]

This is the way I see it yo:

Why can't you share your bed? That's the most loving thing to do, to share your bed with someone. You say, 'You can have my bed if you want it. Sleep in it. I'll sleep on the floor. It's yours.' I always give the beds to the company.

[NoelBombShell]

I feel like the only time I sleep well is when its with my "significant other."

[LoveBullets]

I usually let company sleep on my bed, it just seems like the most polite thing to do. I have shared beds with others before, though. I don't have a problem with it, I generally don't move too much if there's another person in there with me. I've also shared a floor/bed thing with someone, but it was weird once because I woke up with her arms around me.
o.O

[Mute Cow]

I love to cuddle (derp), so I assume I will be sleeping in the same bed as my significant other. And if one of us snores, they have mouth guards for that. Hopefully he doesn't mind that I make whiney noises in my sleep. Sharing a bed shows a closer bond, but it is possible to be close and sleep in separate beds/rooms. It depends on the condition of the relationship.

[NoelBombShell]

I flop all around and apparently warm the bed like a radiator. He tolerates it though.

[vampireonion]

I've actually thought about this quite a bit, and I realize just how much I love having my own room and bed. I don't think I could share it. I also tend to sleep horribly if someone else is in the bed with me. I hardly move at night, but the space is nice. I've never had a boyfriend, though, so that might change,

[lawlseanny]

I sleep like a rock and don't move at all, regardless of whether or not I'm in a bed with someone. As for sharing a bed when I get married, I don't plan on ever getting married so it's a non-issue for me.

[vampireonion]

You don't plan on getting married or no one plans on getting married to you? :P

[lawlseanny]

Probably both. I just don't see the point in it all, to be honest.

[vampireonion]

I love the thought of proclaiming the love.

[Malarkey]

I swear. All of you, with the exception of VO, make me feel like a horrible female. "I only sleep well if it's with my honey/sweetie/random person." It SOUNDS romantic to me. I WANT to like sharing my bed with a significant other, but I can't seem to get beyond the reality of it.

The weird thing is, it's not like I'm a light sleeper normally. I sleep like a rock when I'm on my own. I can go to sleep at any point during the day, for any length of time, and I'm usually asleep within minutes of my head hitting the pillow. That's partially why having someone else in my bed bothering me bothers me so much.

[Poseidon]

I have a less restful sleep when I'm sharing a bed with a friend or a child, but if I'm with a significant other, I sleep better than I would if I were alone.

This is all of course, providing my significant other doesn't snore. If he does, he might as well be picking out his own bed/mattress. He won't be sleeping with me. LOL

It sounds like you have plenty of experience with this bed sharing.

[Jinxieminx]

It sounds like you have plenty of experience with this bed sharing.

Get into bed hot stuff, I'm waiting for you. ;D

[Njord]

And 6 other guys

[soggytoast]

i've shared a single bed with gurls a few times, i don't sleep particularly well when anyone is in the same room as me though let alone the same bed.

my general reaction when i'm woken by being touched/a close sound is to spring up ninja like...it's kind of odd and i don't know why it happens

[NoelBombShell]

I sleep like a rock and don't move at all, regardless of whether or not I'm in a bed with someone. As for sharing a bed when I get married, I don't plan on ever getting married so it's a non-issue for me.


I never plan on getting married either, you dont need a legal document to prove you love someone. Watching my parents examples of marriage has mutated my impression of it.

[Poseidon]

Get into bed hot stuff, I'm waiting for you. ;D

I sleep alone.


I never plan on getting married either, you dont need a legal document to prove you love someone. Watching my parents examples of marriage has mutated my impression of it.

"Same here" would've sufficed.

[NoelBombShell]

"Same here" would've sufficed.


I like reading comments that are in depth and thought provoking.

[Poseidon]

I like reading comments that are in depth and thought provoking.

Thought provoking, you say? I figured not needing legal documents to prove love was common sense. The times sure have changed!

[NoelBombShell]

Thought provoking, you say? I figured not needing legal documents to prove love was common sense. The times sure have changed!



I just don't see the point in it all, to be honest.


I love the thought of proclaiming the love.


Some people are of the opinion that a legal marriage is a strong and legitimate proclamation of love, while I believe that an intimate connection is more than enough.

[Claireapillar]

I've never been a very good sleeper as it is...i think it's passed down from my Dad, cos he only sleeps 4 or 5 hours a night, if that. I'm unfortunately the same

But when i've been with my significant other, i sleep very well. Sometimes as long as 7hours.

Also it usually takes me ages to go to sleep, i tend to toss and turn a lot and even if i feel really tired i still have trouble actually falling asleep. I don't seem to have that problem when my bf is with me...well...my ex snored really loud sometimes, so then it was an issue...

But i know many guys who have trouble sleeping if there's someone else in their bed with them (i'm sure it's not only guys, but i've only heard men complain of it). I often worried about the future, and whether i was gonna end up in one of them relationships with seperate beds. I mean i don't think there's anything wrong with having seperate beds. It's just that since i sleep better when i'm with someone else, it would be pretty depressing i guess.

[Andy C]

I sleep like a log regardles, so I don't mind sharing a bed at all. I have a habit of spreading out like vomit and tend to kick, elbow, knee, poke, snore, headbutt, bum-bash, bundle upon, roll over, slap, palm, shout at, or beat people up with an erection. All without disturbing my slumber. If a wife can put up with that, she's a keeper because I believe sharing a bed is a very fundamental thing when it comes to marriage, lol. The only benefit I can see with having two seperate beds is the wife can't say you're sleeping on the couch tonight.

; )

[Claireapillar]

I sleep like a log regardles, so I don't mind sharing a bed at all. I have a habit of spreading out like vomit and tend to kick, elbow, knee, poke, snore, headbutt, bum-bash, bundle upon, roll over, slap, palm, shout at, or beat people up with an erection. All without disturbing my slumber. If a wife can put up with that, she's a keeper because I believe sharing a bed is a very fundamental thing when it comes to marriage, lol. The only benefit I can see with having two seperate beds is the wife can't say you're sleeping on the couch tonight.

; )

haha good point...yeh you can't say you're sleeping on the couch

you know i think that spreading out all over the place thing is a common thing with military men...my bf is exactly the same. He shouved me out of bed last time. And i literally curl up in a tiny ball right at the edge...so he must have REALLY sprawled lol

[Malarkey]

I sleep like a log regardles, so I don't mind sharing a bed at all. I have a habit of spreading out like vomit and tend to kick, elbow, knee, poke, snore, headbutt, bum-bash, bundle upon, roll over, slap, palm, shout at, or beat people up with an erection. All without disturbing my slumber. If a wife can put up with that, she's a keeper because I believe sharing a bed is a very fundamental thing when it comes to marriage, lol. The only benefit I can see with having two seperate beds is the wife can't say you're sleeping on the couch tonight.

; )

Damn. If only you didn't sleep in a waterbed, I'd think you were quite the catch.

[Tommeh!!!]

Ah i sleep better with anyones company...its really odd...especially when my freinds are like 'yeah i woke up this morning and you were hugging me'...granted they find it funny and i kinda do too underneath the embarassment, but its strange because my most recent ex loved being cuddled up to the point of being asleep....and heaven forbid you touched her when she was asleep; youd be assaulted by a sleeping pissed-off madwoman. This tamed me to the ability of sharing a single bed without moving (apart from the odd mishap here and there) :P
She loved sharing a bed with me, and i was the same, regardless of the fact that i took so much comfort from it and she seemed to hate me without even being conscious (when i told her the way she acted or the things she said, she was mortified and apologised thoroughly)

So yeah, in my books, sharing a bed is fucking awesome....slightly less so if your bed-partner hates being touched. :P

[WastedlittleDj]

I prefer to be with someone, I tend to sleep earlier rather just staying up until a ridiculous time, and I have a better sleep. If I'm on my own and try and sleep takes at least 2 hours.

[Darts]

I don't mind sharing a bed with someone but I can only really sleep comfortably on my side facing the wall, and that can come across as as a bit cold-shoulder. I can't sleep with someone's arm round me if it's underneath my neck because I hate being woken up & I know it'll eventually cause a dead arm... haha.

[Duvets]

I'm quite funny about who I let in my personal space. If it's a close friend or whatever, I don't mind sharing with them at all. I kinda like it.
I've had to share beds with people I don't particularly like, people I barely know, and people I'm completely ambivalent about, and to be honest I don't want to be in the same small space as someone unless I trust them a lot.

[phaggot]

i guess currently i'm only comfortable when it's just me in the room, let alone bed.
but shit changes when you really like a person.

[Andy C]

What's this? Nachu was in lurve once? Inconceivable.

[Tommeh!!!]

maybe it is a sad tale that explains his brutal honesty and blunt attitude? :(

[Andy C]

Hahaha. A sad one indeed. I think you could be right, man.

[Tommeh!!!]

back before his heart was broken he was a quiet and shy young man, lost in his innocence and found that there was no point in telling people 'how it is'....but that....that bitch had to go and hurt him like she did *shakes fist*

...oh hang on, im not jumping the gun here am i?

[Leon]

I don't sleep for long periods of time when I'm by myself usually, probably 5 hours max a night I'd say.

But when I'm sharing the bed with a partner/girl friend I always seem to sleep better, slept for a good 8 hours the other night when I stayed at a friends. I definitely think it's a comfort thing.

[phaggot]

nobody understands me ;' (

[Pinki_1o1]

I think if you do something long enough you'll eventually get used to it. So I'd suck it up, because I don't think I could sleep in the same house as someone I love with them in a different room while knowing the could be next to me.

[little.aimee.jo]

I only sleep better in the same bed as long as there's enough space like 2 in a single = not cool caus i move around a lot and have been known to go from one side to the other of martyn throughout the night when he's in the middle lol and smacked my head on the cupboard once in his single bed xD

Double bed or bigger awh yeah :) i sleep like a baby

[Pinki_1o1]

If the person is taking up my space I usually just push them aside