Help!!!!

[Guest]

Ok, well it all started when this one girl named Myra about her best friend named Tanya and came up and tried to start a fight with me at school. She pushed me 3 times but I never hit her back. I am an EXTREMELY sensitive person and I started crying and told a teacher. Well, Myra got suspended and that was that. The next 3 or 4 days after that, her firends would bump into me, hit my books down, call me names, and make threts. Well after that, the girl that Myra was sticking up for when she tried to beat me up, (Tanya) tried to fight with me and I, once again was a little baby and cried about it and I told the teacher and he had a meeting with me and Tanya and she said that she just thought I was talking crap about her and starting roumers. Well I don't really know these girls at all and I, honest to god, have never said a single word about any one of them. So our princaple told her that it needed to stop. My parents even met with the princaple because it was getting really really bad and I would come home crying. He promised my parents that it would come to an end. So YESTERDAY was when me and Tanya talked with the princaple and she said that it would stop. So this morning I was finnaly happy to come to school and after scool there was a dance and I was going with all of my friends and I was really really excited because my crush was gonna be there and I was hoping to kind of impress him.........well insted of making myself look good in front of him I made myself look like a freakin stupid idiotic baby! Heres why......we were in line to go to the dance and Tanya and this girl named Christina kept giving me dirty looks and I knew somthing was up. So I told my firend Brandi and she said that earlier today Christina had come up to her and some of my other friends and asked if I was going to the dance and my friends said yes and she was all "good because I am going to kick her ass".........now let me tell you about Christina, this girl is HUGE and she isnt afraid to do anything, she could seriously seriously hurt me bad!!!!...............so when I herd this....of course...im sure you can guess....because i am such a baby.... I started crying...UHHHHHHH I HATE MYSELF!!! it was right in front of my crush to!!!!... I was soooo embarresed! so like I always do.... I told a teacher and the girls got in trouble... well now Christina is really really really really mad at me cuz i told on her so I am sooooooooooooooo afraid to go to school on Monday because her and her friends area probly gonna hurt me... BAD!!! And on top of that I look like a complete looser because I cryed and got my parents and alot of other adults involved! I don't even want to know what myra is gonna do to me after she comes back from her suspension!! Im sooo scared!! What do I do when people tease me about crying??? How do I get to the point where I dont cry about this kind of stuff, its really embarrising!?!?! What do I do if those girls try to hurt me??? How do I ever face my friends again?? And even more embarrising....my crush?? My dad is really mad about this because it has happened so many times and now he is getting the poliece involved!!!!!! People are gonna think I am a total freak!! Now, these girls are mexican and like 85% of our school is mexican and all of my friends are hispanic too but we aren't friend witht this girl and he friends and she has ALOT!! And when you piss one of them off, or get one of them in trouble... you piss them all off!! So I am SERIOUSLY afraid of getting my ass beat! How do I deal with all of these issues!?!?!? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!

[Conal]

This sounds like no one is putting their foot down. From square one this should have been stopped and stopped right their and then! You can't let people get to you so easily. I used to be like this... a lot of people are sensitive... but experiences like this will strengthen you in future situations.

First things first. This Tanya sounds like a complete bitch. Do you see her alone somtimes or is she always with friends?

Second. You lay down some authority... You have the right to to be happy within school and school is supposed to be a positive and friendly atmosphere. You need to go into school a.s.a.p and storm into that principals office and say with all your might, " The problem I have had for some time and it is still persisting... Either you sort it out or quit because you are not doing your job correctly!"

If this doesn't sort the situation out you need to go up to that tanya, on your own (Friends around the corner) and confront this bitvh up front. Ask her why she is giving you grief and if she hits you or threatens you, you stand up to her, she can be no bigger than you if you challenge her with affirmity. If you are hit, im afraid you have to defend yourself. Forget school rules, Defend yourself!

Now it sounds like this is in America... God if this was in England and close i would get the whole of Teenage Forums and march into your school and kick some ass (Verbally or physically).

Good luck and Teenage Forums is behind you.

Remember you do not have to follow this advice, you decide...

please get back to us to let us know what happens.

Conal

[qwassymodo]

This sounds appaling... I agree with Conal, you have every right to let loose on the principal who seems to be attempting this half-heartedly. Worst that can happen, she won't like being told that she's doing something wrong, but ultimately it'll be allight for you. Avoid confrontation to start... Acting like THEY do gives you no right to COMPLAIN about what they do. Asking her why she does it is a good way to go; make them face the truth and ignore all the bitchy crap. Why do you hate me? They'll answer and continue getting on their humane side. It's in all of us.
You may want to stop telling as it implies you are afraid (and even if you are, don't let them know it!)
Alternativley.... Get some friends (big ones with muscle) and you let that whorish two dollar hooker know that she's messing with the wrong person. Understand this, dear guest; being coy will only take you so far.
I shold also say that you shold not do something dangerous: you might threat while she might act and do something just awful and painful.
A vague disclaimer's nobodys friend.
Do take care and good luck.